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writes:Ive recently posted about ex boyfriends and current boyfriends and rebounds and I broke up with the current boy who was a rebound (or so I think) however now Im even more unhappy, I've found I dont like being alone and all I want now is to fall in love again. I want to just be happy being alone and not need someone in my life. Help
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (26 December 2010):
 learn to be alone. it may be hard if it is not something you are used to but it will stand you in good stead for the rest of you life if you have this skill. it will give you strength in your future relationships so that you will not be the sort of person who puts up with crap for the sake of having a boyfriend/husband. make sure you have really good friends, ones who you can spend good times with, learn to love your own company by finding things to do that you can do on your own. this will make you self sufficient and not relient on other people. see the positives of being single (ie nobody to argue with, nobody to answer to, nobody stop you doing, speaking to, wearing, going to what you want, nobody who will make you feel insecure about your self or make you feel jealous or be jealous of you - all the bad things that relationships can bring. and yes i know there can be nice parts too! but relationships can be very hard work, so is having a little break at the moment such a bad thing??
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (18 December 2010):
As great as relationships are, there is nothing wrong with appreciating the time you have being single. I do know the feeling of losing love and immediately wanting it back in some form, but as you may have found out, this only leads to foolish decisions and more heartbreak.
Don't worry :) Focus on your academics and your friends. Strive to meet new people and make new friends. Maybe you'll come across someone who will be able to treat you right; maybe not. Its all so variable that I suggest just enjoying yourself until the pieces fall in the right place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): There are some people who need to be part of a couple to feel validated. Its almost as if they cannot cope on their own. I think this sometimes happens with girls who go almost seemlessly from boyfriend to boyfriend - they lose the concept of being simply themselves. But if you are happy as a stand alone person - you can then go into a relationship with not totally everything at stake. It sounds simplistic but what do you love doing, interests etc. Have you got any personal goals. Think about what makes you YOU. Why not be on your own for a while - there is nothing to fear!
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reader, sammi star +, writes (17 December 2010):
 If you really want to learn to be happy alone then jumping into another relationship is not the answer. Yes it's scary right now, it's normal to feel that way but I promise you that in no time at all you will start to feel better and see the positives. Surround yourself with friends and family, get out of the house. Whatever you do just don't sit around at home on your own.
You need to take this time alone for yourself and also for future relationships. Once you know that you can stand on your own two feet and face the world alone, you won't be looking for someone because you need them in your life it will be because you want them. That's a liberal feeling and will make any future relationships stronger.
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