Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 8 February 2011: i am sorry that you don't like the opinion i expressed but you surely know how provocative you are being and indeed you will be waiting for the next bashing.
my advice would be to tell the Australian what you have done instead of keeping it from ... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 25 January 2011: you are really priceless. you dumped the Aussie and never even had the courage to tell her the real reason. is this because you did not want to COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY burn your bridges with her? you wanted her to still love you, even though she ... (read in full...)
My friends say I have to ignore his texts or calls to make him realise what he has lost!
Q. Ok, i'll try keep this as short as possible. Me and my boyfriend broke up about 5 days ago. We were together happily for eight months solid but 15months on and off. Two months ago, he called up to my house and seen that my ex-boyfriend was here ...
A. 12 January 2011: there is no set rule for certain things and i think this 'to ring or not to ring' is one of them. it depends so much on the individual, as in: some people will respond well to absence, others won't. i don't know about you but if a bloke dropped ... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 12 January 2011: you may think that all your problems will be over as soon as Latvian gets an abortion, but a word of caution: just a thought: i don't think this situation will actually just simply die down with the death of the baby and you will be able to settle ... (read in full...)
We were supposed to be celibate, but I found a used condom in the dirty laundry!
Q. What am I to think or do? This is Long but detailed so that I can get the best response. I thank you in advance for reading my post/question. :-) I have been seeing a man since May 2010. Since I have met his family and our children get alon...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
you seem to have a good insight as to what is going on. if he is celibate, condoms should not be 'appearing' in the house or car. for instance, you cleaned that car yourself and now he is telling you that the condom was there all along?! he i... (read in full...)
My friends say I have to ignore his texts or calls to make him realise what he has lost!
Q. Ok, i'll try keep this as short as possible. Me and my boyfriend broke up about 5 days ago. We were together happily for eight months solid but 15months on and off. Two months ago, he called up to my house and seen that my ex-boyfriend was here ...
A. 11 January 2011: do what feels right to you. not what your friends tell you to do. when he turned up at your house and saw your ex there, his trust in you was badly damaged, maybe he will learn to trust you or maybe he won't but i am sure that breaking all contact ... (read in full...)
Did she blow me off or was she being genuine?
Q. So I went on three dates with this girl. She seemed to be genuinely interested in me. On our last date she wrapped her arm around mine and she let me put my arm around her. She seemed a bit shy. Anyways she was supposed to come over to my place...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
i think she may have made plans with you but then decided for whatever reason that she did not want to be with you. she may be truthful in what she says about still having feeling for he ex or she may have thought it was kinder than telling you ... (read in full...)
Sex Postions for a plus sized couple.
Q. Hi, my wife and I are both plus sized, overweight people, and lately our sex life is being affected because of our weight, we have usually when having sex, had her on top of me facing me, and lately that position has been harder for us to do, and ...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
i hope you are both trying to lose weight then? it'll make you more healthy and feel better in yourselves too. in the meantime though, have you tried doggy style?
xx... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
you need to grow up, for your own sake. when Australian and you have probs you admit that she apologises 'even when it is not her fault' why is that? you have asked all your friends for their opinions, but it seems they are not giving you the ... (read in full...)
What do his actions mean, if anything?
Q. this guy i like mesaged me on msn and asked if i still liked him i sayed ja and he wa like cool. what dose his actions mean if they mean anything...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
it just means he thinks its cool that you like him. carry on chatting to him to find out more of his intentions/feelings
xx... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't simply cancel, he goes silent!
Q. I have a male friend who I have a purely platonic friendship with. I've known him about 18 months and in that time we have had quite a few arguments. Its always regarding us arranging to meet and him then blowing me out. I appreciate people are busy ...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
very annoying! i would carry on being his mate, carry on making plans to see him if you like but then don't you worry about it if you want to do something else or get an invite to go elsewhere, so that way if you see him as planned, great, but ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be my age and not have any interest in getting married?
Q. I am a single and very intelligent 29 year old woman and I am happy with my marital status. I like being independent and free I also like my quiet time. I am the adventurous type of woman though, I like to travel, I would like to go parachuting, ...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
your peers may not find your views about not wanting marriage normal, but i say its your life and the most important thing is that you're happy and have peace of mind. the only concern i would have is that you say in the future you do want chil... (read in full...)
I don't know why I can't get a man!
Q. Although many people say I am attractive (not young) I dont know why I cant get a man. I meet meen who would like a "fling" as "they already have a partner I meet men who say "You must have slippedd through the net someone should have snapped me ...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
i'm the same (but am 39) no problem attracting men but its never the single ones! i think all we can do is keeping going out (but not to nightclubs) and the more men we meet, then surely by the law of averages, the more potentially decent men ... (read in full...)
How long is long enough to expect commitment when you are sleeping with a guy??
Q. I began dating this guy about 2.5 months ago. I had just gotten out of a short term relationship, and before that had a baby and was in a long term before that. He had just gotten out of a divorce a year ago, and the night we first "hooked up...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
no, don't 'drop the commitment thing' coz that means that you are compromising on something which is a very important issue for you. if you are to have any sort of relationship with him, it should be equal ie: not all about him having it his ... (read in full...)
How can I become a born again virgin
Q. How do I become a born again virgin I've been with a lot of guys and I'm now really starting to regret it I really want to change but I don't know how to make it official ? Can someone help me please?...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
you can't. once you've had sex you've had it. you (obviously) cannot go back in time, if you regret the sex then i'm sorry but there is no getting away from this, all you can do is behave differently in the future. you can have surgery to make... (read in full...)
Am I weird for wanting to marry the only man I've ever dated?
Q. Hi, I'm a woman, 23 years old, and I have only dated one man seriously in my life. He's my boyfriend at the moment, and we've been together since I was 17 (yeah, first real bf at 17, I was a late bloomer!) He loves me and wants to marry me, ...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
don't listen to friends who say you should play the field instead of settling with your first boyfriend. people play the field (amongst other reasons..) to find the right one, you happen to have struck lucky first time! :)
in life and in ... (read in full...)
She plays these mind-games and I'm not sure what to do now!
Q. hello. I have a very complicated situation on my hands, but i'll make the story short. Me and my girlfriend of a year just broke up for an unknown reason, seeing as she was the one who did it. This relationship had been in my control almost this ...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
she is giving you a taste of your own medicine. she may be teaching you a lesson, in the hope that it makes you realise how awful you have been, when she is sure that you have learned your lesson she may wish to get back with you, hoping that... (read in full...)
Does it mean anything when a man holds your face when he kisses you?
Q. Does it mean anything when a man kisses you and holds your face? He cups your face with both hands but is he sending you a message also? Not all men do this? Just looking for opinions? thanks!...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
its a gesture. its supposed to mean that you have got the face of someone he adores, however, it is only a gesture, you cannot get a true judgement of the guys feelings just by this alone, look at how he treats you day-to-day. the holding the ... (read in full...)
Am I supposed to put my life on hold and wait for him?
Q. I am divorced and have been for about 5 years and have met some real losers but about 2 years ago a wonderful guy came into my life, we met through some mutual family friends that have known both of us since we were children, we just clicked and ...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
no don't just 'wait around' waiting for him to give you the word. he is aware of what you want, so if he is not ready to give this to you yet, then fine, cool off and just be friends, and when i say friends i mean as EQUALS whereby it is not ... (read in full...)
Do I wait around and hope she decides she wants to date?
Q. Please help, I’m confused. Ok, so I have been a fb with this girl for around 3 and half months now. She is 21 and I am 27. We get along, have a laugh and both enjoy the sex. Recently I have started to like this girl as more, and feel like I want ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
she is only away for 2 weeks so can you not just wait til she gets back without going with these other girls that are after you?? if you like her as much as you say you do. if you both don't date other people, have sex but also spend time doin... (read in full...)
Is he going to get over this and come back to me?
Q. I'm a mess over this. I have been dating this guy for 9 months and although we never made it exclusive it was obvious that we wanted and liked each other. He is a very proud and kind of jealous person. Things were going well and I was looking ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
9 months with someone is long enough i think to give it more respect than to end things like this by text about hearsay that isn't even true. he is being childish, your right, but if you still want to be with his you need to TALK to him (not... (read in full...)
Why he acts like we're dating if he doesn't want it??
Q. so i have a friend who i've only known for a week and a half. well the first time we hung out he was blowing up my facebook to hang out, so he came and picked me up and took me to the club he works at (also a favorite club of mine) well that night ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
sounds like maybe he just wants something casual with you without giving it the title of 'relationship' for some reason. he is not committing himself but he doesn't want you going off with anyone else because that way he you may not be avai... (read in full...)
I don't want any confusion as to what we are expecting out of each other
Q. Few days ago, I asked a question about an involvement with someone and whether or not that he likes me or he may be using me as no one knows about whats been going on between us. After being used in the past and the effect this has had on me, I...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
its a reasonable thing for you to think but you don't necessarily have to SAY it to him, unless he asks. your actions and behaviour will show him how you want to proceed and his actions and behaviour will show you. as its early days, just carr... (read in full...)
What do I do? He doesn't believe or trust me!
Q. Me and my baby been together for a minute now I so n love wit him he thinks I'm having an affair wit someone else but he don't trust or believe anything I say I'm been honest to him I never would cheat on him cause I wouldn't want him to cheat on me ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
when he accuses you can he at least follow it up with a REASON for why he thinks it? maybe it is something you are doing that makes him think it or maybe he is just insecure? can you be a bit more specific? coz could be loads of reasons behi... (read in full...)
First time sex feels like..??
Q. I haven't had sex yet and i'm a guy, what does sex feel like for the first time?...
A. 10 January 2011: :) sorry, didn't read it properly! didn't realise your a guy! take no notice of my previous post!
xx ... (read in full...)
My mother needs to stop making me look like a pathetic role model in my kids eyes.
Q. I'm not looking for pity but I feel like cow dunk.My mother's always putting her nose in my business but yesterday I couldn't take her insults anymore when she tried to make me out as a poor example of a mother to 4 kids. It started over dinner when ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
you are probably a fantastic mum, no one is disputing that, but lets face it, if you go around having affairs with married people (whether it is a gay affair or not is irrelevant) then you cannot say to your son when he goes with a married pers... (read in full...)
My new bf flirts with all my friends - WHY?
Q. My new bf keeps flirting with MY friends. My Facebook page is pretty popular and heaps of guys flirt with me on a daily basis. I find it really hard to police and am still trying to clean up my profile of these people. Mafia Wars killed my profile ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
this should be a red flag to you. you are trying to sweep it under the carpet and hide your feelings though because you don't want to look jealous. you say he is 'flirting'. is he really flirting or just chatting? if you are SURE that he i... (read in full...)
A bump inside my breast! Is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid, Im a 16 yr old normal teen. I've recently started feeling my breast and noticed there was like a bump inside my breast. Whenever i put my finger on that certain area, i can feel the bump. Im super worried because i have no idea what it ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
get yourself to your doctor as soon as possible, don't let anyone dissuade you by telling you its nothing to worry about because you are too young. this lump could have many causes, maybe harmless but maybe not! i am serious. see your doct... (read in full...)
If a woman isn't moaning, does that mean she isn't enjoying the sex?
Q. hello, i just wanna know what does it mean when the girls dont moan while making love ? i know this girl and we are f*** buddies. but when we have sex she doesnt moan or like scream or something, i mean if she was really enjoyin it or feeling ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
everybody is different regarding moaning, i love a noisy man :) but have been with some that don't make a sound when they come! as you are only f-buddies, maybe she's not likely to feel as intimate and close to you as she would to a comm... (read in full...)
Could this be a yeast infection or is it an STI/STD Title
Q. ok so.... saturday 8th january i had unprotected sex with a guy while i was drunk. It's the first time i've gone back to a guys house after meeting them that night. and ive only slept with 4 people. The thing is i now have an itching / slightly...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
it sounds a lot like thrush so you're probably right in thinking its a yeast infection. if you want to avoid a trip to the doctor, buy some canestan cream or a difflucan capsule and see does that clear up the problem, it it persists do go to s... (read in full...)
First time sex feels like..??
Q. I haven't had sex yet and i'm a guy, what does sex feel like for the first time?...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
its uncomfortable, so just make sure its with someone who cares enough about you to be gentle and take it slow, just while you get used to it. also make sure you feel wet enough before he enters, that will make it easier
xx... (read in full...)
Are guys losing respect for girls today than in the past?
Q. I know the guy I am with does not act like this what so ever, but is it just me, or am I getting the feeling that now a days, men expect girls to bend over and give themselves to them? Are guys really loosing respect for females now a days? ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
good question! :) yes, i believe men have lost more respect but i think it may be coz women (not all women!!) have lost respect for themselves. but this is a 'what came first the chicken or the egg?' sort of question, have women lost resp... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want our relationship status on facebook?
Q. Why is it that when your dating someone and you want to share it on facebook they dont want to. Its been a long time now since we've been together but he still acts like he doesnt know it. I havent done anything to him at all so what does this mean? ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi try not worry about this, judge him more on the way he treats you. my niece was upset that her boyfriend hadn't put a relationship status on his facebook (he had not said he was single either), she had only just met him and thought it might be... (read in full...)
Can a gorgeous woman NOT be selfish, entitled, or cynical about men?
Q. I know a woman who is beautiful. So beautiful that she gets noticed regularly and VIP treatment from people whenever she needs something. For example, when she damaged her fender she brought it to the auto body shop and they did not charge her ...
A. 10 January 2011: hi
this lady might have been narcissistic and a user of people even if she happened to be ugly. it happens. so, no, beauty is not the reason for her personality fault, it just means that shallow people will be more tolerant of her faults coz they... (read in full...)
She says she loves me and no one will ever compare but, I can't help but think what she has already had!
Q. I am really really struggling with insecurity given the amount of guys my girlfirend has slept with and in particular the amount of them that she has admitted had large manhoods - 8-9inc by her reckoning...She was forced into sex work for a year or ...
A. 9 January 2011: the past is the past. what she did (the amount of men) was not her choice. you condemn her because she 'sold her soul' but tell me, have you ever been in REAL poverty with no one to help you out? you say she is beautiful, so she used this asset to ... (read in full...)
I question whether it's my place to intrude on someone else's relationship.
Q. My best friend is in a relationship with a guy who does not treat her very well. He is always making promises (dates, trips, engagement, etc.) and letting her down. He's taken vacations by himself (to Cancun during college spring break to "relax"), ...
A. 9 January 2011: hi
i know its hard coz you don't wanna look like the bad guy and she might resent you if you bad-mouth him. for her sake, she needs someone who will be honest with her rather than just placate her with comforting words. maybe the best bala... (read in full...)
She says she loves me and no one will ever compare but, I can't help but think what she has already had!
Q. I am really really struggling with insecurity given the amount of guys my girlfirend has slept with and in particular the amount of them that she has admitted had large manhoods - 8-9inc by her reckoning...She was forced into sex work for a year or ...
A. 9 January 2011: hi
sex is probably better with you coz she has got feelings for you and that she didn't have for them because it was work, that she didn't want to be doing. for typical women, enjoying sex has more to do with emotion, and feeling love and resp... (read in full...)
Why am I like this with him?
Q. Can anyone tell me what my problem is?? I am with who I think is a lovely guy but at the moment I am angry with him and I don't want to see him tonight...why? I have been with him 7 months this month,I am a very insecure person due to my two ...
A. 8 January 2011: hi
i agree with petinal, definitely make a list to weigh up his good and bad points. think about the sort of behaviour you find it hard to tolerate. you've heard of 'ticking the right boxes'? well sometimes the people we are with 'tick all the ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my first love who dumped me for someone closer to her?
Q. My ex dumped me on the 29/12/10 at 10:00pm we was together for 385 days and 1200 seconds. We met over the internet on a chat site, we got to know each other over 7 months then I asked her out. Two months later I gave her a love letter, it was quite ...
A. 8 January 2011: :) thats a lovely thing to say! look, you will get over her honest, it just takes time and one day hopefully you will meet someone who will love to be with someone very sensitive and kind, as you are. your ex just mustn't have had the taste for ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate to save my marriage is there still time?
Q. I have wrote in before about my husband we have been married a 1 year 8 months i'm 30 he's 49.. We meet in March 09 married May 09 I truely love him with all my but the marriage has had problems,he was married for 15 year with 2 children he cheated ...
A. 8 January 2011: i have been married and similar to you, i married him before i had gotten to know him well enough and when i did get to know him i didn't like what i saw!
good luck, i hope you can either resolve the problems, learn to live with them or find the... (read in full...)
How do I get over my first love who dumped me for someone closer to her?
Q. My ex dumped me on the 29/12/10 at 10:00pm we was together for 385 days and 1200 seconds. We met over the internet on a chat site, we got to know each other over 7 months then I asked her out. Two months later I gave her a love letter, it was quite ...
A. 8 January 2011: hi first of all, are you serious about all that counting? 41 kisses etc? i am sorry to hear that you have had your heart broken but in time - you DEFINITELY will get over it, trust me. and it'll make you stronger. getting over a heartbre... (read in full...)
Is my friend just more mature or odd?
Q. My friends and I noticed that she's changed - She used to be really hyper around those she was close to, and she was really shy. Now we have noticed that she is really confident, to what she was before but, she still is a little bit quiet. She's a ...
A. 8 January 2011: hi no her time isn't running out, you's are still really young so its you that i feel more sorry for if you feel like times running out! has she changed since you left school? maybe she just has changed coz she is mixing with different people n... (read in full...)
He has been my boyfriend for two months, and is now trying to get me pregnant!
Q. Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months now and he started talkinq bout having a baby with me. The thing is im 16 and he is 18. I told him i'm not ready to have a baby that's not in my life plan to be pregnant at 16. even ...
A. 8 January 2011: hi you're too young (and so is he!) and you don't want it! he's GONNA get his own house, WHEN HE graduates, he's GONNA go college, he's GETTING a car. (do you see what i'm saying?- he needs to have all those things ALREADY before you have a b... (read in full...)
Why are some men into rubbing?
Q. I was recently with a new partner. He seems to really enjoy rubbing up against me. This is not "dry sex" through our clothes. We will both be naked and he will rub against my waist or my hip until he climaxes. At times he seems to prefer hand ...
A. 8 January 2011: oh gawd! he must be making you feel like crap :( it is really unusual, or maybe i just haven't lived enough of a life! if i was with him i'm afraid this would REALLY make me wanna dump him. what's the rest of the relationship like? is he worth ... (read in full...)
I love him but I don't know if he's trying to reconcile with his wife?
Q. Ok, I never thought I would be in love with a married man, and thats not what we both were looking for when we met again after 24 years. And it was just like magic looking in his eyes for the first time again. When we met he was actually separated ...
A. 8 January 2011: so the divorce has gone through and its not been the magic spell that you thought it would be? it is fair enough that he does not want to get so involved with you yet you know? i mean how would you feel if you were married to someone and then he ... (read in full...)
I'm desperate to save my marriage is there still time?
Q. I have wrote in before about my husband we have been married a 1 year 8 months i'm 30 he's 49.. We meet in March 09 married May 09 I truely love him with all my but the marriage has had problems,he was married for 15 year with 2 children he cheated ...
A. 8 January 2011: hi
you say you love him. what qualities does he have that you love? coz all you have wrote here is his bad points. there are so many things that you don't like about him, are you REALLY expecting him to change? and if you truly love him like yo s... (read in full...)
Why are some men into rubbing?
Q. I was recently with a new partner. He seems to really enjoy rubbing up against me. This is not "dry sex" through our clothes. We will both be naked and he will rub against my waist or my hip until he climaxes. At times he seems to prefer hand ...
A. 8 January 2011: hi
when you say protected sex do you mean condom? and when he does this rubbing he is allowed to do it without a condom? if so, maybe he enjoys the freedom of not having to wear it without fear of getting you pregnant coz its not inside you. is he d... (read in full...)
I love him but I don't know if he's trying to reconcile with his wife?
Q. Ok, I never thought I would be in love with a married man, and thats not what we both were looking for when we met again after 24 years. And it was just like magic looking in his eyes for the first time again. When we met he was actually separated ...
A. 29 December 2010: hi
its a shame that you have fallen in love with him so much coz he is too entangled in marriage / ex(?)marriage. both of them i think are confused about what they want and he has involved you in this mess too. he has been seeing you for a year... (read in full...)
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