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Archived questions from: September, 2013 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

A friend dropped off the grid. I value privacy too highly to charge in uninvited.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (M) - I am in my mid 30s and is a secret introvert. However, as the coach at a popular UK University Sports Society, I end up going out most nights. I have a rule, Sundays are mine. Mine alone. Without it, I would be lost and be unable to cope with interacting with other ... (532 words)

Any advice on regaining some sort of power in a casual relationship?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, I find myself in a bad situation, the classic casual hook up turned messy. I am seeing a younger man casually (I didnt think there was a future in it because of the age difference) and now I am having the usual problems associated with this situation. I like him now... (184 words)

How do I help my friend who has been drinking again and has started making unwanted sexual advances?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (?) age 36-40 - Hello. I would appreciate advice on how to help my friend. I am a 26 year old female, and my friend is quite a bit older than me. He lives across the road from me, and I know he has struggled with alcohol issues in the past. He used to drink a lot and he would become agg... (448 words)

I'm confused after this kiss with another girl!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Wer do I start I have this mate who I went to college with ! Every now and then we meet up to keep in touch! Through her I met her friend from the first time I saw her I thought she was pretty and felt unnerved by her! Maybe a year later I seen her again and her eyes caught ... (288 words)

How can I make him understand that my life is not just an extension of his?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my bf for about two years now when we met I had moved to the city and so didn't know anyone but my aunt here who's no help to me whatsoever. The problem is I haven't made any friends since we got together we do everything he wants to do see everyone he wants to ... (308 words)

Me and my boyfriend are terrible at communicating, can this be fixed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my boyfriend are terrible at communicating, can this be fixed? We have been together for over 3 years but I still find it very difficult to talk to him about the future or anything like that. I know we can't go on like this, but I feel that when I try to talk to him a... (194 words)

Is this just a lack or courage or a sign I shouldn't end it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm struggling to let go of a bad relationship and need to know whether what I am feeling is normal? We've been together for over 4 years and I love him a lot, but we've had lots of problems in that time, mainly to do with the fact I've never really felt that I'm a priority i... (292 words)

Will he wait for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (?) age 41-50 - I really like this guy at work, I am on a contract that ends in the next 8 months but the work policy does not allow employees to form relationships as it creates conflict of interests. We flirt a lot and he responds very well, I have a feeling he likes me, but we can't be seen ... (227 words)

Where do I stand with this guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all I am going to try and cut to the chase here, I am confused about where I stand with this guy I met. Initially, the guy who I shall name L, approached me 1st in a bar when me and my friend were sat alone in the corner. My friend who is as intuitive as me sensed that he ... (306 words)

Am I being unreasonable in expecting my boyfriend to spend less time with his friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I are both 28 years old. He is the love of my life and the best person I have been with. We both always say how Much we love each other and have stated we want a future together. We are both saving at the moment but are thinking of moving in next year after ... (890 words)

How late is too late to start dating in the modern world?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start looking for a relationship. 25? 30? 35? I mean, to really just START! Never been on a date before, never had sex, maybe never even kissed a girl. This could all be due to many combination of reasons: ... (161 words)

Need some advice regarding healthy food options to help with weight loss.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there, I wrote up last week about wanting to loose a stone quickly. Thanks for your advice I totally get where your all coming from. I just wondered if you could give me some advice on a controlled diet as, as usual people say eat salads but I actually cannot stand them. So ... (472 words)

New to sex and finding it uncomfortable. Any advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Sup everyone. So I lost my virginity a few days ago with this girl I'm in a LTR with. We ended up having sex twice that night, and once more yesterday. The thing is I'm having issues/weird feelings while having sex. This might get graphic but this is really bothering me so I ... (383 words)

My mom doesn't think I should take my expensive purse on vacation with us! How do I address this?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently purchased a $400-valued Coach handbag and I carry it everywhere with me. My family and I are visiting relatives in east Asia this winter, and my mom is concerned that my handbag will attract unwanted attention and thieves. While I understand her concerns, I ... (191 words)

My FWB says he feels no connection. What does he mean?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age - He says he does not know why but he cannot feel a connection to me. he says he cannot feel anything in his heart anymore since his live in gf of 5 yrs cheated on him. It has been 4 yrs since she did this. we started seeing each other 1 yr ago. He considers me fwb. I want ... (183 words)

Would you wish your ex a happy birthday?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (M) age 30-35 - She broke up with me and we've been no contact since she greeted me for MY birthday, two weeks after the break up. We've been friends for almost 6 years (on and off) before the romantic relationship. She contacted me only once after the BU, when she was drunk but that's it. ... (101 words)

Is it possible for a fwb to turn into love and if so how?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age - seeing my guy 1 yr now. He says he there will never be anything between us. yet one time after sex (he sometimes thinks out loud) he said emotions cannot get into this. He gets closer i think and then pulls away spacing out visits i think to keep his emotions at bay,but it ... (253 words)

What should I make of her very friendly actions?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - A female who I've hung out with a few times before, a few days ago grabbed and pulled my head into her breasts on a few separate occasions 10-15 mins apart during a sporting event. We cheered for different teams, each time her team scored, she would stand up and then proceed to ... (94 words)

Did Karma use me for sex because I tried to use her for sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Is Karma with merit? I ask this because what I did to another person seems to be happening to me now. I'm bisexual and I was trying to use a nice woman for sex but it never panned out. She found out what I was really about as far as only wanting to use her for sex and it hurt ... (219 words)

Past abuse is getting in the way of this relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I was in this crazy abusive relationship with my ex when I was 17 (I’m 20 now). He used to hit me so hard that I black out. He left bruises and cuts all over me. He hated it when I would talk to or look at other boys and that cause half of my beatings. Even if I glanced at a ... (373 words)

Why can't he cum during oral sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - During oral sex my boyfriend gets himself close to cumming and his breathing changes and all these normal things but he can't!! I'm pretty sure it's not me because he has no problem with handjobs and when he's in the shower he can't. In pretty sure it's the fact that that area ... (58 words)

I like him a lot but have no clue what to do

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - So theres this guy I've liked for a year and we're friends. I like him A LOT, but I'm sure he doesn't feel the same. Ifeel crazy though cause he always is the one who makes me smile even if I'm having the worst day. He always finds someway to make my day better even if he ... (154 words)

Am I gay, bi or straight?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - is it gay to have a thoughts about a guy but also think abot girls all the time to or am i just looking to experiment. i feel a connection with him we even cuddle every time were alone. but on the flip side girls always shoot me down and friend zone me what am i doing wrong ... (86 words)

Did he see this as a one-night thing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a complicated situation. A week ago, I met a guy while out, and we ended up hanging out all night (just hanging out). I am 31, and I found out later that he is only 21!!! He is not your typical 21 year old at all, more mature, lives on his own without roommates, works ... (478 words)

Is my boyfriend scamming me??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Is my boyfriend scamming me?? Here I am still in this 13 year relationship and it has been so long I don't even know if what I feel for him is love. Added to that are the arguments we have quite often. Of course, he still looks around every chance he gets and I know that won'... (251 words)

I hacked her facebook from her phone and found she's talking to a guy!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello am I 27 year old male who has been with my girlfriend for the past 5 months. We've been having some problems lately. I looked on her phone which I know I shouldn't have done but I went to her Facebook account and looked at her messages and seen she was talking to a guy. ... (135 words)

I hope somehow I see him to show him how much I have changed. And why would he call me after a year of no contact a few days after my birthday?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, Lately I've been thinking if my ex a lot. Not in an emotional way however sometimes I get upset at how things could have been different, wondering what he is up to now, and wondering if he thinks of me. We broke up around the middle of July 2012. He was ... (288 words)

Am I giving him the wrong idea when we kiss and things? How do I tell him I want a serious commitment before I give him my v-card? How do I know he's the right one?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4066 days ago

30 September 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I want to lose my virginity, but I'm afraid. I love this guy but we're not together, ive known him for some years and we recently decided to start talking a few months ago. I knew from years ago that he was the one I wanted to lose it too, but I want a commitment before I... (190 words)

I love him, but he hardly pays any attention to me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in a long distance relationship with someone who I've known for years. And for about a year he'd been begging to get to know me more and often told me how much he admired me. I've been hesitant because he lives in a totally different country but I was always attracted to ... (403 words)

Will it cause problems with my fellow lifeguards if I ask him out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I work as a life guard in a indoor pool and I'm very attracted to one guy who started swimming there. He is tall dark and handsome and very sociable. There is one issue though, whenever I talk to him I find myself glancing down at his body and checking him out. Oh and yes he ... (111 words)

I just want to tell him I have a crush on him!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey guys, so i've had a crush on this guy at school (im also a guy and i am gay) but the problem is i've never had an actual conversation with him. Im also pretty sure hes straight even though he hasn't had a girlfriend. My problem is that im sure he doesn' like me back but i ... (107 words)

I'm confused as to what he wants from me. I love him so much but why wont he ask me out if he claims to have these feelings for me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm confused as to what he wants from me. I love him so much but why wont he ask me out if he claims to have these feelings for me. We met a few years ago, we fell in love, he disappeared we moved on. 5 years later we met up again, and feelings came back. we have been... (631 words)

How can I contact again my ex-friend and crush and should I? I regret losing him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4055 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - It's a bit long but that's because i'm gonna try to explain things well so that hopefully you can answer accuraletly... if you could give me your opinion on it i'd be VERY grateful ! So here is the story This guy got interested in me right after we met, he chased me but i... (1210 words)

Is it normal to be scared of losing your virginity?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't really know why i'm scared of loosing my virginity. Is it normal for someone to be scared of loosing their virginity?. Or is it just me actin in accordance to my body's tone? I just need advice. Any comment will be appreciated. Thanks.... (45 words)

How much should I dress up or make up for my FWB?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello aunts and uncles. I have a fwb with this guy who I really fancy! He knows How much I fancy him, but we both know it will not become anything more. I'm just wondering how much effort should I or shouldn't I be putting in into our sexy time? I'm terms of what I'm wearing... (187 words)

My boyfriend cheated, on top of that we are of different religions.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4056 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 23 years old and am a doctor. I am in india. I am in love with my boyfriend for 5years our relationship has been fine except for a few ups and downs . During the first year of our college my bf was dating a classmate of ours they then stopped talking i know about this. 1 ... (255 words)

He has so little time for me I feel it might be time to break it off

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - There are a couple of similar posts up here today which is what brought me to this site, but none really sum up my situation properly which is why I am posting too. I am 28 and have been with my 25 year old boyfriend for 3.5 years. He is a music teacher so works unsociable... (357 words)

I did everything for him and he wants to break up?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I got together this january after he constantly pestered me to get with him despite all our mutual friends advising me against it. I told him I am not looking for sex in the relationship due to my religious beliefs and family values and that it might not work ... (512 words)

Travelling helped me realize what kind of rut I was in at home

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - This has built up over the years. I am not the confident person I want to become and deserve to be; this has involved caring too much about what people think, not believing in my ability to achieve things at times, letting some things and some people get me down too easily, ... (421 words)

Going to meet my online girl and would really like to lose my virgnity with her

This question has 65 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

29 September 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - hello. i'd really like your opinions and advice on my current situation... this is going to be a bit long, but PLEASE bare with me. i am 24 years old and STILL a virgin and it's frustrating. i'm not a bad looking guy by any means. i've been told i could be a model ... (548 words)

Should I stay in contact with him after such a rocky start?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4046 days ago

29 September 2013 (?) age 51-59 - Okay I just recently joined another dating site. It is a little different from the ones I have been on. It is a site for people who are spiritual and are into healing. I tried it out for free for about a week and then I get a message from a guy who is around my age range. He ... (548 words)

Together for over 5 years and yet we hardly see each other. Is moving in together the best way to improve the relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Should I move in with my boyfriend even though we hardly see each other? We have been together for over 5 years, but due to his work schedule and social commitments, we see each other once a week at the most. I don't feel we are 'serious' enough to take this step, but he sees ... (69 words)

Vibrators - are they all penetrative?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, We've discussed vibrators and wanted to know if vibrators have to be inserted? my wife always has clitoral orgasms and is not comfortable with anything being inserted into her. Having a brief look, it looks like they need to be penetrative which my wife would not be com... (63 words)

Sex buddies forever or could there be more? I've fallen for him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Okay... So here goes, I am current having sex ( we have done it once) with a guy.... We decided we were going to meet with each other around 14 months ago and thats how it was going to be... Since then we have texted like crazy (flirty messages and that) and we have actually ... (339 words)

Does he really take Viagra just to masturbate?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been in Married 15 years. I love him very much. However, I found two times he took Viagra with him when he is a way for a long trip. First time I found he took about 2 pill, this time was half of the bill. Both times, I talked to him. I asked him why does he need it when ... (184 words)

My boyfriend is flipping out because my family is here helping with our new baby!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years and just had a baby a month ago he goes to school and works and I stay home on leave, my family and him dont get along and lately my family has been up to help me out with the baby because were around 6 hours away so they ... (266 words)

I'm not sure how to tell my girlfriend I'd like to have time to spend with my friends.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm not sure how to tell my girlfriend I'd like to have time to spend with my friends. We have opposite schedules at the moment for the most part, so she thinks I have all this free time when she isn't around when I really don't. In fact it makes me even more lonely beca... (217 words)

I am afraid that our "relationship" is more physical than emotional for him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been dating this man for about 2 months now and am concerned where our "relationship" is going. When we first started talking I told him I was not interested in any type of relationship or fling or anything in between. Despite that we began hanging out. He is really nice, ... (657 words)

Does a person show the "real" side of him or herself when drunk?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

29 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Just curious does anyone think that when a person is drunk they turn into the 'real' them?? not in a sense of sober they're nice and drunk they fight but in a sense where sober they're one way and drunk they flirt ALOT and say things that would be hurtful or disrespectful to... (130 words)

Yells, screams and is needlessly hostile to me. How do I deal with my BF when he is like this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

28 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Needlessly hostile boyfriend, hard to deal with. I'm on my last nerve with my boyfriend, and I feel like I have no one else to turn to. We've been dating for over a year, and we're both 21. This weekend was supposed to be a good, fun couple of days with him, and yesterda... (288 words)