What can I do to help my boyfriend get over his emotional affair?
Q. I've been in love with my boyfriend (ex-fiance) for the past four years. I recently discovered that he has been having an emotional affair with a girl he went to junior high with years ago. I have not read all of the emails, but the glimpses I catch ...
A. 20 February 2011: the issue now is not the woman, facebook, passwords etc. the issue will be broken trust and the fact that you may have to be ultra vigilant and you will not know if he has merely become more secretive.
trust me i get no enjoyment out of tell... (read in full...)
What can I do to help my boyfriend get over his emotional affair?
Q. I've been in love with my boyfriend (ex-fiance) for the past four years. I recently discovered that he has been having an emotional affair with a girl he went to junior high with years ago. I have not read all of the emails, but the glimpses I catch ...
A. 19 February 2011: @ gamine: that is a brilliant comparison you have made (the horse racing comment, i mean) if every person came with their own 'odds' displayed this would make life a lot easier! there is something about some of us though, call it a 'gambler's ... (read in full...)
Do I go along with things or put my foot down?
Q. what do i do for the best? My partner recently split after 7 yrs and 2 kids. The relationship completly broke down and he moved out. He went home to his mum. He looks after our kids whilst i work 3 hrs in the evening. His mum has lung cancer o...
A. 16 February 2011: hi
cancer patients can have good days and bad days, she would probably be happy to have a bit of normality in her life BUT from one day to the next, depending on the chemo, she will never be able to predict how she will feel and i think that it i... (read in full...)
Did You Ever Talk To Serial Cheater Ex Again?
Q. Well, I recently found out that not only did my ex leave me for another woman and move right in with her and her 2 children, but that he had been cheating for over 3 years with numerous different women. Most of them didnt even know he was dating or ...
A. 16 February 2011: hi
this bloke has lied to you already BIG TIME so why are you interested in getting an 'honest apology?'i got sh!t on once and i could have easily asked the bloke why he did it, but i thought,'what's the point? i won't believe a word he says... (read in full...)
Promiscuous wife
Q. What would you do if the wife you thought the world of is a liar and deciever, born in a religous family i kept to my bible truth. I kept my virginity till marriage, my wife lied to me that she was a virgin before we got married we lived with the ...
A. 16 February 2011: hi
i can see why she has lied to you. it doesn't make it right but it doesn't make her a wicked person either. i think she got scared that you might be disappointed, maybe even disgusted by her, so she just wanted to lie and cover up her mist... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with this lad whose ex girlfriend still lives with him?
Q. were both 17 btw x i met a lad at boxing a few months ago, and weve always had abit of chemistry. recently last month he inboxed me giving me his number because he quit the gym. weve been texting ever since, he comes into my work at his break jus...
A. 16 February 2011: hi
i know this answer won't please you but unfortunately i think he is looking for a bit on the side. he starts sexual text conversations with you, in my experience i can tell you, a lad can text you all day long, and it can make you feel nice... (read in full...)
What do women think about body hair on men?
Q. Just wondering what ladies, in general, think about body hair on a guy...?...
A. 16 February 2011: hi
this depends entirely on the individual woman. some love hair, some love smooth, i love both - i'm not fussy
xx... (read in full...)
Is it normal to think about cheating if you've only been married for 2 months. I'm in a sexless marriage!
Q. Hi everyone, I was just wondering whether it's normal to think about cheating if you have only been married 2 months and already sex is out of the question. Tried talking about it, but personal issues on my partner's side mean we don't. I have ...
A. 16 February 2011: hi
cheating is NOT the answer. this should be obvious to you?! you really need to start communicating. you need to tell her how you feel. do you know exactly what her personal issues are? and did they just appear at the same time as the wedd... (read in full...)
What do guys think about virgins?
Q. I'm turning 18 and finishing up my senior year of high school. I am a virgin and do not want to have sex until I am sure I'm with the right person. My mother had sex at 14, needed an abortion and lived a pretty messed up life for a while after that. ...
A. 16 February 2011: hi
you stick to your guns, i think its great that you want to be 100% sure about someone before you have sex with them. i wish i had the same morals as you when i was your age, i really do! if a guy doesn't want to bother with you because he thin... (read in full...)
What can I do to help my boyfriend get over his emotional affair?
Q. I've been in love with my boyfriend (ex-fiance) for the past four years. I recently discovered that he has been having an emotional affair with a girl he went to junior high with years ago. I have not read all of the emails, but the glimpses I catch ...
A. 16 February 2011: hi
i don't like the way he admits he has done this to HURT you and gain more attention from you. a grown adult who is supposedly in love and mature enough to be planning to marry you would not do this. i think that if the emails were just frie... (read in full...)
My boyfriend fell for the the fake profile that I created on a social networking site, to test him . What do I do now?
Q. I made a fake profile today on a social network and decided to add my boyfriend and see what he would do. Before him, I was in a really bad relationship full of lying and cheating, so I guess you can say I've become bitter and distrusting. I know he ...
A. 16 February 2011: hi
all he has done is reply to the friend request. do not try to lure him in further. just leave him be, leave him as a friend and just see does he seek you out and if so what is the nature of his conversation. if you do start conversations with... (read in full...)
I'm not the valentine he proposed to. I can't live with my mistake
Q. I'm destroyed. My exbf proposed to his valentine today and it wasn't me. How do I put back the pieces of my broken heart? Last year he proposed to me but I blew him off because he revolved his world around me which made me look at him like a ...
A. 15 February 2011: i think the reality you have to see here is that if it were still you with him you would still probably think he was that same 'weakling'. he was not right for you and that is why you did not want him. probably you have not met anyone as attentive ... (read in full...)
What is going on here? Booty call?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a little over a month now..problem is I haven't seen him in 3 weeks (partly due to me being away and him becoming very busy with school). We talk and text and the last time I heard from him was Monday night (its now ...
A. 13 February 2011: hi
the fact just speak for themselves and i know you don't want to see it, but the fact that he let you down because 'he forgot' is really all you need to know hun. that is totally insulting. i had a casual relationship with someone at the back... (read in full...)
I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there
Q. Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...
A. 12 February 2011: i'm glad the day went well for you then but it doesn't solve the problem long term does it. i think there is still some work to be done by you and your husband to resolve this issue
x... (read in full...)
Has anyone else felt unhappy about being pregnant? Will these feelings go away?
Q. Last week I found out I am pregnant with my boyfriend of 3 and a half year's baby. He is delighted at the news and cannot wait to become a father. I am struggling to be excited or even feel happy about being pregnant, is this normal? I have never ...
A. 11 February 2011: hi
i think it is perfectly natural for you feel unhappy about your pregnancy at the moment. you are very young and you probably feel like this baby will be stopping you from living your life. it won't, but yes your life will be different.
hav... (read in full...)
What would you do if you were told you only have 8 years left?
Q. If you're single, what would you do about your current love life if the doctor told you, you have a deadly disease and that you only have 8 years of life? Would you look for someone? and why? ...
A. 11 February 2011: hi
i would still want to meet someone but i would not hide my illness and prognosis from them. 8 years is a long time. lots of relationships come to a natural and sometimes mutually agreeable end way before that length of time anyway. so as long... (read in full...)
Astrological signs compatibility?
Q. Hello would this be a good match? Female Sun - LEO Moon - Pisces Venus - Virgo Mars - Leo Male Sun-GEMINI Moon- Cancer Venus - Taurus Mars - Taurus Thank you...
A. 8 February 2011: hi
any astrology book will tell you this sort of information. but i hope that you are basing who you date on more than their astrological sign?! i am a Sagittarius and i think over my life i must have dated pretty much one of every sign and some... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 8 February 2011: i am sorry that you don't like the opinion i expressed but you surely know how provocative you are being and indeed you will be waiting for the next bashing.
my advice would be to tell the Australian what you have done instead of keeping it from ... (read in full...)
I feel better than I have ever felt before with a girl but not sure if she really likes me...
Q. I feel better than I have ever felt before with a girl. She is perfect in every way and the best part is she thinks Im cute too. So yesterday I was at her house and we were watching a movie about 20 min into the movie she is touching my arm so ...
A. 7 February 2011: yes don't worry, i think she definitely likes you! she sounds like she is very affectionate with you, but she probably won't want to rush into anything more physical/sexual, and that will not mean she doesn't like you
xx... (read in full...)
Help with gf's violent ex partner
Q. Please help, my “GF” has come out of a very violent relationship of 8 years after a particularly bad beating from her ex-partner (the bruises were awful) she decided to leave him me and her have been getting on well for a long time as friends she ...
A. 4 February 2011: this girl has unintentionally hurt you, but i hope you can find it in yourself to just be there if she needs safety again. i also hope that she will one day wake up and leave him one day, but sadly the longer this goes on, maybe the less chance of ... (read in full...)
It's been 3 months since she said she needed some space. Is this over?
Q. My mistress of 4 years told me she "needs some space". Her friends told her we should not talk or e-mail for a few months. we both miss doing things together (not just the sex). It's been 3 long months . Is it over ? Neither one of us (I think) h...
A. 4 February 2011: thanks for the update, why are you still married really? do you love your wife more than her? kids? house? what? did your mistress want you to leave your wife? what do YOU want to do about this now? sorry but you still haven't given enough info
x... (read in full...)
She's gone from loving and caring to controlling and possessive!
Q. my girlfriend of almost a year know has completely changed on me. she was once a loving, caring person to me and my four kids. and know she is a total @*$%# with my kids and she is controlling and possesive with me. i dnt want to call it quits just ...
A. 3 February 2011: hi
just talk to her. ask her what the problem is, sounds like she is not satisfied with this relationship, a year in she may have realised that you and your kids are not what she wants. you both need to tell each other what is making you unha... (read in full...)
It's been 3 months since she said she needed some space. Is this over?
Q. My mistress of 4 years told me she "needs some space". Her friends told her we should not talk or e-mail for a few months. we both miss doing things together (not just the sex). It's been 3 long months . Is it over ? Neither one of us (I think) h...
A. 3 February 2011: hi
yeah sounds like she may have got sick of seeing you for four years but you still haven't left wife. am only guessing though coz your post was very brief with not much detail.whatever her reasons are, only she knows for sure, and since you have... (read in full...)
Need tips, advice, etc. from those experienced with threesomes. Planning one soon with my girlfriend and her former sex partner.
Q. Ok let me try this again. My other questions wasn't worded like it should have been. I'm having a threesome with my girlfriend and have given her approval to have a former friend/lover (not as in love, but as in having had sex with him before ...
A. 1 February 2011: hi again,
i am glad you have asked this question again coz i wanted to reply to your most recent follow up last time but the post is now blocked from further replies.. anyway.. i think i can understand a bit better were you are coming from (may... (read in full...)
Help with gf's violent ex partner
Q. Please help, my “GF” has come out of a very violent relationship of 8 years after a particularly bad beating from her ex-partner (the bruises were awful) she decided to leave him me and her have been getting on well for a long time as friends she ...
A. 1 February 2011: oh gawd! i am sorry and i'm sorry for her! it just defies belief doesn't it? that some people will allow their self to be treated that way. very complex, wish she would accept help to make her realise she doesn't have to be with someone like that. ... (read in full...)
We're more like friends than a couple!
Q. HI! i got a partner about 1 and half year ago and we have a baby together. We had a very good sex life when we met about 3 months but since i got baby my partner didn't care about me any more as he said i was pregnant. But after our baby be ...
A. 1 February 2011: hi
bit confused: are you saying that you met him and then just three months later you became pregnant? if so i think this is a classic case of rushing into having a child with someone before you have gotten to know them properly. it sounds to me l... (read in full...)
I don't get my ex? Help
Q. Ok so im really confused. My ex. He had broken up with me because well ; Him and my best guy friend use to fight alot and shit.. And I never knew who to go with after they got mad at eachother and got into a fight and my friend always took me w...
A. 1 February 2011: hi
it sounds like if you get back with your ex he is gonna want you to choose between him and your friend. so you have to decide which one you want. is your ex a good boyfriend? is your friend a good friend? coz if they are actually getting into... (read in full...)
The ex and I both noticed that we don't want to be in relationships with other people
Q. hello there well catch up, i met this girl the most amazing girl i have ever met, funny, smart, beautiful and i love her, she loves me to i know it. we broke up but before we broke up we decided that if we break up and see other people, if we can t...
A. 1 February 2011: hi
if you are SURE your ex feels the same way, then you should both let your new partners go. if is not fair to string them along is it? think carefully though - why did you break up last time? if these same problems are still there you will brea... (read in full...)
I feel we have something more but I just don't know.
Q. Alright so, a few weeks ago, I starting hanging out with my friend a lot more before I went away to college. We hooked up. I really did not expect him to follow up or keep talking to me. Maybe its just my insecurities but I'm still surprised he ...
A. 1 February 2011: hi
next time he sends you a message, don't reply by text or on facebook - call him instead! just tell him you feel like chatting for a change! or maybe don't wait for him to send you a message; if you are friends can't you just call him? i thin... (read in full...)
He wants a blowjob but I don't like doing it, what can I do?
Q. i have been in a sort of relationship with a boy, we are both same age(17). at the start we were just good friends he would come up for a drink, then things started to change we would kiss at weekends and then i saw him during the week and we would ...
A. 1 February 2011: hi
your not even in a real relationship with him so why do you feel obliged to do something for him that you don't even like?? maybe the thought of it wouldn't make you feel sick if it was with someone you love. i can't imagine this will be very... (read in full...)
Who cheats more - men or women?
Q. I just wanted to see other opinions.....Who cheats more.....men or women?...
A. 1 February 2011: hi
not sure, but i think that in our society *typically* men cheat to get sex and women cheat to get attention/affection. but as no census or poll has ever been carried out to measure infidelity levels, then i guess no one knows the answer to your... (read in full...)
What is the secret to being happy?
Q. Hey everyone, I have a question I'd appreciate your honest answer to. How many of you are truly happy in your lives? If so, what are your lives like and what's most important to you? What do you think the secret is to being HAPPY? How...
A. 1 February 2011: hi
work to live - don't live to work. i LOVE my job, although it can be stressful and a pain in the a*s* at times! - but i sometimes think i would work there for free!
you seem to have serious concerns about this new job opportunity,... (read in full...)
The constant worrying is driving me insane!
Q. dear readers my boyfriend and i started having sex about 6 months ago and he uses a condom every time, but the thing is im always very concerned that it will break! he doesnt seem to feel the worry i do and probably thinks im being rediculous...
A. 1 February 2011: hi
you could have a coil fitted (google IUD) these are tiny tiny things, which once they are inserted by the doctor (apart from some crampy period-like pains for the first day or so) you will not even feel that it is there! it will not get in the ... (read in full...)
I'm giving my girlfriend her fantasy to be with a former lover/friend. Will I regret it?
Q. I would appreciate any help and comments on my situation. I met a wonderful woman last year and we had an immediate connection. Stronger than any I've known before and she said the same thing. On our third date we were talking openly about fan...
A. 1 February 2011: have you done threesomes before? i just don't know why you are putting your self to this mad test of trying to prove to yourself that you can suppress your jealousy. i mean .. just .. why..? to what end? prove your mental/emotional strength or ... (read in full...)
How do you cope with a break-up?
Q. hi all, i need advice on break up. i want to stay healthy and strong. my girlfriend has recently dumped me and i feel devastated. how to cope? thanks....
A. 1 February 2011: hi
make a list of her good and bad points (note if she has no 'bad points' then use the fact that she has dumped you and left you heartbroken)
keep busy with stuff you like to do or maybe even find something new to do, see your friends and plan... (read in full...)
I hate condoms and she won't go on the pill!
Q. I am in a bit of a predicament with my new girlfriend. We're both 22 and have been going out for 2 months. Last week we talked about having sex with each other for the first time, it's not that one of us doesn't feel ready it's just an issue with ...
A. 31 January 2011: hi
condoms are not just to prevent pregnancy though are they? and as you are clearly a man who has managed to avoid wearing them in the past coz you don't like them, i can understand your current girlfriends misgivings! (have you been checked for ... (read in full...)
Both virgins, on birth control pills.... do I REALLY need a condom?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both virgins but we are planning on having sex in a couple of weeks. She's started taking birth control pills so there is no chance of her getting pregnant. We havent had sex so STI's are also out of the equation so do i ...
A. 31 January 2011: hi
as long as she takes her pill as prescribed and you make sure to use condoms if the ever gets stomach bugs (vomiting and diarrhoea can cause the pill to leave her body before it has been absorbed)- some medications can prevent the pill from work... (read in full...)
I'm giving my girlfriend her fantasy to be with a former lover/friend. Will I regret it?
Q. I would appreciate any help and comments on my situation. I met a wonderful woman last year and we had an immediate connection. Stronger than any I've known before and she said the same thing. On our third date we were talking openly about fan...
A. 31 January 2011: hi
are you kidding me? you are already feeling jealous and it ain't even happened yet! you are clearly only doing this to make her happy, it is not for you really is it?? and she has TOLD you that he has better stamina and is bigger than you and ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mistress to get an abortion... NOW!
Q. Hi. Just seeking some advice. I have been married for 7 yrs been with wife for almost 15. she's older than me by a couple of years (I am 37 my wife is 43 and my lover is 35). , but I think she is my soul mate. I cheated on her before this time, but ...
A. 31 January 2011: hi again
i don't think my last post to you was very useful.
what is the ideal scenario that you would like to be happening? you split with wife but keep the house, she would walk calmly away and you would have not have to face the tongue lashing ... (read in full...)
Most of the girls in my year smoke and I want to try. Do boys find girls who smoke attractive.
Q. Ok, I'm 14 and most of the girls in my year have smoked. I really want to take a few drags and see what it's like, but one of my friends is TOO overly protective and will tell my guidance teacher! Also, do boys think it's cool if their girl smokes? ...
A. 31 January 2011: hi
no, smart boys don't like girls who smoke.. it'll make your breath stink, your hair stink, your clothes stink, your hands stink, your skin look like pale/grey crap, your eyes look less sparkly, your teeth yellow, and its a waste of money AND ... (read in full...)
How can I bridge this terrible predicament?
Q. I am a middle-aged man, I have a daughter who was born when I was in my teens. Her mother and I were High school sweet hearts and I loved her very much. My daughters mother was unfaithful to me many times, I tried to make it work but I could no ...
A. 31 January 2011: hi
get in contact with her. either directly by writing (and enclose a photo of yourself so she can see you!) if you have her address, or via the mutual friend who is the one that told you about the junky thing. explain to her that you heard abou... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mistress to get an abortion... NOW!
Q. Hi. Just seeking some advice. I have been married for 7 yrs been with wife for almost 15. she's older than me by a couple of years (I am 37 my wife is 43 and my lover is 35). , but I think she is my soul mate. I cheated on her before this time, but ...
A. 31 January 2011: there's no way out of this unfortunately is there? it is not your body, if she wants the baby she will have it. if you want to carry on seeing her or not is your choice (although the way you are treating her she might decide she wants you out of ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating? And what should I do about our relationship?
Q. What should I do? Is he cheating? I love him so much:( I told my boyfriend to take a break from our relationship because I feel that he doesn't like the fact that we are always on the phone or texting. So yes I told him to take a break and he said...
A. 31 January 2011: hi
no, if you love him and you want things to work out you shouldn't ignore him! you really need to be talking to him about this. from the way you worded your post, it looks to be full of warnings that he wants out BUT we have only got your acco... (read in full...)
I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there
Q. Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...
A. 29 January 2011: i'm sorry but i think you should shelve your own feelings about the friend just for the day. its not about you and if you persist with this protest you are gonna alienate yourself from everyone coz they will see this as you being disrespectful to ... (read in full...)
Help with gf's violent ex partner
Q. Please help, my “GF” has come out of a very violent relationship of 8 years after a particularly bad beating from her ex-partner (the bruises were awful) she decided to leave him me and her have been getting on well for a long time as friends she ...
A. 29 January 2011: oh dear! that's a predicament isn't it? are you being honest when you say she left her bag open or was you having a bit of a snoop?
is she leading you into thinking that you and her are going to have a happy ever after, you're the one etc etc ... (read in full...)
Help with gf's violent ex partner
Q. Please help, my “GF” has come out of a very violent relationship of 8 years after a particularly bad beating from her ex-partner (the bruises were awful) she decided to leave him me and her have been getting on well for a long time as friends she ...
A. 27 January 2011: hi
this man has not only battered her physically he has battered her emotions too, its not surprising that contact from him makes her retreat into a shell again. just give her what she needs in order to feel better at these times, even if that... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 25 January 2011: you are really priceless. you dumped the Aussie and never even had the courage to tell her the real reason. is this because you did not want to COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY burn your bridges with her? you wanted her to still love you, even though she ... (read in full...)
I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there
Q. Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...
A. 22 January 2011: if her husband and kids go too is even better, she wouldn't 'throw herself' at your husband if hers is there surely?
i think you you at least offer to go to the funeral, for your husbands sake, don't just wait for him to ask you. if you make no ... (read in full...)
I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there
Q. Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...
A. 21 January 2011: hi
firstly, he is either still interested in her or he is too WEAK to tell her to sling her hook. he should NOT accepting drunken calls off her while she talks about the sex life they used to have!
now, regarding the funeral. you won't be abl... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 12 January 2011: you may think that all your problems will be over as soon as Latvian gets an abortion, but a word of caution: just a thought: i don't think this situation will actually just simply die down with the death of the baby and you will be able to settle ... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 11 January 2011: hi
you need to grow up, for your own sake. when Australian and you have probs you admit that she apologises 'even when it is not her fault' why is that? you have asked all your friends for their opinions, but it seems they are not giving you the ... (read in full...)
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