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writes:What is going on with this guy?. Someone I know is having an operation this week. He has cancer. He is in hospital at the moment. One of his friends sent me a text message yesterday saying that he hopes his operation will go well ,and I said I hoped it would too.I thought he had just text me to talk about that, but then he asked me if I am that man's girlfriend, and he said if I'm not, could he ask me out?. I haven't responded to that. This guy has asked me out in the past, but not for a few months now. The thing is, I only met him a couple of times briefly so far. Would he ask me out if he isn't really interested though?. I don't see how he can fancy me when he hardly knows me, and why is he still interested now when he hasn't seen me for quite a while?.The thing is, I think his friend likes me too (the one who is having the operation). We aren't in a relationship though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2014): WiseOwlE, I know how he got my number. There were a couple of times in the past when the man I know (the one who is having the operation) borrowed that guy's phone to call me because he didn't have any credit on it. So, my number must have still been on there after that.To be honest, I can't understand why he is asking me out again now when his friend is so ill. I don't want to upset his friend, especially when he is going through such a difficult time.I like the man who is ill, but we aren't in a relationship. I do think that his friend is good looking though too. Like AndrewYourz said, I think I should just be friends with them both for now and see what happens. I'm not sure how to respond to this guy though. I feel like saying that I don't want a relationship at the moment, and I am just really worried about his friend at the moment.I'm also worried that the man who is ill might be upset if he finds out that I was texting his friend, even though I was only talking about him and saying that I hope everything goes well.
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reader, AndrewYourz  +, writes (30 September 2014):
 Tread carefully because they both like you and if you aren't careful you could ruin that friendship. Become good friends with both but build neither of their hopes just be a friend they can both confine in. If either want to take it further decide from what you know about them and then start a proper relationship. Good luck!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 September 2014):
 Yes, he would ask you out if he is not REALLY interested.
I mean, define " really "... He is not " really " interested because he barely knows you . But he surely can fancy what he sees !, and want to take it from there and see what develops.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (30 September 2014):
 He likes you based on physical attraction. He finds you attractive and that's the basis of his asking you. No, he wouldn't ask you out if he wasn't interested. He wants to get to know you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2014): Do you feel comfortable about it? It doesn't matter if he is interested. You're asking the wrong question. Shouldn't you want to know how he got your number to text you?
You don't know hardly anything about him. His roundabout way to reach you just doesn't feel right.
He went through someone else to get it; rather than asking you for it.
I wouldn't be too flattered about that, if it happened to me. If he is interested, he should have come to you to get permission to contact you.
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