If I do all he wants even if I'm not in the mood will this make things any better?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going through a load of issues and i dont know what to do anymore. im nervous around him as i dont totally feel 100% safe anymore which sounds horrid i know. He wrestled my phone off me, has chucked me and my stuff ...
A. 19 January 2011: he is trying to scare you into staying. he knows that he is not the only one who will care about you and show you interest, he is more scared of it ending than you are coz he needs you more than you need him, as he's a clingy mess and you are good ... (read in full...)
My insecurities have a strangle hold on me
Q. Hi. I am hoping I can get some advice with a very troubling problem. I am in a relationship, I am 33 and boyfriend is 31. We were both late bloomers and I especially had/have problems with self-esteem. We have been together for 1 and a half years ...
A. 18 January 2011: i respect what you're saying but please just consider this: you say that BDD is a preoccupation with an imagined flaw, well like yourself, any true sufferer of BDD will tell you that their flaw is a real and not an imagined one. just a thought.
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Her attitute toward sex is really frustrating
Q. I'm getting discouraged and feeling really scared for our relationship. Ever since we started having sex my girlfriend has resisted me. I can't do anything to her without seemingly forcing her. It annoys me and make me feel like she doesn't want me ...
A. 18 January 2011: vaginal infection can cause wetness and pain on intercourse, maybe the problem. from what you say though in your update, it sounds like she is not interested in intimacy with you. she avoids kissing you apart from a cute peck on the cheek, she ... (read in full...)
Why was he holding his daughter's hand like he was?
Q. Is this weird or not?? Whilst driving my partner of 18 months reached across to the back of the car to hold his 12 year old daughters hand. He held it for 10 minutes. She has not been upset or anything -just sitting there.I felt uncomfortable as I ...
A. 18 January 2011: sorry, but before you start going over the top and pretty much accusing this guy of incest, if this is what we are talking about(?) consider this: there is intertwined and intertwined. when you said this in your post i took it to mean lying on the ... (read in full...)
Her attitute toward sex is really frustrating
Q. I'm getting discouraged and feeling really scared for our relationship. Ever since we started having sex my girlfriend has resisted me. I can't do anything to her without seemingly forcing her. It annoys me and make me feel like she doesn't want me ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
the fact that she said 'i'm sorry you feel that way' is putting it back to you. it is not really an apology, it is saying this is how it is and its a shame that you can't handle it.
for some reason she sees anything sexual as dirty and sh... (read in full...)
My insecurities have a strangle hold on me
Q. Hi. I am hoping I can get some advice with a very troubling problem. I am in a relationship, I am 33 and boyfriend is 31. We were both late bloomers and I especially had/have problems with self-esteem. We have been together for 1 and a half years ...
A. 18 January 2011: this is quite a common theme with cosmetic surgery isn't it. how many celebrities for instance do you see who were really beautiful enough to start with, but they have surgery, are still not satisfied, so have some more, and so on and so on. i ... (read in full...)
If I do all he wants even if I'm not in the mood will this make things any better?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going through a load of issues and i dont know what to do anymore. im nervous around him as i dont totally feel 100% safe anymore which sounds horrid i know. He wrestled my phone off me, has chucked me and my stuff ...
A. 18 January 2011: its your call at the end of the day, but from what you say in your update it just seems like you are making excuses for him and he is doing a good job at getting you round to his way of thinking. that's what manipulating is. just read your ... (read in full...)
He actually looks sincere but I know he's lying!
Q. I love my bf to bits. We were best friends before, so I know he has a habit of falling for his friends. I still gave in and we been dating for almost 2 years. When we were friends I saw one of our friends flirting with him, and I asked him--he sa...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
looking sincere is the sign of a VERY good liar. regardless of the the way he looks, you have caught him out and proved he is lying already (the emails were there - then they were deleted) and the ring he promised you? have you received it yet?... (read in full...)
If I do all he wants even if I'm not in the mood will this make things any better?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going through a load of issues and i dont know what to do anymore. im nervous around him as i dont totally feel 100% safe anymore which sounds horrid i know. He wrestled my phone off me, has chucked me and my stuff ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
jealous + controlling + angry = potential woman beater
and you know it. i cannot believe the rules he is trying to lay down. he has isolated you from friends already, but because it is male friends, this is ok??? it won't stop there you k... (read in full...)
How do men feel about having sex on a woman's period?
Q. How do men feel about having sex while she's on her period? I know many may like to claim they don't care or say things like, "put a towel down and go to town," but sometimes I can help but wonder if it the bleeding doesn't gross them out. ...
A. 18 January 2011: hi
surely if you are intimate enough with him to be having a sexual relationship with him, you are intimate enoughto be able to say to him "look, i'll be on my period at the weekend and i'm not sure how you feel about that, but just letting you ... (read in full...)
The relationship seems to be deteriorating into hurt
Q. I need some good advice. I have been dating a man for about six months now. It was never really traditional, because when he asked me to make it official I declined. I was still a little bit hurt from a relationship in my past, as was he. I was ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
you seem to be emotionally high maintenance. (because you are insecure and wanting to see how far you can push him to test how much he likes you?)
you have pushed him away throughout this relationship even though you know he is insecure too... (read in full...)
My insecurities have a strangle hold on me
Q. Hi. I am hoping I can get some advice with a very troubling problem. I am in a relationship, I am 33 and boyfriend is 31. We were both late bloomers and I especially had/have problems with self-esteem. We have been together for 1 and a half years ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
if you are only seeing him 1- 2 times a week you are right in doubting whether living together could work. that is natural.
you say you have seen counsellor. did you address the low self esteem with them? did they get to the core of your sel... (read in full...)
Why does my bf text his ex wife?
Q. my bf and i have been together for 10 months we also live together.he has been divorced for 4yrs. and i for 6yrs. we have only have 2 disagreements we enjoy doing the same things and have lots of fun together. if you knew us you would think we were ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
fair enough if they want to remain 'friends' after their divorce, but he should not be flirty texting his ex or any other woman while he is an an Rship with you. he's showing you some serious disrespect here. if he cared enough about you he w... (read in full...)
I think he is addicted to the woman he is having an emotional affair with, how do I get rid of her?
Q. my hubby has a female friend even he does not belieive in friendship with opposite sex...she is his college from 4 years....they are too much emotionally attached...just like an emotional affair...they remain in content everytime...he says he loves ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
what an awful situation! you make it sound like the woman is the one doing all the chasing. are you sure about this? if you husband didn't want to hear from her he only has to change his number. if he does not want to give up this text frie... (read in full...)
Are there still people out there today who don't prescribe to whats on the idiot box?
Q. hi im not sure how to say this but im a normal person, i have no trouble making friends it's just i really don't like to have sex and it's not like im gay or anything, i know that im not attracted to men. it's just i can't seem to find girls who are ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
your different from the crowd. you seems to have embraced this fact and are happy with saying it so good for you :) BUT
maybe you are therefore giving yourself a smaller pool of potential partners if you know what i mean? just as you want... (read in full...)
I only talk to her for friendship, but I cant help but feel this could be something more! Should I tell my girlfriend about her?
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for two years, and I have always loved her, I have since the day we got together and I do to this day. However, I have recently been talking to another girl, purely for friendship, but I really can't help but f...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
sounds like you are the sort of person that 'falls in love' too quickly. you say you loved your girlfriend 'since the day you got together' you mustn't have, you could not have known her well enough on the first day of getting with her, sure... (read in full...)
I wish my fiance would lose 30 lbs and get his hair back so I'd find him more attractive!
Q. I have a bit of a complicated problem. I'm a 24 year old psychologist in-training (who apparently can't heed my own advice). My fiance is a 26 year-old unemployed high school teacher. I've been with my fiance for 4 years and 3 months (like 4 years, ...
A. 17 January 2011: yeah be careful of the influence your friends are having over you, do you think they may be a bit jealous? or they just don't see that you fit in with them now coz they are still free but you're getting married, maybe its you that is distancing ... (read in full...)
I am getting divorced and want to marry my friend, but so many things are getting in the way! What should I do?
Q. I was married for 6 years to a jerk and I am in the process of getting divorced. I was having some sex problems with my husband since we got married. he wanted sex all the time and I can't. he was sexually abusing me. I am indian so I didn't think ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
i am sorry to hear about your terrible situation. i'll be honest, i do not know anything really of Indian culture, but is it ignorant of me to ask, who do you both love more? - each other or your parents? both sets of they say they will diso... (read in full...)
This whole argument is still spinning around in my head, I feel so lost.........
Q. Myself and my partner have known each other for nearly 10 years we first got together when i was 15 and he was 20, that relationship lasted just over 2 and a half years. It wasn't a great relationship i was needy and dependant and he was never home ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
he is a verbal bully. maybe he resents the fact that your son is with you and him full time but he only sees his own son at weekends. he should NOT be roaring at a little boy until he is in tears and he should not be doing it to you eith... (read in full...)
Why was he holding his daughter's hand like he was?
Q. Is this weird or not?? Whilst driving my partner of 18 months reached across to the back of the car to hold his 12 year old daughters hand. He held it for 10 minutes. She has not been upset or anything -just sitting there.I felt uncomfortable as I ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
this sounds fine, don't worry. i hold my sons hand, cuddle him, stroke his hair and ears, he sits on my knee sometimes, and he's 12, its just coz i love him so much! he won't let me anywhere near him in public though coz he's embarrassed by me! ... (read in full...)
Hes my 1st in everything but hes cheated on me!
Q. Hi I have been with my BF for over 17 yrs yes I have and 2 kids later he has ask for an 3 some and we did it then he went on his own with out me 3 yrs later we are still 2 gether should I stay with the guy he is my 1st in everthing...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
what is the rest of the relationship like? this is why threesomes are always a bad idea. the threesome is happening but then one partner often feels like the other one has crossed the line to what they see as infidelity! interestingly, i note... (read in full...)
When is the best time to tell him I'm a virgin?
Q. Hey. I'm 17 and in high school and I've been dating a guy in college for about a 2 months. His school is kind of far away so we aren't exclusive so he's not (officially) my boyfriend, but neither of us are seeing other people. I'm planning on going ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
yes i think this needs talking about sooner rather than later. if you get very involved with each other and then you tell him he may feel disapointed that he thought he was going to have sex with you but then it turns out that he's not beca... (read in full...)
Does this silence mean it's over?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I haven't heard from for almost 2 weeks now. We're in different countries right now. I've tried calling him and left voicemails I don't know how many times but he hasn't returned any of my calls. I sent him a letter which was ...
A. 17 January 2011: @ OP: regarding my previous answer... when i say 'of course it does' i mean in answer to your statement 'it really hurts' (not in answer to the title of your question) sorry hun! x ... (read in full...)
Does this silence mean it's over?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I haven't heard from for almost 2 weeks now. We're in different countries right now. I've tried calling him and left voicemails I don't know how many times but he hasn't returned any of my calls. I sent him a letter which was ...
A. 17 January 2011: of course it does, i know coz i had similar a few years ago. was a bit of an LDR, it wasn't my longest relationship, but it was probably the most intense one and it was the one that hurt me most when he left and the one that took me the longest to ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend disappeared on me, and I can't get over it
Q. I'm still heart broken, after 4 months. I was seeing my ex boyfriend for 1 year, even though it was a long distance relationship , he lived an hour and half away by train. I was very much in love with him. He last came to visit me for a week in ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
this sounds very similar to an experience i had a few years ago, it took me months to get over as i kept pondering about it, i never gave him the satisfaction of even chasing him up to ask him why though, i just decided that if he was that much... (read in full...)
Should I stay in touch with my ex to show her that I am changing?
Q. As of a week ago my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me after a large argument. SHE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!!! She said I wasn't showing her any sort of affection. She was always doing things for me and not getting anything in return. This ...
A. 17 January 2011: well, just you keep working on improving yourself anyway, it'll help you with your life in the future, whether its with her or someone new, and even just for your own happiness
xx... (read in full...)
Help! Is he playing games - How would you handle this with your boyfriend????
Q. Hi... This past Friday my BF was suppose to come over for dinner. When I texted him suggestions on what to make for dinner, he texted back saying: "I might not be able to come - My daughter has a baseball game and I thought it was canceled because ...
A. 17 January 2011: hi
sorry to say - you're acting a bit clingy and high maintenance. chill out a bit and let him do some of the texting first, that way if he texts you'll know he is interested.. and if he doesn't: you'll know that he's not.
i am guessing... (read in full...)
Does this silence mean it's over?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I haven't heard from for almost 2 weeks now. We're in different countries right now. I've tried calling him and left voicemails I don't know how many times but he hasn't returned any of my calls. I sent him a letter which was ...
A. 16 January 2011: ok, now i'm as confused as you are! that letter was a bit inconclusive wasn't it? the fact is is that you have tried to contact him, and he isn't getting back to you. maybe he is trying to collect his thoughts, or maybe he has decided already. he ... (read in full...)
I wish my fiance would lose 30 lbs and get his hair back so I'd find him more attractive!
Q. I have a bit of a complicated problem. I'm a 24 year old psychologist in-training (who apparently can't heed my own advice). My fiance is a 26 year-old unemployed high school teacher. I've been with my fiance for 4 years and 3 months (like 4 years, ...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
as you are studying psychology you would make a great case study for yourself! you better than anyone should be able to work this out and get to the bottom of why you are so shallow!
some ideas though: you say you have not had a break real... (read in full...)
Boyfriend manipulates me so I apologize for even his mistakes!
Q. Hi my bf often ignores and manipulates me in such a way that i need to apologize even for his mistakes. When ever i try to talk to him about this, he says i am boring him and try to change the subject. He is emotionally distant too. Does all...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
he sounds like a spoiled brat. he should have grown up by this age. you cannot change him. he should want to change to make himself a better person and if he has chosen not to, there is nothing you can do about it. he doesn't want to disc... (read in full...)
Does this silence mean it's over?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I haven't heard from for almost 2 weeks now. We're in different countries right now. I've tried calling him and left voicemails I don't know how many times but he hasn't returned any of my calls. I sent him a letter which was ...
A. 16 January 2011: what made you ask if you are still together? there must have been some problems leading up to this conversation then? some people find it hard or even impossible to be up-front and honest when asked a question like that, they find it easier to just ... (read in full...)
Should I stay in touch with my ex to show her that I am changing?
Q. As of a week ago my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me after a large argument. SHE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!!! She said I wasn't showing her any sort of affection. She was always doing things for me and not getting anything in return. This ...
A. 16 January 2011: see her but don't be too pushy. if you feel like it is always you that suggests the meetings, hold back a bit. let her sometimes ask to see you. if she doesn't ask, then maybe she doesn't want to see you, so unfortunately you'll just have to ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive her for everything while she has treated me like dirt?
Q. Hi I am in a dilemma. I met my girlfriend 2 and a half years ago we dated or two months long distance, fell madly in love and she moved in with me in a flat at my area. We ended up arguing and on off splitting up. I stuck with her and chased a...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
:( the poor girl. she probably treats you this way because her illness then. you can get support to help you to help her. ask at the hospital she goes to if they can put you in touch with the relevant support group (or find somewhere your... (read in full...)
I get streaks of anger toward my girlfriend. Is this normal?
Q. Oka i dont know if its because im alittle crazy or its just normal..but i get streaks of anger toward my girlfriend. Some times i love her to death and never ever want her to leave me, when she has to go to work. Ever! Then its like everything she ...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
sounds like maybe you spend too much time together (coz you don't want to be alone without her) but then because you are together too much she irritates the hell out of you coz what you actually need is a bit of space, away from her, away from... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that he's cheating?
Q. okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about, a month and a couple weeks. He dated his ex for about 3 days , but they have known each other for quiet a while before they got together. He broke up with her when she admitted to cheating on ...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
tricky question. she has treated him like crap in the past but he still wants to be friends and he is disapointed that she doesn't want to talk to him anymore? is he short of friends or something? i'm betting that if it doesn't work out with... (read in full...)
Should I stay in touch with my ex to show her that I am changing?
Q. As of a week ago my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me after a large argument. SHE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!!! She said I wasn't showing her any sort of affection. She was always doing things for me and not getting anything in return. This ...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
1) if she has said she would consider getting back with you if you sort your issues out, then yes, you may be able to get her back, but it depends on YOU doesn't it? you will only get out of therapy what you are willing to put in. it is not ... (read in full...)
My dating life has just been a disaster!
Q. Dear aunts. Hope you can help me out. I've posted before and found it very useful so here goes. I am in my early thirties and my entire love life has been a series of disasters. My first love died in a car crash, the next one I fell in love with at ...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
first of all, i want to say i am sorry that you have lost your first love in tragic circumstances :( .
regarding your 2nd boyfriend, you must have gone into the relationship knowing he was a different culture/religion and this situatio... (read in full...)
Should I call, even if I am not sure I want to be with him...?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for three months now and whilst he is a lovely lovely guy, I don't think we are right for each other long term. I decided last week that I should give it one last good shot with him to see if we are suited and will last lon...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
i reckon just leave things be. you are not really into him and it looks as if he has changed his mind about you for some reason, maybe realised while he was away from you that he didn't miss you like he thought he would or something. if he c... (read in full...)
Is he my soul mate or am I delusional?
Q. Its a long story, but i'll explain as briefly as possible. I think i found my soul mate, but his actions speak otherwise. We dated a year ago, and ever since then i couldnt get him off my mind. When we were dating strange things happened. The first ...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
apparently in life you get more than one soul mate and you should not take 'soul mate' to mean the 'man you are going to marry'. it could be anyone, a friend, a relative, a pet even! i think you are very intuitive and maybe even have psyc... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time here?
Q. [MOD NOTE] PLEASE SPECIFY YOUR AGE, SO OUR AUNTS CAN GIVE YOU THE BEST AGE APPROPRIATE ADVICE. THANK YOU. Hi, I am a 39 year old guy. Anyone who has read my previous posts will know that when it comes to finding love, I've not had the great...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
do you think she might be dating other men from the site too? i mean its fair enough if she is as long as she hasn't promised exclusivity. yes things do crop up when you have got kids, but if she cancelled you she could have made an alte... (read in full...)
How do I tell the new love that I'm still good friends with my ex?
Q. I am 14 years old and a freshman in High School. I'm getting close to this guy who goes to another school and I think he's going to ask me out soon. I like him as well and am excited to get to know him better. My problem is that I'm good friends ...
A. 16 January 2011: hi
just tell him casually. don't make a big thing of it. if he accepts it then that's fine. if he doesn't like it let him go because otherwise he may start expecting you to choose between him and your friendship with your ex and i think it woul... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend and am pregnant with his baby, but I miss sex with this other man!
Q. hi to all, i am in a relationship and am currently 4 months pregnant for my boyfriend, i cheated on my boyfriend with this guy before getting pregnant and i broke it off, he than came back and wanted us to continue but i told him i couldn't because ...
A. 15 January 2011: hi
sorry but if you think this sort of behaviour qualifies you to still say 'i love my boyfriend' then you're wrong. how would you feel if he was doing the same to you? plus, a man who is happy to keep slithering back to you asking for sex when... (read in full...)
Should we keep it as step bro and sis or do we explore what could be?
Q. ive recently become reacquainted w my "stepbrother" we havent seen each other in over 20 yrs. my mom married his dad and his dad adopted me and my sister. he has since past away. i didn't know my step brother growing up we only lived together about ...
A. 15 January 2011: hi
well as you are not blood related it is not a problem biologically BUT the fact that his dad legally adopted you and your sister may cause a problem legally. do you think a relationship would be accepted by your family? bear in mind that if y... (read in full...)
Does this silence mean it's over?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I haven't heard from for almost 2 weeks now. We're in different countries right now. I've tried calling him and left voicemails I don't know how many times but he hasn't returned any of my calls. I sent him a letter which was ...
A. 15 January 2011: hi
how long have you known him? you say your last conversation was not pleasant, but ended on a good note. sounds like he has realised he does not want to be with you now but wants to avoid confrontation and discussing his reasons, and maybe this... (read in full...)
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