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female
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anonymous
writes:I haven't heard from my LDR in almost three days. Yesterday, I assumed he was still asleep but when I texted him, he said he had been dealing with some stuff since the day before. I said ok and later on texted him saying I love you, but got no response back. So today I asked if he was okay and he said he was alright, just hadn't had a good couple days and was in a bad mood. When I asked what happened, he told me nothing and that he didn't want to talk about it. I responded with a fine and asked that he let me know when he felt like talking and to feel better. I haven't heard anything from him since and I doubt I will. I don't know what to do. I'm trying to give him space by not bothering him, but for all I know, I might not hear from him for days, maybe weeks. Being long distance, it's not like I can just drop by his house to say hi. I'm honestly surprised by all this and wondering what's going on because last we talked, things seemed fine. Now, I started thinking about how long I would deal with this, how long before he'd start texting me like normal and I'm not too sure. I really love him but I'm starting to get fed up with everything lately. A couple months ago, he needed some money and I lent it to him, he promised he would pay it back and brought it up to reassure me more than I did, but I still haven't seen anything yet. Work has been so rough for him lately that I feel bad asking about it, but last week he had finally caught a break and made more than enough to pay me back, I'm sure, yet he didn't even mention it. Sometimes I feel like I want to ask him for my money so I can just leave, but then I'd only be addin on to his current problems and I'd feel bad about that. He promised he was going to call me but didn't and just disappeared with the exception of responding to my texts. What should I do??
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 we can all get in moods where we dont feel like speaking to people. you have been kind enough to give him some space to deal with his mood. he could have shown you the same respect by sending you a quick text just to say hi and ask how YOU are feeling. why should HIS feelings be all that matters?? that is a sign of selfishness. how long have you been with him and does he say he is serious about you? maybe he feels like your relationship is more casual than you think it is and that not texing you for a few days is ok and doesnt hurt you or have you told him that it does? i dont like the way he has borrowed money from you and if he had any pride in himself he should have made paying you back his priority (some of the money if not all at the moment). i would advise you to not chase him by texting or ringing again. that way, if he contacts you, you will know it is because he wants to, and just not because you have made him feel obliged to do it. i know this is hard for you but please just find other things to keep yourself busy. let him do some of the work in this relationship coz at the moment it doesnt sound like he is!xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): id get your money and leave this guy. my exbboyfriend sounds kind of like this guy, in the end he was cheating on me from day one
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