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writes:I got drunk with my boyfriend of two years last Friday and suggested that we go to a strip club. It took him a while to come round to the idea but we eventually went. Well even when I was asking him I thought I'd probably end up getting jealous and dragging him out of there but I didn't at all. I had a great time with him and even when he had a private dance and I could see him with some really hot girl all over him I didn't feel any jealousy what so ever. I'm starting to think there's something wrong with me as I know for a fact most women would hate seeing that. He kept telling everybody he was going to marry me which was sweet! lol. And he kept looking at me every now and then and talked to me with the girls who stripped there. Am I totally weird for thoroughly enjoying myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2014): If it was switched round and he paid some guy to cop off with me I wouldn't like it. Although I did enjoy it it's starting to worry me why I am so cold as is suggested. I love him a lot there's no question of that so I don't really get what my emotions are doing right now. I have had a problem with jealousy in the past, he always talked about his ex girlfriend and talked to her more than I was comfortable but I didn't like it because feelings were involved not just him fancying somebody. We've worked that out now and we're very happy. We have a great sex life, I know he fancies me and I have the feeling he wouldn't hook up with somebody just for sex. He told me sex is better when you know your partner well and one night stands are embarrassing and a bit crap. Maybe there's just a strange little part of me that is a bit kinky and like some excitement. Ah I shouldn't read in to it too much, we both enjoyed it and it hasn't hurt anybody, maybe he just makes me feel secure so stuff like this doesn't bother me anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2014): Although you were drunk, you were not giving your boyfriend permission to cheat. You were feeling frisky and uninhibited. On the spur of the moment you felt like just letting-up, and allowing him some fun. Adding a little spice.
Just don't create a monster, and end-up regretting it.
It was all under your authorization and supervision. Legally, the girls could only go so far anyway. It was a thrill for an evening. I don't suggest you make it a habit. You'll be back on DC complaining when he wants a threesome. Then an open relationship. Then a breakup. It was all in fun, but keep a grip on it.
Don't let alcohol overrule your better judgement.
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reader, Katie-Lynn  +, writes (30 September 2014):
 I hate to call names and say "Oooooh, you're totally weird" so I'll just say that the action itself is weird. I personally wouldn't even dream of asking my boyfriend of 3 years to do that. It is totally unloyal and having that in a relationship made for 2 people isn't right. It even encourages him/her to cheat and continue to do this/disrespect you knowing you or the other person won't get upset by it which could very easily lead to trust issues. I advise to not do this sort of thing anymore. Better yet, look deep within yourself and ask if you truly love this man cause this isn't a very loving thing to do with both parties.If you find that you really do love him, try to get some counseling in? Cause this isn't normal. You could've just been drunk, but I don't see myself doing this when drunk and neither would my boyfriend. I know that for a fact. But yea. That's my spin on things. Good luck.
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reader, HappyPlace +, writes (30 September 2014):
 Perhaps you have voyeristic tendencies, who knows. Maybe the alcohol had something to do with it too. I am not sure why you are posting your question - if you were entirely happy then why post? And what did you get out of the experience? Perhaps try reversing the role to understand the dynamic - imagine if your BF had taken you to a club and watched while men copped off with you for money? I personally wouldn't do it - why on earth would I want to see some hot chick gyrating on my husband - I don't think that would do much for our intimacy, it all sounds very cold. Personally I have no time for women who take their clothes off to earn a buck - they are doing a disservice (IMHO) to the rest of womankind. Women are much more than the sum of their body parts. Do you love your BF?? Would you like your BF to visit these clubs on his own? Maybe it gave you some level of control over the situation which you enjoyed. Who knows. Either way, if you enjoy it then you don't need us to tell you it's OK.
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