I love him but I don't know if he's trying to reconcile with his wife?
Q. Ok, I never thought I would be in love with a married man, and thats not what we both were looking for when we met again after 24 years. And it was just like magic looking in his eyes for the first time again. When we met he was actually separated ...
A. 8 January 2011: so the divorce has gone through and its not been the magic spell that you thought it would be? it is fair enough that he does not want to get so involved with you yet you know? i mean how would you feel if you were married to someone and then he ... (read in full...)
I told my FWB I love him and now he is ignoring me.
Q. I have been friends with benefits with the same guy for over a year with the exception of one month when I tried being in a relationship. I have had feeling with the guy for a long time now and he has known about them. Last night I brought up the ...
A. 6 January 2011: what a swine! i can understand why you're upset! i suppose it just maybe boils down the fact that we can't love everyone we meet, no matter how hard they wish for us to, in the future you will probably meet someone that feels more for you than you ... (read in full...)
I told my FWB I love him and now he is ignoring me.
Q. I have been friends with benefits with the same guy for over a year with the exception of one month when I tried being in a relationship. I have had feeling with the guy for a long time now and he has known about them. Last night I brought up the ...
A. 5 January 2011: gosh, erm, he's a mystery isn't he? the only reason i can think of is that after his last relationship hurting him he is scared to get involved too much again (but he is already very involved with you!) six months is not a mega-long time after the ... (read in full...)
I told my FWB I love him and now he is ignoring me.
Q. I have been friends with benefits with the same guy for over a year with the exception of one month when I tried being in a relationship. I have had feeling with the guy for a long time now and he has known about them. Last night I brought up the ...
A. 4 January 2011: hey sorry, hope i've not offended you with what i said, its just that in most cases it seems like its the mans idea to be FWB and the woman will just go along with it, and then realises she is emotionally hooked and wants more. i'm a bit confused ... (read in full...)
He talks about sex all day but just goes to sleep when the lights are out.
Q. My bf talks about having sex with me all day but when it's lights out he just falls asleep. Why?...
A. 4 January 2011: it should be a two way street, not him expecting you to start it every time. he sounds like he's got a low sex drive, how old is is? do you think he could be stressed or depressed even? it could even have an underlying medical cause so he should ... (read in full...)
He talks about sex all day but just goes to sleep when the lights are out.
Q. My bf talks about having sex with me all day but when it's lights out he just falls asleep. Why?...
A. 30 December 2010: hi
do it with the lights on then ;) seriously though have you asked him why he behaves like this? it definitely doesn't sound right. does he drink alcohol or take any drugs that would make him sleepy in the evening? is he on any prescription medi... (read in full...)
Do we have a future? He won't get a divorce.
Q. im 21, he's 28. we're coworkers at a restaurant. ever since he first kissed me out of nowhere a year and a half ago, we've been making out, texting, even hanging out when we can outside of work. we never hooked up. hes not pressuring me at all, im a ...
A. 30 December 2010: hi
you say your not in a committed relationship but you sound to me as if your committed to him! so you should be able to ask him a few things such as why he still lives with her? is it for financial reasons or is there still something more? i woul... (read in full...)
After you break up, should you get rid of any gifts?
Q. I have two questions. When you break up with a boyfriend, especially when it was a serious relationship, do you trash/give back gifts, or anything that reminds you of him? And by getting rid of those things, does it make you get over him faster, ...
A. 30 December 2010: hi
i would suggest that if it hurts you at the moment to see the gifts, quickly put them in a box and put them somewhere that you wont see them (attic, spare room etc) you can decide what to do with them in the future when you are not feeling as r... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for the ex drama to calm down?
Q. Recently I started hanging out and getting to know a co worker. Everything is going great between us, but they are having issues with their ex (3 kids together). My question is how long would be a fair time to give them to take care of the ex i...
A. 30 December 2010: hi
no straight answer to this. you'll just have to wait and see. it'll take as long as it takes for things to calm down. in the meantime its good to see that neither of you want to rush into a relationship. before you start a relationship you ... (read in full...)
Does he really want to be my friend or is he messing with me?
Q. My ex texted me that he missed me. He then called and said that he wanted to see me and that he wishes that we could be friends like before. How should I take this? Back story: We were together for about six months and then had a mutual bre...
A. 30 December 2010: hi
if you still enjoy his company be his friend. if he steps over the line and keeps trying to be affectionate and it ain't what you want, stop him, like you have been doing. he can either accept the friendship on your terms or he can stop bein... (read in full...)
How can I meet his friends and not get all self conscious?
Q. I am 18, dating a man that is 34. I am in love, and don't see age as a problem here. Our relationship has almost been two years now. He wants me to meet his friends, yet all of them seem to look at age, rather than at me. I am a shy person as it is, ...
A. 30 December 2010: hi
just be yourself when you meet them. your boyfriend loves the person you are so don't try to change. if his friends are the sort of people like you say who judge people by age, they are probably expecting to be introduced to a mouthy teen... (read in full...)
I want her to try for us, but not because she feels sorry for me
Q. I met my soul mate my love on the internet bleive it or not we clicked right away she has three beautiful great kids i love them as much as lets call my girlfriend teena well she was honest from the beginning first argument was pretty dumb but i did ...
A. 30 December 2010: hi
well she has agreed to give things another chance so all you can do now is do your best and look honestly at your behaviour before you split up to see if there is anything you could improve about youself and how you handled things. all you can ... (read in full...)
Is knowing he will never be there emotionally when I need him the most enough to leave?
Q. My husband is in the military and has been gone for the majority of the year. He was only back for a couple of weeks when I had gotten a hysterectomy. We have 4 children and he has been great helping out while I recover the problem is he is working ...
A. 29 December 2010: hi
do you think maybe he is one of these people who are uncomfortable with illnesses etc? maybe he feels like he doesnt know what to say, maybe he feels like because he cannot do anything to help you post-operatively that he feels useless and he u... (read in full...)
My best friend and I like the same guy
Q. I met this guy at a birthday party and I liked him immediately! Later I found out that my best friend really likes him as well, eventhough she never really talks to him. Me and him became friends right away and had fun, which made her mad. Later me...
A. 29 December 2010: hi
this doesnt sound like much of a best friend if she has chosen to spend new years eve with a guy that she hardly talks to rather than spend it with you as planned! you have done a nice thing for her by backing away from him and telling him you ... (read in full...)
I told my FWB I love him and now he is ignoring me.
Q. I have been friends with benefits with the same guy for over a year with the exception of one month when I tried being in a relationship. I have had feeling with the guy for a long time now and he has known about them. Last night I brought up the ...
A. 29 December 2010: hi
yes i am with dirtball on this. did you go into this in the hope that he would change his mind and grow to want you as a real girlfriend? your just gonna have to accept that this is still not want he wants. are you his only FWB or does he h... (read in full...)
I love him but I don't know if he's trying to reconcile with his wife?
Q. Ok, I never thought I would be in love with a married man, and thats not what we both were looking for when we met again after 24 years. And it was just like magic looking in his eyes for the first time again. When we met he was actually separated ...
A. 29 December 2010: hi
its a shame that you have fallen in love with him so much coz he is too entangled in marriage / ex(?)marriage. both of them i think are confused about what they want and he has involved you in this mess too. he has been seeing you for a year... (read in full...)
My dad is very ill and I want to break up with my boyfriend. Finding this incredibly stressful!
Q. I am a relatively high stress person. It's kind of in my nature, it's how I deal with things. If I were to asess myself, I'd say that I'm more stressed out than the average person, but still functional, able to have fun and let loose. I am a ton of ...
A. 29 December 2010: :( i'm so sorry to hear that! maybe he isnt worth knowing after all if he can do that while he knows what your going through with you dad and that this time of year also can be very tough when you got a seriously ill loved one. i hope you can move ... (read in full...)
Should we go back to a committed relationship?
Q. I'm now in an open long-distance relationship with this guy. We used to be in a close distance committed relationship for 7 months but after he moved to Asia for a new job, he admitted that he felt too hard to stay committed as he felt like a kid in ...
A. 29 December 2010: hi he has been honest with you in the past so i think that if he did sleep with someone else he would probably be honest about it to you. you say keep 'keep emotionally connected but physically free' i think this is easier said than done! when you... (read in full...)
I wonder if I should have broken up with him.
Q. I just broke up with my man after 6.5 years together. We are both gay. I'm still pretty raw over it. I'm not sure who was at fault me or him. I do know that drink had alot to do with it. He has found a new friend and lifestyle which no longer ...
A. 29 December 2010: hi had you both tried to talk about the issues that were driving you apart before you actually split up? try to arrange to discuss things properly, with no alcohol involved. i assume the drinking is him, not you? if you manage to arrange this mee... (read in full...)
Is my Fetish too Weird?
Q. this may seem weird but i'm 20 and a virgin. When i masturbate i like to wear girls panties. Is this a really weird thing to do? should i be really embarrased by this and learn to stop doing it?...
A. 29 December 2010: hi this is probably not something that will please future partners to know (sorry, just basing this statement on myself and my friends opinion on this) is doing it this way the only way that gets you off? if so, you need to be careful that thi... (read in full...)
Why did he want to know if I was a virgin?
Q. I met this guy who is in the same program as me in my university He is really nice and always gives me advice. I like him and I think he likes me too, because he tells me why a nice girl like me doesn't have a boyfriend. we text each other ...
A. 29 December 2010: hi a couple of reasons why he asked you this..1 he is looking to sleep with a virgin. this is treated almost like a trophy for some men. 2 he is looking to sleep with a virgin because he only wants to sleep with 'pure' girls (although he may not ... (read in full...)
We want different things, but make each other happy now.
Q. We have been dating for about 2 years now,and recently whenever im with him,i started to feel wrong,yet i feel comfortable and safe everytime he's around.i love him,yes.he love me,yes he do.much more than me i think.he care me about me,pampering ...
A. 29 December 2010: hi
:) i feel sorry for men sometimes! us women can be difficult creatures for them to understand cant we? i get what your saying i think, you want him to be more of a man? he's too 'nice'? its a mad fact that nice men often don't 'do it' for wome... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is married to her job and we split because of it. Can I win her back?
Q. I met her in the summer through mutual friends of ours, a married couple that she's been living with for around a year since she split with a long term ex. We hit it off straight away and after some texting we met up for a drink and things moved on ...
A. 29 December 2010: hi kid
i think that your friends and the girl herself are doing their best to let you down as tactfully as they can but reading between the lines, it just seems that for whatever reason, the girl is just not into you, maybe just something as simp... (read in full...)
Married for 16 years, if I met husband now I wouldn't give him a second thought!
Q. I have been with my husband since I was 16. Now that I am 32 I find myself to have grown apart from him. We are different people with different likes and dislikes. If we were to meet now I wouldn't give him a second thought. We have 3 kids together ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
i am glad he is getting help for his drinking. does part of you feel doubtful that his AA counselling will work? do you feel he would be a great husband to you if only he didnt drink? do you resent him for the things he has said to you in t... (read in full...)
I've had 8 sex partners and only one has been able to make me have an orgasm
Q. Hi guys. Ive got a really irritating and quite embarrassing problem! Im 18 years old and ive been sexually active now for a little ovet 3 years. My first sexual boyfriend and i had an amazing sex life. Everytime was special and we tried everything. ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
maybe you are not as relaxed and comfortable with these other guys? you said that it was always special with the first boyfriend. was the relationship as a whole more special and felt more right than with these later boyfriends? why did you ... (read in full...)
Is it ever possible to stop loving someone?
Q. I'm out at school and everyones completely cool with it , by there is a girl I have liked for like two years now it's heartbreaking seeing her with guys that just continuously screw her over and break her heart, I know I would never do that , but I ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
friendships are so important and nice for us to have. but i think that maybe when you are in love with someone secretly or you love them but they dont love you back would make a close friendship a bit difficult, for instance, you might be told... (read in full...)
My fiancé changed his character 5 days before the wedding!
Q. Hi guys, I'm revisiting this website after yet another abusive relationship that has ended in tears. Sorry if this drags on a bit! I initiated the break-up of my engagement last week (just before Xmas!!) after my fiancé flipped whilst he was ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
do you blame the drugs for his personality problems? you may not feel like this now but by calling off the wedding he has actually done you a big favour, even if it is just a case of having a bit of time to sort out these problems. i would drop... (read in full...)
His needs come before mine!
Q. I been with my fiance' for over 2 years.but we have 1 big problem.He loves to receive oral sex,and hand jobs.but he will not give oral sex nor will he pleasure me with his fingers.he claims lots of men dislike it.I try to explain to him that ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
what a selfish bugger! i suggest you stop giving him hand and blow jobs and then he will see first hand (pardon the pun!) what you have been trying to tell him. he should want to please you just the same as you obviously like doing all you can ... (read in full...)
We want different things, but make each other happy now.
Q. We have been dating for about 2 years now,and recently whenever im with him,i started to feel wrong,yet i feel comfortable and safe everytime he's around.i love him,yes.he love me,yes he do.much more than me i think.he care me about me,pampering ...
A. 28 December 2010: it sounds as though he genuinely loves you so much that he will agree to let you go, have your freedom, travel and then he hopes that once that is out of your system you will be happy to go along with what he wants (marriage and a future with him) h... (read in full...)
Why can't I talk to girls?
Q. i feel difficult to communicate with the girls. I used to talk and play with girls when i was small. Those girls grew up and now they are big. They have all the qualities what i wish to have in a girl. I feel to have sex with them. But i couldnt ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
this must be difficult for you now that you notice girls as sexual beings rather than just 'people'. do you feel confident to speak to girls that you dont find attractive? make this a good habit to get into. practice on them enough so that... (read in full...)
How do I let him down without hurting his feelings?
Q. What do I do when 2 guys are fighting over me? They are both cute but they hate each other. D and I have been friends for two years and he's moving next year. F and I have dated 3 times before and even though we are not dating now, he still tells me ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
just be honest. make sure you dont make them feel as if you are playing them against each other. make a choice based on how you feel and which boy treats you best, not the one your friends say you should go out with. as long you are nice to t... (read in full...)
We want different things, but make each other happy now.
Q. We have been dating for about 2 years now,and recently whenever im with him,i started to feel wrong,yet i feel comfortable and safe everytime he's around.i love him,yes.he love me,yes he do.much more than me i think.he care me about me,pampering ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi this sounds like a lovely relationship! does he know that you want to go travelling? would it be something he would consider doing with you? would he be happy to wait for you to come back and then maybe marry? and would that be what you want... (read in full...)
I like my friend's brother.
Q. I'm 13 and I can't get over my friends brother. He is one grade level younger than me but he's 13 too because his birthday is in September. My friend doesn't know I like him. My friend and I aren't BFFs but we aren't just friendly. At least 5 times ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi do you talk to this boy? be friendly with him first and see if anything develops xx... (read in full...)
We love each other, but should we start something long distance?
Q. Okay, so irecently moved from NewYork to Florida. While iwas in NewYork, imet this guy. We instantly clicked, and he is now one of the two people who ireally trust. He is the first guy iever fell in love with, and he has fallen for me too. We had a ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi i think keep in touch as much as you can. if you get too emotionally involved though you will need accept the following things.. maybe trust issues and insecurity and missing each other lots. depending on both your personalities you may find... (read in full...)
Is dating online safe for a teen girl?
Q. I am a 14 year old girl and want to date online but is it unsafe to date online please help...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
i agree with these people. even seasoned adults face risks when they get involved in online (or even real life!) dating. at your age i just do not think you are experienced enough to deal with the sort of people that may be using these site... (read in full...)
What to do about an overly clingy selfish girlfriend?
Q. I am a male and I have returned to my home country to visit my family. Throughout my relationship with my girlfriend she has constantly grown more clingy and selfish. She gets annoyed when I tell my family that i love them. She doesnt like me ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
she sounds like she has got MAJOR insecurity issues. do you want to be with her? does she have good points also? weigh up the good and the bad qualities and then make your descision. the things you have told us about her are NOT normal beha... (read in full...)
Anything I do for him is not enough for him. Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I finally took the step to move in together. We've been together for almost 5 years. We've had our ups and downs....but for the past couple years, I have really felt like he won't ever commit to me. He says that he even...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
you need to come to an agreement about the way your house is managed regarding chores and financially. write down what you expect from each other. give each other your lists to peruse and discuss and agree on something that is fair for both... (read in full...)
He lies about smoking weed!
Q. Hi.. I have this problem with my boyfriend... He constantly lies to me about weed. I am so against it and i tried to forbid him of using it.. He always hangs out with his friend that smoke weed, and he claims that he does not. I convinced him that ...
A. 28 December 2010: hi
he's bound to lie to you about this coz he thinks it'll give him an easier life. this weed thing is obviously a big issue for you, you're asking him to change this but he doesnt seem to want to. how long have you been with him? if he does... (read in full...)
I do all the housework and he refuses to contribute or help.
Q. I don't know what to do. I am in a relationship with a guy who is a year younger than me. He moved in with me three months ago (after online dating for two--I know it was a little soon...) I'm starting to get second thoughts about continuing a ...
A. 27 December 2010: hi
have you told him how you feel about this? he has only lived with you for three months so he should still be on his best behaviour. if he is like this now whats he gonna be like later on?? i think you should stop doing stuff that he 'exp... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is married to her job and we split because of it. Can I win her back?
Q. I met her in the summer through mutual friends of ours, a married couple that she's been living with for around a year since she split with a long term ex. We hit it off straight away and after some texting we met up for a drink and things moved on ...
A. 27 December 2010: hi
you only split with this girl in november so its still obvously raw for you, thats to be expected. you are doing the right thing keeping you options open. who knows how she might feel in the future. she may either be flattered that you stil... (read in full...)
I never got to tell him how I feel!
Q. I really like this boy i've know him for a year but i don't know how he feels about me. Not to long ago he move an hour away and we haven't talk but i still like him so much. We use to talk all the time and he wouldn't really talk to anyother girl ...
A. 27 December 2010: please try not to be nervous. remember at school he was happy to be your friend and have your attention then wasnt he so i'm betting he would be delighted to hear from you now. who knows, he might be longing to contact you but now he feels too shy! ... (read in full...)
Another WHAT TO DO WITH MY EX Question... I'm so very perplexed and confused..
Q. the Hyphens help me to use less detail with each point, but its still pretty long. Here goes the story: -Ex and I together for 1 year and 2 months, days shy of 15 months PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. Promised a lot of things to each other during the...
A. 27 December 2010: i am so glad you are feeling better about this now. its true what they say, time is a great healer! :) and now that you have been through this experience of having your heart broken it stands you in good stead to deal with any future heartaches you ... (read in full...)
Am I dealing with a sociopath?
Q. First, to anyone who may read this I hope your holidays are going great...also want to thank everyone who answered my question last week regarding the same person...it was very very helpful. My question now is am I dealing with a true sociopath...
A. 26 December 2010: hi i hope you don't let this woman get you back, as i am sure she'll try to, when she wants someone's feelings to play around with again. Does it matter if she is a sociopath or not? Will giving her a label make any difference really? i am very ... (read in full...)
What's he trying to accomplish with his stealth campaign?
Q. My ex bf was the center of my universe and he knew it. Most times I felt like a yoyo from emotional ups and downs. He did everything that you could imagine under the sun to mess me about. At the ende of the day he broke up with me by text. Yes I did ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
well he needs to grow up doesnt he? he enjoyed messing around with your feelings when you were with him and then enjoyed seeing you suffer while you begged him to come back to you and then when you stopped he has started to do this coz he didn... (read in full...)
His flirting games are getting the best of me! Advice?
Q. My bf is trying to make me jealous but i dont know what he gets by doing that. he is a natural flirt and keeps saying that he is faithful but also likes to flirt with other girls and that i shouldn't get mad. he hates jealousy so i must shut up. he ...
A. 26 December 2010: you are not happy with him flirting but he wants to carry on. this is a big issue to have such a difference of opinion on. you both want each other to change so i think there is not a future with him, not a peaceful one anyway.
good on you for keep... (read in full...)
I want her to try for us, but not because she feels sorry for me
Q. I met my soul mate my love on the internet bleive it or not we clicked right away she has three beautiful great kids i love them as much as lets call my girlfriend teena well she was honest from the beginning first argument was pretty dumb but i did ...
A. 26 December 2010: this sounds very messed up! too much trouble in the world already without arguing and fighting with people we say we love. talk to each other and make an agreement that next time you feel things are developing into a silly argument, take a breath, ... (read in full...)
I never got to tell him how I feel!
Q. I really like this boy i've know him for a year but i don't know how he feels about me. Not to long ago he move an hour away and we haven't talk but i still like him so much. We use to talk all the time and he wouldn't really talk to anyother girl ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
do you still have his contact details? if so send him message or call him to say hi, ask him how he is settling in his new place, tell him you'd love to get together for a coffee or something if he is back in your town again. just keep it frie... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is married to her job and we split because of it. Can I win her back?
Q. I met her in the summer through mutual friends of ours, a married couple that she's been living with for around a year since she split with a long term ex. We hit it off straight away and after some texting we met up for a drink and things moved on ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi and hope you had a nice christmas in spite of this? you say she should be able to spare you 2 minutes to text you but i think you know you would want more than that one 2 minute text back dont you? and i think she knows too that by keep replying ... (read in full...)
Another WHAT TO DO WITH MY EX Question... I'm so very perplexed and confused..
Q. the Hyphens help me to use less detail with each point, but its still pretty long. Here goes the story: -Ex and I together for 1 year and 2 months, days shy of 15 months PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. Promised a lot of things to each other during the...
A. 25 December 2010: i agree with that entirely. when you first split with someone special to you it hurts and it makes you feel compelled to understand why they have done this to do, why were you not good enough for them to love etc but in time like you say, the ... (read in full...)
My dad is very ill and I want to break up with my boyfriend. Finding this incredibly stressful!
Q. I am a relatively high stress person. It's kind of in my nature, it's how I deal with things. If I were to asess myself, I'd say that I'm more stressed out than the average person, but still functional, able to have fun and let loose. I am a ton of ...
A. 24 December 2010: i am sorry to hear about your dad and i wish him well. regarding your boyfriend and how to deal with this issue of him seeming non-supporttive i think you explained your feelings perfectly in your question! if you could show him that question that ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is married to her job and we split because of it. Can I win her back?
Q. I met her in the summer through mutual friends of ours, a married couple that she's been living with for around a year since she split with a long term ex. We hit it off straight away and after some texting we met up for a drink and things moved on ...
A. 24 December 2010: maybe the stresses of work make her not want to give time to a relationship. yes thats right - i said 'not want' not 'can't'. she is not working 24 / 7 as she can find time for her salsa and seeing friends. i think you may have to just accept ... (read in full...)
Another WHAT TO DO WITH MY EX Question... I'm so very perplexed and confused..
Q. the Hyphens help me to use less detail with each point, but its still pretty long. Here goes the story: -Ex and I together for 1 year and 2 months, days shy of 15 months PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. Promised a lot of things to each other during the...
A. 24 December 2010: i'm sorry to hear you've had a miserable time. you need to be honest with yourself.. when you say that you want to be in touch because you want closure, thats not true is it? it seems to be what you are really wishing for is that you will remain ... (read in full...)
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