Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 8 February 2011: i am sorry that you don't like the opinion i expressed but you surely know how provocative you are being and indeed you will be waiting for the next bashing.
my advice would be to tell the Australian what you have done instead of keeping it from ... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this dark place???
Q. For just over 4 years I was single. 100% single, no flings, no one night pulls, nothing. But in my 2nd year of uni I met someone from out of uni, and we started seing eachother, but i never wanted to make it official because of a previous ...
A. 30 January 2011: its lovely to hear back from you again and hear that you feel much more positive. it would be great if you can come on here and help others, especially those that are in a similar situation to what you were. coming out of the other end of a bad ... (read in full...)
Why did you even ask?
Q. What brought you to Dear Cupid? Most likely it's because of some problem in your life or relationship. That's how most of us stumbled upon this place. You came here hoping that these anon people on the internet could offer you some insight into ...
A. 26 January 2011: hi dirtball
i'm getting a bit disheartened with this site at the moment, so for the past few days i have just been catching up with follow ups, not getting involved with new questions.
"sometimes, the best medicine is the one that doesn't tast... (read in full...)
I really liked him until I saw his teeth!
Q. there was this guy i went to school with that i had the biggest crush on. through facebook we have been back in touch and so far he seems to be the most humble guy and i like him. i had of course not seen him in years so he came by this past ...
A. 25 January 2011: shocked! you had a lucky escape! it was lucky for you he had the teeth, coz it stopped you wanting to get too involved!
xx... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 25 January 2011: you are really priceless. you dumped the Aussie and never even had the courage to tell her the real reason. is this because you did not want to COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY burn your bridges with her? you wanted her to still love you, even though she ... (read in full...)
Who is being unreasonable in this situation?
Q. I currently own my own condo and moved in with my boyfriend several months ago. My boyfriend also owns his home. Because I currently have a tenant in my condo, I pay my boyfriend $700 per month plus 1/2 the groceries. My tenant's lease is up in a ...
A. 24 January 2011: i agree with Tisha, if the chips were down, and you were in real financial trouble would he be a loving partner and be there for you? i hardly think so, on seeing your updates, if he is such a penny pincher, there is NO WAY he is gonna let you off ... (read in full...)
I have been patient but think it might be time to run.
Q. Ok...so here’s my story. My girlfriend and I were dating for 2 years when we started to have some problems with our relationship. By the end there was so much pushing and pulling we decided to breakup so we could concentrate on our careers. It ...
A. 24 January 2011: ok well that's good news that the two of you can obviously sort problems out. SO, have you spoken to her about the things that are making you feel like you should walk this time round?
xx... (read in full...)
I have been patient but think it might be time to run.
Q. Ok...so here’s my story. My girlfriend and I were dating for 2 years when we started to have some problems with our relationship. By the end there was so much pushing and pulling we decided to breakup so we could concentrate on our careers. It ...
A. 24 January 2011: ok, she needs to stop mentioning this other man to you. what is the purpose of doing that do you think? and also, the problems that you say the relationship developed after the 2 year mark, are these resolved now or not?
xx ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a sex buddy all the time?
Q. Hey everybody. I have a question; Is it so wrong to have a sex buddie? I mean I'm 19, I'm young I only had sex with 2 guys and the last time I had sex with my last sex buddie was almost 8 months ago. And yes I'm horny I never really like a guy befo...
A. 24 January 2011: :) no your not rude! (damn damn damn!!! made me laugh)
if you want a boyfriend, you really need to make the man wait, i know it sounds silly, but its just the way things are (in most cases) if a man gets to sleep with you on the first night be... (read in full...)
I do not believe I will ever fall in love again. It scares me.
Q. I was wondering If i could get some people's opininons on here about my current situation. I just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship of five years a couple of months ago, and i cant seem to get back up. I have no feelings for him anymore ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
have you looked into post traumatic stress disorder? maybe you should be getting therapy that deals with that, not just counselling where you are listened to but not really given a way out of the feelings.
you have only been away from hi... (read in full...)
Why are my friends trying to push me and one of my guy friends together?
Q. Dear Cupid, Why are my friends trying to push me and one of my guy friends together? We are both university students and I have to admit there is chemistry there... he likes me but doesn't want to sabotage his degree and vice versa. The on...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
god how embarrassing! tell them you are pissed off with them matchmaking like this. they are not respecting your wishes and they need to keep out of your business. you are a big girl now, and you don't need your mates pushing you and this... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to fall in love... but I don't!
Q. I have some really good friends at college even though I only started last year. We always talk and study and pretty much spend the whole day together. A few weeks ago I said to them that I thought one of the guys we see around is really fit and ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
i think she just wants you both to talk about boys together, her intentions are probably good but yes its annoying. i have this ex who lives in the same town as a friend of mine, and all the time my friend tries to tell me that she has seen... (read in full...)
Should I do something for him for Valentine's day, or will it just make me look desperate?
Q. Im 18 years old i went out with this guy for a bit over the summer i liked him a hell of a lot but he ended what we had just before we both went back to the same college, i still really really like him but im not sure if he still likes me because we ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
its up to you hun, but i wouldn't. he has not even remained on speaking terms with you so it seems like he is not interested. you may end up regretting it if you give him something and it is not welcome. valentines is a few weeks away, betw... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about the condom breaking?
Q. My girlfriend is on the pill. She was prescribed it for acne reasons around 6 months ago but kept at it now that we're active. I use a condom every time as well, but I feel like kind of whimp for doing so. A spermicide lubricated condom broke the ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
stop worrying! as long as she takes it as prescribed the pill has a VERY LOW failure rate. the combined pill(oestrogen and progesterone) is more successful than the 'mini pill'or POP (progesterone only pill)
ask her to let you read the lea... (read in full...)
I have been patient but think it might be time to run.
Q. Ok...so here’s my story. My girlfriend and I were dating for 2 years when we started to have some problems with our relationship. By the end there was so much pushing and pulling we decided to breakup so we could concentrate on our careers. It ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
if she still hasn't got a job, then the break up was a waste of time wasn't it and all that has happened is that she got the opportunity to get sex from another guy.
you went away and did something constructive with your life, she did some... (read in full...)
What should I do? What is he trying to do?
Q. ive been in a very bad situation n dont khow what to do... ...me and my bf were sitting and talking when he said "would you mind if i tell you somdthing?" and i was like, "say it" and then he told me he likes another beautiful girl ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
i don't think you should get back with him. he dumped you because he wanted someone else. he has probably gone and asked her and she said no, so he has come crawling back to you.
have more respect for yourself. you will meet someone else... (read in full...)
Who is being unreasonable in this situation?
Q. I currently own my own condo and moved in with my boyfriend several months ago. My boyfriend also owns his home. Because I currently have a tenant in my condo, I pay my boyfriend $700 per month plus 1/2 the groceries. My tenant's lease is up in a ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
if he refuses to support you, you might as well move out and go back living in your own condo! why not ask him to 'compromise' with you and set a time limit on how much time he will let excuse you from paying him the usual amount? that way he c... (read in full...)
I do want to be with him but there's no trust due to her getting pregnant and him leaving me again.
Q. Please dont judge! I need advice! My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. We broke up for about 2 months from April-June last year and he started talking to this girl, I always believed in if you love something let it ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
when he got back with her and he was 'talking' to you what do you mean 'talking'?? was he trying to get back with you, even though he was with her (without telling you) if so, this shows that he is dishonest. i am sorry but i do not beli... (read in full...)
I really liked him until I saw his teeth!
Q. there was this guy i went to school with that i had the biggest crush on. through facebook we have been back in touch and so far he seems to be the most humble guy and i like him. i had of course not seen him in years so he came by this past ...
A. 24 January 2011: aw, poor bloke, and i thought all Americans had great teeth? maybe i watch too much t.v. what your saying DOES sound a bit shallow yes BUT look, we cannot fancy/be attracted to everyone we meet, even if they are a lovely person. lets be real.
... (read in full...)
Why cant one of the twins find a man yet the other has guys falling at her feet? They are basically the same person!
Q. Ok so last night we had a big discussion on this topic and we would like to get other opinions ... You can be honest we need answers !! Ok here we go .. We have a two good friend there twins .. Twin A is a nice girl very funny loves sports . She ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
they don't sound anything like the same person! they sound to me the total opposite of each other. i think the blonde finds it harder to get a man because she is overweight. shallow and sad - but true - i know this because i have had fluc... (read in full...)
Husband needs the aid of porn to have sex with me
Q. Why when my husband and I have sex we always have to have porn on. When it is not on and we are kissing sometimes he gets on hard, but most of the time he is soft until we have porn on every night. We were apart for almost 2yrs and he said this...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
he has given himself a sexual disorder. if he cannot perform without the aid of porn this is a PROBLEM (what would he do in the event of an electricity failure? - he'd be rendered useless)
he is in turn though gonna give YOU a problem! thi... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents that I masturbate???
Q. I am 13, and I masturbate. No one knows about it and I don't know what to do about it. How do I tell my parents??? Should I tell my parents??? ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
just carry on doing what your doing, enjoy it, this is the ONE thing you don't have to tell your parents about :)
xx... (read in full...)
Facebook use by my husband is destroying our marriage. What can I do to fix this problem?
Q. I found out a week ago that my husband of 16 years has been comunicating with Facebook Poker young women, that look, well..."slutty", he doesn't know them, in fact, some are not even American. Some of the things that I saw that he wrote to these ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
how would you husband feel if you were doing the same?
if he would be angry its coz he knows its wrong AND he is a hypocrite.
if he is ok about it, that means he doesn't give s**t what you do.
either way, this ain't right. tell him ... (read in full...)
My wife contributes very little to our relationship
Q. My wife and I have been married for two years and I'm worried about our future because she contributes very little to our relationship. I bring in 100% of the money (I'm putting her through college), but in return she doesn't clean, cook, take ...
A. 24 January 2011: do you think then in that case it might be a good idea to draw up a list of house hold chores and a cooking rota, with her agreement and stick to it? if there is something down on paper it might help you both stay a bit more organised, it sounds at ... (read in full...)
Are we fixable?
Q. Hey everyone I hope someone has the time and heart to help me. I've looked for advice everywhere and never an answer no matter what website I've gone on. Here it goes: well i've been with my fiancé for 2 years now. We have a 4 month old daught...
A. 24 January 2011: like i said in my previous post, make a list of his good and bad points to help you decide. and if you decide to split from him, keep the list and read it back to yourself as often as you need to (ie: when you are feeling lonely, when you doubt you ... (read in full...)
My faith in him is broken... I need your help!
Q. My heart is torn. The issue is i been married for five years separated for a year and a couple of months. Well my husband was having issues with keeping a job and had depression. He does smoke weed and started experimenting with Ecstasy. He slowly ...
A. 24 January 2011: i don't understand why you went back to him. from your first post it sounded like you went back because he is your daughters dad but now you tell us that your boyfriend is more caring to her than her own dad! sounds like your ex suddenly wanted you ... (read in full...)
Do I end it with my gf and also hurt my two children? or end it with the girl I feel is my soul mate?
Q. Hello wise people, I did something I thought I would never do. I had an affair. Now before anyone goes tut, that was me, before it happened. I met this amazing girl at my girlfriend's work. We clicked from day one and it was at first, just the ...
A. 24 January 2011: thanks for the update, sometimes we can get involved with the wrong person you're right, BUT you were with GF for 10 years and happy enough with her to start a family, and stay with her - 'warts n all' until A comes on the scene! i am not trying to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't trust me...
Q. My boyfriend doesn't trust me because of who i was 8 months ago. I used to unintentionally 'flirt' with guys. To me it wasn't flirting but it came off that way. I met my boyfriend and we started dating and i completely stopped all of that because he ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
stop being so soft, that's what you can do! do not let anyone tell you you can't have facebook, especially if he has it and talks to girls! you pay for him most of the time? you buy him things when he wants them? you don't talk to guys any more... (read in full...)
Do I end it with my gf and also hurt my two children? or end it with the girl I feel is my soul mate?
Q. Hello wise people, I did something I thought I would never do. I had an affair. Now before anyone goes tut, that was me, before it happened. I met this amazing girl at my girlfriend's work. We clicked from day one and it was at first, just the ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
you say you love this other girl (more than your girlfriend?) but be careful: all you know of this girl is from the sneaky texts, calls, snatched little moments of time, sex. you do not know what it would be like to live an ordinary day to day ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a sex buddy all the time?
Q. Hey everybody. I have a question; Is it so wrong to have a sex buddie? I mean I'm 19, I'm young I only had sex with 2 guys and the last time I had sex with my last sex buddie was almost 8 months ago. And yes I'm horny I never really like a guy befo...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
sex buddies can be fun for some people but very bad and damaging to others. the worst cases are i think when someone is ideally looking for a committed partner and is so needy that when someone comes along and they just want f**kbuddyship, they... (read in full...)
I pushed my fiancee into having a boob job and now I regret it
Q. I'll probably get criticised for this............... I always had a thing about boob jobs on women n although my fiancee had nice size breasts and a fantastic figure i constantly went on to her about wanting her to have one. Stupid i know. ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
you are right, you are completely and utterly the architect of this. all you can do now is learn to trust this new person. if you end up splitting up and you both meet new partners; i am sure you have learned your lesson about not pushing a woma... (read in full...)
I'm out of his league...Should I care what others think?
Q. I just need to make sure I'm thinking clearly. I'm engaged to a wonderful man who treats me like a princess. He loves me and I love him. Our sex life is good. He's financially stable, (6 figure job, house in the right neighborhood, car, he has no ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
this is a case of someone with a high IQ not having much sense! (no offence intended! :) look if you are happy with him, he is a great bloke and you get on well, he is faithful, he is not mean to you, doesn't beat you up, is kind enough to look... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid that she may cheat!
Q. I am 18 years old, and have lately got engaged to a 16 year old. We have such high hopes for the future, and I love her to death, literally. Obviously, there are problems. I am trying to become a tennis player, and that obviously requires my full ...
A. 24 January 2011: you sound very stressed at the moment and when people are stressed a symptom of this is mistrust! yes you want to be with her - you have got her already, so just chill out. you are trying too hard, you know that don't you? and you are putting lots ... (read in full...)
On short notice he says he's coming to town and I turned him down. Now he's upset!
Q. I haven't seen this guy in a couple of years, we didn't "talk" (meaning email) for months and all of a sudden he says he's coming to town and was wondering if he can see me. I got annoyed at the short notice and said no, now he hasn't spoken to ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
i don't think you have any reason to feel bad. you didn't have any contact for months but then just because he happens to be coming to town he expects you to drop everything and see him? the fact that he is sulking that you said no and he coul... (read in full...)
Girlfriend isn't trying to communicate with me, should I just give up?
Q. ok so Tuesday night my girlfriend was supposed to come over after i got off work, she also told me she was coming. when i got off she told me she was too tired, i got madd cuz i really wanted to see her and i cussed her out. the next day i ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
have you been with her long or are you still getting to know each other? she may just not want to see you or text you as often as you do with her, like she still wants to take things a bit slower than you do, or she may be truthful in sayi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watching porn, says he doesn't care if I break up with him or not
Q. Ok, I recently found out that my boyfriend has been going on this website called [name removed but suggests pictures with no clothes on]... ALL THE TIME!. He wont reply to my texts, he doesn't talk to me, i feel like he has emotionally with...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
it sounds as though he may not actively be trying to get out but he is happy to let the relationship slide until you decide you have totally had enough and you dump him. this is cowardly. he wants out but he wants you to end it.
he is not... (read in full...)
We have an open relationship but he says he hasn't been with anyone else. Should I trust him?
Q. I was with this guy since this time last year. After being together for 7 months, he moved to my home country in Asia for a new job. I visited him after 1.5 months and he told me he's very attracted to Asian women and found difficult to resist the ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
this is your health you are talking about and you don't trust what he says about not being with further women since last time he was tested. never ignore your instincts.
take plenty of condoms with you, he doesn't like them? - well that's ... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid that she may cheat!
Q. I am 18 years old, and have lately got engaged to a 16 year old. We have such high hopes for the future, and I love her to death, literally. Obviously, there are problems. I am trying to become a tennis player, and that obviously requires my full ...
A. 24 January 2011: hi
usually unfounded jealousy is caused by lack of confidence in yourself. you have this belief that really you are not good enough to have someone be faithful to you. you need to brush up on your self esteem and start to see that she is with... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this dark place???
Q. For just over 4 years I was single. 100% single, no flings, no one night pulls, nothing. But in my 2nd year of uni I met someone from out of uni, and we started seing eachother, but i never wanted to make it official because of a previous ...
A. 23 January 2011: hi
you have unfortunately met a player and him being the next man you put any trust in after your nasty ex, i understand how you feel. all you can do is keep telling yourself that the way these men treated you was NOT your fault. you were nice... (read in full...)
My faith in him is broken... I need your help!
Q. My heart is torn. The issue is i been married for five years separated for a year and a couple of months. Well my husband was having issues with keeping a job and had depression. He does smoke weed and started experimenting with Ecstasy. He slowly ...
A. 23 January 2011: hi
do not live with him until he has successfully kicked the drugs. if he has you back where he wants you it will be too easy for him to carry on the way he has been doing in the past. why has he lost his job? how did you feel when you had spli... (read in full...)
Should I make her Miss Right even though she doesn't challenge my mind?
Q. Dear everyone i would like to hear your honest inputs on this statement. i alway wanted to settle for a smart intelligent lady, someone who would challenge me thoughtfully until i met nally she is my current girlfriend now and i love her so very ...
A. 23 January 2011: hi
if you stay with her you may end up bored if her conversations and ideas are not up to the level that you require.
she may not be academically clever but she may have lots of sense and be clever with things in life that matter. you say you ... (read in full...)
Are we fixable?
Q. Hey everyone I hope someone has the time and heart to help me. I've looked for advice everywhere and never an answer no matter what website I've gone on. Here it goes: well i've been with my fiancé for 2 years now. We have a 4 month old daught...
A. 23 January 2011: hi
i think you need to make a list of all his good and bad points as a person and the way he makes you feel. then decide if he is good for you or bad for you. a lot has gone on hasn't it in the past and you don't seem to have worked through thes... (read in full...)
How do I successfully ride my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend loves it when I ride him but after a month I still don't really know what to do. I have trouble keeping a rhythm up. He tells me to lead and he'll follow along, but I always end up losing it and having to pull myself out of the moment ...
A. 23 January 2011: hi
hard to explain the mechanics of this! watch some porn, it can help if he holds your hips and helps to move you up and down, if you are getting tired is this because you might be a bit overweight or unfit? it is a strenuous thing to do so you ... (read in full...)
My wife contributes very little to our relationship
Q. My wife and I have been married for two years and I'm worried about our future because she contributes very little to our relationship. I bring in 100% of the money (I'm putting her through college), but in return she doesn't clean, cook, take ...
A. 23 January 2011: hi
has she always been lazy? she sounds depressed. take her somewhere different and try to talk to her and get her to open up about her feelings. college might be getting her down/stressing her out, she may feel miserable because she is not earn... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 12 January 2011: you may think that all your problems will be over as soon as Latvian gets an abortion, but a word of caution: just a thought: i don't think this situation will actually just simply die down with the death of the baby and you will be able to settle ... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
you need to grow up, for your own sake. when Australian and you have probs you admit that she apologises 'even when it is not her fault' why is that? you have asked all your friends for their opinions, but it seems they are not giving you the ... (read in full...)
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