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writes:Did I over react? My boyfriend asked a girl to show him a slut drop (this is a dance move according to wikipedia) , which she did in front of me. I think this was inappropriate of him to ask he said he didn't think anymore of it other than he was being friendly. I feel annoyed and hurt but he doesn't understand why. Is it me reading too much into this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2014): Hi I am the original poster. We all were having a conversation earlier on in the evening about slut drops as he hadn't heard of it, later on in the evening he went up to her and asked her to show him the move, why not ask me? She also cupped his scrotum on way back up from move, I understand he had no control over that part though. I feel like he shouldn't have put himself in that position, and am sure he would think the same if it was the other way round!
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reader, Caring Aunty A +, writes (30 September 2014):
 He’s not ever going to understand (validate) the slightest reason why you’re annoyed and hurt when living in a slut drop culture… In this instance he’s one in a crowd of millions, with no censorship or manners to remotely think what is appropriate – to ask a stranger to show him…!? Get Real!
For me, it is not appropriate of him; to ask. Yet I can see why he thinks nothing of it; he’s clouded by that society where it has produced slut drops, drop kicks by the penny. So it naturally gets blurted out or considered the norm these days?
Just be thankful you were there and she or he didn't take this performance into a back seat of a car; now that would be reading too much into this.
Take Care – CAA
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 September 2014):
 I vote for over reacting. I mean, Beyonce does it all the time,... is your bf allowed to watch music videos ?
I guess he was joking, or trying to be sassy or witty - after all , you were there too, it's not as if has asked her a private lap dance.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 September 2014):
 Since I had no idea Slut drop was a dance move I had to google it.... (I have heard it used in the other term - which is giving a drunk chick a ride home and drop her off as far from her house as possible -a truly scumbag move)
I think him asking her to do it was a little odd, but not offensive. To me it's a stripper move.
It's basically a squat with one hand up. That is it. UNLESS she was also GRINDING on your man I don't see the big deal, my guess is he heard the term but didn't know what it was?
I think you ARE reading too much into it.
It's only a big deal, IF you make it a big deal. IF this is NOT OK with you, tell him, but do it without scolding him. Maybe ask why he asked HER to show that move.
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