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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey all so my boyfriend and I have been off and on for almost 2 years. Here recently we broke up and he moved on. He took his new gf around his friends like 2 or 3 times. Well he broke up with her 2 weeks ago and decided he wants us to work things out and build a relationship again. Well my only problem is is that he hasn't let me around his friends that he hangs out with the most. I've never met them or anything and it really makes me mad because the girl he was dating got to go around them and they hadnt been dating long. He says he doesn't want me around them yet because: 1) he just broke up with this girl 2 weeks ago. And because we don't have a stable relationship together because we are on and off. He is very serious when it comes to these friends because they're the only friends he hangout with. , he goes to church with them every Sunday, and he watches football games with them every Sunday. So should I reconsider working things out with him and just moving on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2014): Why do you keep recycling this ex-boyfriend? He doesn't want you around certain friends? That's a bad sign. Either he doesn't trust you, or he's ashamed of their opinions of you. Worst case scenario, he knows they wouldn't like you.
He only broke-up two weeks ago. So she's not completely out of the picture. There will be a rivalry and she will be sending him text messages. They will have unfinished business. Don't forget that his friends will discourage him from taking you back anyway.
He just needs someone around for sex on demand. He knows it's likely you'll breakup again; so he might as well use you for sex in the meantime. Do you really want to be the fill-in rebound girl, or be used in such a way? Do you want her sloppy seconds?
I think it's time to break the cycle and just move on. If he doesn't want you around certain friends, it means he holds higher regard for those friends than he does for you.
To add insult to injury, he introduced his new-then-ex-girlfriend to these "special friends." Kick him to the curb, and find a new boyfriend. He hasn't changed and the end result is too predictable.
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