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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

What am I doing wrong in our relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3730 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We used to have a lot of fun together , hanging with friends, drinking, going out etc... I got pregnant right away. After being together for 4 months I got pregnant with our son. The whole pregnancy I worked as a manager ... (555 words)

I'm concerned about my new boyfriend going traveling with his sister!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been dating this lovely man for two months now and we're both very keen on each other and make time to see one another at least twice a week. He's 39 and I'm 36 and he's been single for two years. He's very close with his sister who is single and they do a lot togethe... (273 words)

I want my stepdad to walk me down the aisle!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear aunts and uncles I am getting married next year and I should be getting excited but instead I'm feeling anxious about it all, the bottom line is who should walk me down the aisle My folks split when I was 2 my father was violent to my mum and when it happened in fron... (509 words)

How do I cope with these feelings I have for one of my best friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been really good friends with one of my best friends for over 5 years now. She is a wonderful person inside and out. I've always thought very much of her and I have to admit I think I love her. She makes me laugh so much when I'm with her and even when we just talk on the ... (192 words)

I'm mad about a girl who almost never replies to my messages!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3732 days ago

30 September 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - Went on a date with an amazing girl, first date went OK, she wanted to see me again, but two months later and at least two rain checks, she says she's not interested in seeing me again. Never did get to see her again. Almost a year later, iv been on a good few dates, but c... (152 words)

I've got my wall up and I don't want to let anyone in, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I had been with my man for 2 years before we broke up and I went travelling for a year.. Got back a month ago and we've hung out for the entire weekend every weekend since I've been back and have been hooking up.. I still have feelings for him and I know he has feelings for me ... (200 words)

Can I call the police because my boyfriend is posting horrible things about me on social media?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex boyfriend is posting horrible things about me on facebook, can I call the police? I'm not sure if it's harassment or not because he has posted it on his timeline, not in a private message to me. Everyone on his friends list can see it. Is it still harassment ?. ... (61 words)

So I like this guy, but I have a boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3732 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 22-25 - So, I like this guy. A lot. And I think he might like me back! But the thing is, that I have a boyfriend already, and we are kind of growing apart. I never see him anymore, and I think we both just want space... Should I tell him that it isn't working out, then go after the guy ... (205 words)

Do I ask my boyfriend if he wants more time to himself? Or wants out?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Im been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Lately he has started staying at his house more and more. Im hardly seeing him. Do i ask him out right - "do you want time on your own" or "if you would like to finish ower relationship?" ... (46 words)

I am dating a guy 5 years younger than me and am afraid his friends are laughing behind our backs

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Recently I have started seeing a guy who is five years younger then me, he is 19, and I have just turned 24. I have known him a while, as my friend is in a relationship with his older brother, and things started up in the last few months. He is a mature guy, and he has his o... (299 words)

The 40 Year Old (Almost) Virgin

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3493 days ago

30 September 2014 (M)

age 51-59 - Hey Aunties! I turned 41 years old this year and while I am not a virgin I am close! Back in college (1992-1993) I did have a gf that I had sex with for about 6 months but that has been the extent of my lifetime sexual activity. Women just aren't attracted to me and the few t... (344 words)

I would like to reconnect with my ex. Is it significan that he never changed his passwords when we brokeup?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - hi...i wanna know about my ex...we had broken about 2years but i still love my ex and i wanna get him back... i don't know his mind but he never changed all of the pass the accounts password even when we were apart...he blocked my acc but he never changed his password... (64 words)

I have a boyfriend of 7 years but have fallen for another man!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear cupid,my heart is torn in two and I sincerely don't know what to do.I'm 28 years old and I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7years now(I've been totally faithful to him) along the line he cheated twice but I forgave him, and we've moved on,from my own ... (153 words)

2 years of talking and now he's pressuring to meet. I've gained weight and don't want to tell him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - So I have been talking to a guy I met online who lives across the country. We talk everyday for 2 years but we haven't met yet. We've talked on the phone and cammed before and sent each other a lot of pictures. I really like him even though I think he can be insensitive at ... (248 words)

My partner is acting like a single man..

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age - I am just trying to come to terms with my partner of 10 years affair and although he said he loves me and he just did it for some excitement I am finding it difficult to get close to him again And although I thought I would try not to spy on him after coming back from a break ... (369 words)

How can this guy just hang out with me and not feel what we have?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm a goner. Someone please help! I started seeing Mr X in June. We met online thru mutual friends (not dating site) at first he was very flirtatious and we talked a lot. It was a good flow. We went out and had a great time. No more then kissing and making out of course W... (289 words)

Not interested in being his easy option. But do you think he'll think I led him on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid My brother in law recently tried match making me with a single friend of his! This guy started messaging me and things began to flow. He started off pleasant enough but the messages soon started to turn very flirtatious! He knew of me as I'd dated a friend ... (308 words)

Will this man leave me alone now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

Did I overreact to my boyfriend and his question?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Did I over react? My boyfriend asked a girl to show him a slut drop (this is a dance move according to wikipedia) , which she did in front of me. I think this was inappropriate of him to ask he said he didn't think anymore of it other than he was being friendly. I feel annoyed ... (72 words)

Questions about crushes

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3732 days ago

30 September 2014 (M)

age 22-25 - Hi again I'm back with another question that's been bugging me. How often do girls crush? So like they are with their friends and about ten different guys enter the conversation does that mean they like them all and just exactly how easy is it to crush or feel like that guy is ... (137 words)

Is he stringing me along? Or is his mother encouraging him to make contact?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3735 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Two years ago, my first bf and I were in contact and somewhat talking in good terms as friends. I attended his brother's funeral to show my respect to his family and himself since we were in a relationship together for close to 5 years and I have known him for literally 13 ... (956 words)

Attended his farewell party. Should I tell this guy that I don't want to hook up with him again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3732 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I hooked up with a dude acquaintance/friend at his goodbye party. My question is, he let me know he's coming back to town for a visit this coming weekend and I don't really want things to go down that path again. Is that something I should make clear before I even see him, ... (74 words)

Is my husband of 20 years getting ready to have another affair?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3729 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age - my husband has contacted an old flame on facebook said he has been very happy with me, but after 20 years things are not what they used to be. He told this person he has been searching for her for 20 years and has never been so happy to see anyone as he always was to see her ... (164 words)

Six months together but he's not ready for sex? Is he worth waiting for? Or should I move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been friends with a guy in my class for about six months. He has made it obvious that he found me attractive from Day 1. We became friends and started hanging out. During this time, he has always initiated affection (hugs, kisses, etc), yet he says we will never be more... (137 words)

Am I weird for totally enjoying myself at a strip club with my Bf?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I got drunk with my boyfriend of two years last Friday and suggested that we go to a strip club. It took him a while to come round to the idea but we eventually went. Well even when I was asking him I thought I'd probably end up getting jealous and dragging him out of ther... (173 words)

My Bf of 3 years still sees the friends he mixed with back when he did take illicit drugs. Is it wrong to expect him to cut ties with them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Here's the situation: I'm very anti-drug and when I met my bf of 3 years, he told me that he was a recovering addict, clean for the last 7 years and that he was over it. So I was fine with it. The problem is that he still hangs out with friends from his drug years and some ... (237 words)

Are there major differences to how I touch a guy who is uncut versus cut? have never been with an uncut guy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

30 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been on a few dates with this guy, who I am pretty interested in, and as we've went along, we've started to get a little hotter and heavier with every interaction. Well, I've wanted to maybe progress the makeout sessions to a handjob, but I found out that he is unci... (211 words)

Clean now and sober for 23 months. How can I show these people that I've changed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

29 September 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - When I was in my early 20's I began a bad habit that got me hooked on drugs (pills) and alcohol. I was able to hide it from almost everyone I knew. I met an amazing girl “T”, who had no idea what she was getting into and I thought I could just give up everything and things w... (270 words)

Would he ask me out if he isn't really interested?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - What is going on with this guy?. Someone I know is having an operation this week. He has cancer. He is in hospital at the moment. One of his friends sent me a text message yesterday saying that he hopes his operation will go well ,and I said I hoped it would too. I thoug... (196 words)

Could the abuse I suffered as a child explain my same-sex attraction?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 24 years old. As a child and teen, I experienced sexual abuse growing up in Saudi Arabia. My mother is full Saudi and my father is an American military man. I was born in the U.S. and am an american citizen, but moved to Saudi when I was one and lived there until I was 18. ... (812 words)

Hardened intuition- trust or not??

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - My long distance boyfriend (we are in our late 40s) insists that he is fully committed to me, is exclusive and has plans for us to retire together In 10 years... He was married for a year when he was 19 then played the field as a partying bachelor. He talks about past ... (313 words)

I feel like guys don't want to talk to me unless I dumb myself down

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I can't keep a guy's interest after the first night, will someone ever stay around long enough? I meet a guy out in a pub or maybe a friend of a friend and I can hold their interest for the night but after a string of promises that I will get a text in the morning, it rarely h... (206 words)

Do you think this man will bother me again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3734 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

It seems like he can't make time to talk to me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I'm with my bf for 2 years, currently we are in LDR due to his work. Its been days since he contacted me, he talks to me only once a week for few mins. I call him once everyday he never picks, if he does always finds reason to cut the call in few secs. Says he ca... (193 words)

Feeling resentment because of sex in otherwise great relationship.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year and a half, and since we go to the same university, we spend most of our time together and are very close (she was my best friend before we went out). However, when it comes to sex, I am starting to feel resentful becaus... (350 words)

I haven't told him about the baby for fear of rejection

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3733 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - my baby is two weeks old. in all honesty, i had a lot of doubts and had actually considered adoption because i was so unsure about being a mother. everything changed the moment i met him and I'm happier than I've ever been. he's so perfect. i had a rough pregnancy emotiona... (439 words)

What makes a guy lose interest early on?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Another men disappearing question..for the guys. What makes you lose interest in a woman before you have even gotten started?? I spent a little time with someone recently and liked him. He asked me out before and I did turn him down once but I had my own reasons. Reluct... (171 words)

No second date after 3-4 weeks of texting and talking...should I give up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3728 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - Last month, I met this guy online and we hit it off really well. I gave him my number, and we have been texting every day since … We went on one date, 3 weeks ago and it went great! All kinds of sparks, and he was very romantic and attentive. I really like him, and had assu... (592 words)

After we married I found out she'd been a call girl

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - A year and half ago i happen to know a girl through her relative. She was living in Singapore and i was living in UK. But we both were from Nepal(asian country). She was there since she was 8 or 9 living with her parents and two siblings. Her family was completely a typical ... (680 words)

I know he's a player but my gut says he really likes me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so here goes.. I met this guy in march just after i broke up with my ex and we hit it off straight away! its like we just had this little spark as soon as we met each other. I knew he was a player from the beginning and had commitment issues but because i was just out of a... (431 words)

Is he really too scared to get attached or is that just an excuse?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3734 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, this could be a long question so bare with me. Ive written about this previously. I had a 'thing' with my boss who is now my ex boss.I knew him before I worked there. Its very personal as to how we met earlier on this year i was attacked quite traumatically (I won't go... (1139 words)

Can this be fixed? Broke up. Reconnected for 1 night. But says we're done as he can't trust me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I need advice. I split with my boyfriend of a year a couple of months ago and flitted between getting back together and then not doing so. (I was going through a big depressive episode a and he was finding me difficult.) I also kissed someone while we were broken up. Two da... (184 words)

Is there any other way to handle the situation considering how strict my parents are?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 22-25 - Hello :) This guy really likes me and he even said "I love you" to me and I'm actually really into this guy. We started off really good friends and we found that we have a lot in common. We actually tried dating and it lasted for 7 months but a lot of things came between us. ... (316 words)

Sex with Guy at work. Do I try to dodge her questions or tell her the truth, and lose her as a friend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - So a few weeks ago I had sex with a guy that I work with, it was just a one time thing as we are just friends and I was leaving the job and we both wanted to have sex with each other. However now I feel really guilty as one of my close friends really likes him and I knew this... (249 words)

Has my GF moved on, or can I restart and save our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey friends..my gf has been annoying me for the last few weeks. she has also been spending time with a new male friend, because i refused to have sex with her last time as i was not feeling well. Is she teasing me or something else?please do suggest me. i want to save my rela... (56 words)

We've lost our mojo. He's no longer affectionate. How can we revitalise our 13 year marriage? .

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi Cupid. I have a relationship question. My husband isn't very affectionate and is embarrassed my romantic gestures even when I make them. We have been married for 13 years and I feel like we've lost our mojo so to speak. Couples counselling is out of the questi... (127 words)

How can I encourage this girl to want to show more interest in me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (M)

age 22-25 - I'm fond of a girl.. She is in my school and we've known each other for 5 years. I love her. Though she didn't know about this till a few months back. In grade 6, we used to sit together as our teacher had made it so.. I stood 1st then and she stood 2nd..but now we are in gr... (265 words)

3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3732 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). He's very concern with fin... (703 words)

I'm just having a really hard time dealing with my uncle's death and the guilt is pretty overwhelming at the moment

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, this isn't a relationship question but I've been using this site for over a year now and love the advice and help people give on here and thought you guys could give me some for my current situation. Unfortunately my uncle passed away just this weekend due to h... (150 words)

Should I reconsider? And try to work things out with him? Or move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3735 days ago

29 September 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey all so my boyfriend and I have been off and on for almost 2 years. Here recently we broke up and he moved on. He took his new gf around his friends like 2 or 3 times. Well he broke up with her 2 weeks ago and decided he wants us to work things out and build a relation... (207 words)