I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there
Q. Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...
A. 12 February 2011: i'm glad the day went well for you then but it doesn't solve the problem long term does it. i think there is still some work to be done by you and your husband to resolve this issue
x... (read in full...)
I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there
Q. Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...
A. 29 January 2011: i'm sorry but i think you should shelve your own feelings about the friend just for the day. its not about you and if you persist with this protest you are gonna alienate yourself from everyone coz they will see this as you being disrespectful to ... (read in full...)
Health tips for early pregnancy?
Q. Hi all! This is actually a question about pregnancy, i was hoping some mums could give me some advice :) I just found out im pregnant, i think between 1-3 weeks.. Last time i feel pregnant i miscarried. My hubby and i got married not too long after ...
A. 23 January 2011: anything with ginger in it. anything dry, like biscuits if you can manage them. i had morning sickness really bad, it lasted ALL DAY. all i could manage to eat was dry bread and nutrition drinks (complan) that you mix with milk, and i even used to ... (read in full...)
Together for two years but lately no affection?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We live together and everything. I love him dearly, but in the past three months I have noticed it is very rare for him to ever hug or kiss me. We rarely have sex either and when we do it's ...
A. 22 January 2011: hi
you are both the same age? maybe he feels like he has outgrown this relationship or maybe there is something else on his mind. you really need to talk to him about this and ask him is there a problem. can i ask, has he always been the one to i... (read in full...)
I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there
Q. Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...
A. 22 January 2011: if her husband and kids go too is even better, she wouldn't 'throw herself' at your husband if hers is there surely?
i think you you at least offer to go to the funeral, for your husbands sake, don't just wait for him to ask you. if you make no ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife I cheated on her with over 30 prostitutes?
Q. I'm 35, my wife 36, we have 2 kids, married for 7 years. Before our kids born we have really great relationship and have sex every day. Sine she got pregnant the first kid her interest for sex declined sharply. No matter what I tried the most we can ...
A. 22 January 2011: @ chigirl: it is nice to read a different perspective and yes you're right, none of us actually gave him any advice.
after the story he told, the last line was the question 'tell her or push her to have an affair' so my answer is tell her. af... (read in full...)
I can't get a new guy because I'm too fat. I lost my ex over it. Best dieting tips please?
Q. I want to diet but if I don't satisfy my hunger, I get migranes! Also, if I'm nervous or bored my stomach growls so loud, it's embarrasing!. I want to diet because my ex refuses to say I'm hot, or sexy because I'm so fat. And I can't get an...
A. 22 January 2011: hi
first of all are you sure you are fat?? see your doctor or join a weight management programme if your BMI (body mass index) is too high.
i am sorry but i am not gonna give you any tips on how to diet, that would be BEYOND irresponsibl... (read in full...)
He started texting me after we broke up. Then just as suddenly he stopped. Why would he do that?
Q. I'm just looking for a second opinion. A couple of months ago, I slept with this guy a few times. We texted, then i made the tremendous mistake of asking his friend about one of his ex girlfriends. So he stopped texting me. However, each time I ...
A. 22 January 2011: hi
he is really the only person in the world that can tell you why, but if you are looking for some random reasons that it COULD be, the one that i can think of is that he wants to remain on good terms, not necessarily wanting you back, but just... (read in full...)
Health tips for early pregnancy?
Q. Hi all! This is actually a question about pregnancy, i was hoping some mums could give me some advice :) I just found out im pregnant, i think between 1-3 weeks.. Last time i feel pregnant i miscarried. My hubby and i got married not too long after ...
A. 22 January 2011: hi
no, whatever you do, don't delay going to the doctor! get there as soon as you can. i don't know what happens in your country, but in mine any lady who has had a previous miscarriage is treated as more 'high risk' in subsequent preg... (read in full...)
I don't feel his erection through his pants, does this mean he is really small?
Q. I have recently met this guy online whom I like quite a lot. I wouldn't say I am in love with him since we have only been on four dates but we have reasonable chemistry and get along otherwise. We have made out twice already, pants on but I don't ...
A. 21 January 2011: hi
i experienced this for the first time a little while back, exactly the same, just didn't feel it in his pants, and yes, unfortunately in his case it was because he was small :(
maybe your boyfriend just isn't getting all that hard though,... (read in full...)
I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there
Q. Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...
A. 21 January 2011: hi
firstly, he is either still interested in her or he is too WEAK to tell her to sling her hook. he should NOT accepting drunken calls off her while she talks about the sex life they used to have!
now, regarding the funeral. you won't be abl... (read in full...)
Am I right to worry he's not over his ex?
Q. Please help me, somebody! I don't know what to do! I am 21 and have been in a relationship with a lovely guy for nearly 3 months now. The relationship is going really well and he has virtually moved into my flat, and he and I really do get on great...
A. 21 January 2011: hi
hmm, sounds like she wasn't interested in him much when she had him all to herself but suddenly he is 100% more attractive now that he has got someone else! or maybe she has realised she still loves him because she has been 'forced' to leav... (read in full...)
Sleeping with my friend's boyfriend!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm young girl whose feels like I'm not a true friend to my friend. First of all i don't want to be judged cause I'm only human. I've been cheating with my friend's boyfriend and no i don't have a boyfriend. The thing is this guy want...
A. 21 January 2011: *when* did you decide you didn't want to hurt your friend???
if you want to keep your friend but you don't really want him, let him go. you will get pleasure and attention from other guys no problem. if you carry on doing this with him, there is... (read in full...)
My wife told me how much she liked having sex with her ex!
Q. Before my wife and I were together, she had a boyfriend that she lost her virginity to (at 16). She really liked him. She had a relationship with him that included regular sex, then after breaking up got back together after a couple of months ...
A. 21 January 2011: i think your reaction now is exactly why she was reluctant to tell you anything! she loved about you and didn't want to make you feel bad is why. she has only (sorry i don't mean to play this down, forgive me) had sex with one other man before you ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife I cheated on her with over 30 prostitutes?
Q. I'm 35, my wife 36, we have 2 kids, married for 7 years. Before our kids born we have really great relationship and have sex every day. Sine she got pregnant the first kid her interest for sex declined sharply. No matter what I tried the most we can ...
A. 20 January 2011: question: are you only here spilling your guilty guts about the hookers and the affair because she has now found friendship with another man?
you know PERFECTLY WELL you won't tell her what you did so stop wasting our time.
even if you p... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and haven't had many boyfriends. I really want one!
Q. i havent had very many boyfreind at my age i really want one! im 13 and at my age going out with people is usually because of your looks and i hate my hair! im ok with make up but i cant get my hair straight through the day i cant afford a really ...
A. 20 January 2011: hi
my hair is curly too. i have washed it earlier and if i let it dry on its own now i will be SO sorry in the morning coz it'll be so unruly, like a birds nest! it is really really bad to use straighteners on your hair regularly anyway, it TOTA... (read in full...)
What does a woman feel when she rejects a guy?
Q. What does a woman feel when she rejects? Contempt for the guy who tries? A sense of guilt? Pity? Or maybe she has very little thought of why? Or maybe she feels superior? Does she ever think that she may hurt the man? Does she ever think abo...
A. 20 January 2011: hi
it depends on the individual woman. it depends on the circumstances also of the rejection. are you talking about a woman who leaves a relationship? (of varying lengths of time) leaves a fling? leaves a marriage? rejects a man after a one nigh... (read in full...)
My wife told me how much she liked having sex with her ex!
Q. Before my wife and I were together, she had a boyfriend that she lost her virginity to (at 16). She really liked him. She had a relationship with him that included regular sex, then after breaking up got back together after a couple of months ...
A. 20 January 2011: hi
she had sex and she liked it. she is just being honest, would you rather she say to you 'yeah we had sex and i hated it every time'? how would you feel really if she had said that? would it make you wonder if she truly was enjoying it with you ... (read in full...)
I fell for Mr Nice Guy who promised the world and delivered nothing.....
Q. i am hoping to recieve help. my husband and i have been married only a year. we met on an internet dating site. he was the most romantic caring guy on the planet until we got near our wedding day.weve known each other 3 yrs. i had serious doubts t...
A. 20 January 2011: you need to see a solicitor, you should be entitled to at least half of the proceeds from a house sale, i would HOPE that could argue for more, taking into account that you have been paying the rent on it for 'X' amount of years before he came ... (read in full...)
He never has been interested in sex with me, but he cheated on me and had a week of mad sex with his ex!
Q. hi my boyfriend of 20 months has never realy had much interest in sex with me or anyone else. so he says ,he said pasionate kissing is only for kids,although he is very cuddly and always pecks me thats it, i found out 6 months ago he had a week of ...
A. 19 January 2011: :) what's this? positive thinking? i think you you should write those things down on a nice piece of paper and keep it close by, read it to yourself often
good luck and stay strong xx
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He never has been interested in sex with me, but he cheated on me and had a week of mad sex with his ex!
Q. hi my boyfriend of 20 months has never realy had much interest in sex with me or anyone else. so he says ,he said pasionate kissing is only for kids,although he is very cuddly and always pecks me thats it, i found out 6 months ago he had a week of ...
A. 19 January 2011: i think your own intuition is telling you things but you are not listening to it. you are doubting yourself all the time and that is understandable, the caring 24/7 for your mum, your fibromyalgia, your isolation, your problems with him must all ... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from feeling like I want to punch my partner in the face?
Q. So here is my story..... I have been with my partner for 5 years, the first few were rocky as we were both young and didn't know what we wanted, but after all that we moved in together and got on great. He would still often act like a young boy...
A. 19 January 2011: hi
the miscarriage and him text-cheating ONE WEEK LATER and the continuing this secretly on his work phone are issues that have not been resolved for you, that's why you feel like punching him. i do not even think that moving away will solve this... (read in full...)
He never has been interested in sex with me, but he cheated on me and had a week of mad sex with his ex!
Q. hi my boyfriend of 20 months has never realy had much interest in sex with me or anyone else. so he says ,he said pasionate kissing is only for kids,although he is very cuddly and always pecks me thats it, i found out 6 months ago he had a week of ...
A. 19 January 2011: of course he wants you to stop thinking about 'that week'. if it was a one off heat of the moment thing i suppose it would be 'acceptable' but it wasn't a spare of the moment silly mistake....
he waited until you are on holiday
he finished... (read in full...)
Do I have to tell this guy I'm seeing about my past sexual experience?
Q. Do i have to tell this guy im seeing about my past sexual relationships and experiences or does it not matter?... things have been going really well, and weve been getting to know each other, i just wondered if it was neccessary to tell him? He ...
A. 19 January 2011: hi
he might never ever bring it up coz he might not want to get into a conversation where he has to tell you about his past. only tell him if he asks. if he starts asking details like sizes and performance, don't tell him, he has no right to know... (read in full...)
He never has been interested in sex with me, but he cheated on me and had a week of mad sex with his ex!
Q. hi my boyfriend of 20 months has never realy had much interest in sex with me or anyone else. so he says ,he said pasionate kissing is only for kids,although he is very cuddly and always pecks me thats it, i found out 6 months ago he had a week of ...
A. 19 January 2011: :( i sympathise entirely, you must me so so lonely, do you not have any friends at the moment? or family that you could see and that would help out with your mum?
it is so easy for us to say to you 'leave him' but we are not the ones who will... (read in full...)
I lied and told my boyfriend I was the same age as him, but the gig is up when we celebrate our birthdays!
Q. So I've done something stupid and need your advice on how to fix it...I've been with my bf for 3 months, he's amazing and I am falling for him. Now, the problem is that I told him I'm 29, but I'm actually 30 (he's 29). I didn't intentionally lie, ...
A. 19 January 2011: hi
aw silly you! i do that sometimes! you'll just have to tell him. it was a mistake, not a malicious lie and then you felt stupid owning up. i don't see a reason why he wouldn't accept it, but the longer you let it continue the worse it'll be. ... (read in full...)
He never has been interested in sex with me, but he cheated on me and had a week of mad sex with his ex!
Q. hi my boyfriend of 20 months has never realy had much interest in sex with me or anyone else. so he says ,he said pasionate kissing is only for kids,although he is very cuddly and always pecks me thats it, i found out 6 months ago he had a week of ...
A. 19 January 2011: hi
no no no! a) he's a cheeky sod b) you don't have to shag someone again to check if you still got feelings (especially if he is 'not into sex')(oh and especially when you in a relationship with someone else for 20 months!) and c) i'm sorry but ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my girlfriend's irrational behavior?
Q. Yesterday my girlfriend and I had another fight and she provoqued me by saying she had no money to buy the plane ticket so I should be the one doing it. I did it. When she saw I could do it she started to play victim saying that she didn't want to ...
A. 19 January 2011: you will get over this, maybe writing and writing will help to get the pain out of you. you were good to her and she still treated you like this! one day, and i am not just saying this; you WILL feel peace of mind and you will find yourself amazed ... (read in full...)
I'm really not that bad...why don't girls ever notice me???
Q. I am a pretty average guy, at least I think. I weigh about 84kg or 185lbs, and I'm about 6ft 1inch or 185cm tall. I've never been made fun of for being ugly or anything. I'm 21 and stay in pretty good shape by working out most days of the week. ...
A. 19 January 2011: hi
for me personally its a man's haircut that i notice, obviously that's not a consideration when looking for a relationship, but its something that gets you that first initial look from a girl, like male birds being the ones with the nice plum... (read in full...)
26 year old man 18 year old female... WRONG ?????
Q. 26yr old Male, interested in 18yr old female O.k. so their is this very cute girl who works at a local coffee shop, I have been interested in her for some time now. She beat me to the punch, by friending me of Facebook. We have been talking for...
A. 19 January 2011: hi
if you like her and she likes you why not give it a chance? you will soon know when you start going out if you are compatible or not. i wouldn't write it off just because of her age. some 18 year olds act are more mature than others, same... (read in full...)
Why do many women have the chance to marry more than once in their lives when other none?
Q. What does it takes for someone (mostly women) who had a divorce or went through a bad experience to get several chances in their lives and marry once, twice or more and happened to find people who want to marry them. There are others who never find ...
A. 19 January 2011: hi
i know what you mean, but you know what? - life isn't fair, its not fair when babies are born with terrible syndromes, its not fair when little kids get cancer, its not fair that some of us are born into affluent families while others are born... (read in full...)
If I do all he wants even if I'm not in the mood will this make things any better?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going through a load of issues and i dont know what to do anymore. im nervous around him as i dont totally feel 100% safe anymore which sounds horrid i know. He wrestled my phone off me, has chucked me and my stuff ...
A. 19 January 2011: he is trying to scare you into staying. he knows that he is not the only one who will care about you and show you interest, he is more scared of it ending than you are coz he needs you more than you need him, as he's a clingy mess and you are good ... (read in full...)
After the baby, our sex life has gone from great and often to infrequent! Help!
Q. In the past 11 months, my boyfriend and I have only had sex 5 times. I had a baby a couple months ago and we have not had sex since a month before she was born. Before that, it had been almost 3 months. I am ok with the fact that we didn't have it ...
A. 19 January 2011: hi
don't be shy of initiating! don't think about it, just do it. maybe wear something sexy but that covers your belly if you are not happy with the way it looks. hey at least he has put on weight with you so he can empathise with how you feel... (read in full...)
Do I trust him? Or be worried?
Q. My boyfriend of a year and a half has never really gave me a reason to not trust him. i mean we have had arguments about other girls and things. the main thing that is a problem is he is a dj and does lighting for different clubs so there is always ...
A. 19 January 2011: hi
why have you argued about girls? is it just that you are worried because he works in clubs where there will be girls or is there more to it than that?
if it is just your own insecurity you will have to get to the bottom of your exact insecu... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my girlfriend's irrational behavior?
Q. Yesterday my girlfriend and I had another fight and she provoqued me by saying she had no money to buy the plane ticket so I should be the one doing it. I did it. When she saw I could do it she started to play victim saying that she didn't want to ...
A. 18 January 2011: yes, i agree with walkin dude, if she calls by, howling outside your door, don't be shamed into letting her in. get her removed by the police for causing a nuisance in your building. why should your neighbours have to listen to that? i say cut her ... (read in full...)
With all the sex and no pregnancy, could I be infertile?
Q. Dear agony aunts and uncles I'm 19 and i just got married on the 17th of dec to my boyfriend of 3 years hes in the military and i'm really happy . how ever my concern is that when we got married we had sex with out a condom and i'm not on birth ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
don't worry just because it hasn't happened for you yet, just keep trying, generally if a couple don't conceive after about 18 months to 2 years there may be cause for concern. increase your chances by having sex at the most fertile time for ... (read in full...)
I fell for Mr Nice Guy who promised the world and delivered nothing.....
Q. i am hoping to recieve help. my husband and i have been married only a year. we met on an internet dating site. he was the most romantic caring guy on the planet until we got near our wedding day.weve known each other 3 yrs. i had serious doubts t...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
same advice as previous posters.. get rid of him!
obviously the mr nice guy routine was just pure acting and you were taken in by it. its not your fault, you are not the first to fall for this and unfortunately you won't be the last.
you ... (read in full...)
My insecurities have a strangle hold on me
Q. Hi. I am hoping I can get some advice with a very troubling problem. I am in a relationship, I am 33 and boyfriend is 31. We were both late bloomers and I especially had/have problems with self-esteem. We have been together for 1 and a half years ...
A. 18 January 2011: i respect what you're saying but please just consider this: you say that BDD is a preoccupation with an imagined flaw, well like yourself, any true sufferer of BDD will tell you that their flaw is a real and not an imagined one. just a thought.
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I catch my friend in lies and it hurts me
Q. i have a good male friend who i care for very much and we get on really well. heres the problem-he lies and im hurt at why he does it to me when he says he trusts me and im a good friend to him. for example he said in his previous job he was a ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
unfortunately he sounds like a BS artist and its a shame that some people are like that because it spoils what could be a great person. its like they don't realise that you would still like them regardless of high flying jobs in the past or m... (read in full...)
Every time I push him away he comes back for more!
Q. Hi I got a problem basically there has been some guy who been wanting to go out with me for a year now. He wont leave me alone the problem is I do like him but I am scared to let my heart go because I have trust issues. He knows about this and ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
are the trust issues with HIM as a person for some reason or is it just you? unless you have reason to mistrust him, i say go for it. he has been asking you for a year without giving up. i think that least entitles him to a chance :) and why ... (read in full...)
I've run out of topics for discussion!
Q. i really like this girl at college and we have been speaking quite alot in person and on facebook. But sometimes i get to a point where i can't think of what to say. I don't want her to think i'm weired or anything but what kind of things should i ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
is she putting the same effort in or is she just letting you do all the talking? ask her out, even just as a friend to do something fun. that way you will have a shared experience to talk about and it builds on from there. don't be nervous to a... (read in full...)
We were tipsy when we met the first time; will the first official date be OK?
Q. So I'm a female that's just beginning to explore my bicurious side. I'm very excited about it because I've always loved women! A couple of weeks ago I met a lovely girl at a bar and we ended up making out for the night, I had such a blast. We ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
were you really SO drunk that night?? why not send her a picture message, just casually like 'here's a picture of me with my dog/cat isn't he cute?' (if you have got a pet) or find some other excuse to send her a photo, like 'hey i've boug... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my girlfriend's irrational behavior?
Q. Yesterday my girlfriend and I had another fight and she provoqued me by saying she had no money to buy the plane ticket so I should be the one doing it. I did it. When she saw I could do it she started to play victim saying that she didn't want to ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
i think answer A is your best option. B is tempting but this will open up the lines of contact again when she calls you to give you an earful for making her stranded at the airport with no ticket.
this girl is too interested in drama. trea... (read in full...)
Her attitute toward sex is really frustrating
Q. I'm getting discouraged and feeling really scared for our relationship. Ever since we started having sex my girlfriend has resisted me. I can't do anything to her without seemingly forcing her. It annoys me and make me feel like she doesn't want me ...
A. 18 January 2011: vaginal infection can cause wetness and pain on intercourse, maybe the problem. from what you say though in your update, it sounds like she is not interested in intimacy with you. she avoids kissing you apart from a cute peck on the cheek, she ... (read in full...)
Her attitute toward sex is really frustrating
Q. I'm getting discouraged and feeling really scared for our relationship. Ever since we started having sex my girlfriend has resisted me. I can't do anything to her without seemingly forcing her. It annoys me and make me feel like she doesn't want me ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
the fact that she said 'i'm sorry you feel that way' is putting it back to you. it is not really an apology, it is saying this is how it is and its a shame that you can't handle it.
for some reason she sees anything sexual as dirty and sh... (read in full...)
My insecurities have a strangle hold on me
Q. Hi. I am hoping I can get some advice with a very troubling problem. I am in a relationship, I am 33 and boyfriend is 31. We were both late bloomers and I especially had/have problems with self-esteem. We have been together for 1 and a half years ...
A. 18 January 2011: this is quite a common theme with cosmetic surgery isn't it. how many celebrities for instance do you see who were really beautiful enough to start with, but they have surgery, are still not satisfied, so have some more, and so on and so on. i ... (read in full...)
If I do all he wants even if I'm not in the mood will this make things any better?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going through a load of issues and i dont know what to do anymore. im nervous around him as i dont totally feel 100% safe anymore which sounds horrid i know. He wrestled my phone off me, has chucked me and my stuff ...
A. 18 January 2011: its your call at the end of the day, but from what you say in your update it just seems like you are making excuses for him and he is doing a good job at getting you round to his way of thinking. that's what manipulating is. just read your ... (read in full...)
If I do all he wants even if I'm not in the mood will this make things any better?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going through a load of issues and i dont know what to do anymore. im nervous around him as i dont totally feel 100% safe anymore which sounds horrid i know. He wrestled my phone off me, has chucked me and my stuff ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
jealous + controlling + angry = potential woman beater
and you know it. i cannot believe the rules he is trying to lay down. he has isolated you from friends already, but because it is male friends, this is ok??? it won't stop there you k... (read in full...)
My insecurities have a strangle hold on me
Q. Hi. I am hoping I can get some advice with a very troubling problem. I am in a relationship, I am 33 and boyfriend is 31. We were both late bloomers and I especially had/have problems with self-esteem. We have been together for 1 and a half years ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
if you are only seeing him 1- 2 times a week you are right in doubting whether living together could work. that is natural.
you say you have seen counsellor. did you address the low self esteem with them? did they get to the core of your sel... (read in full...)
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