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writes:So theres this guy I've liked for a year and we're friends. I like him A LOT, but I'm sure he doesn't feel the same. Ifeel crazy though cause he always is the one who makes me smile even if I'm having the worst day. He always finds someway to make my day better even if he doesn't know he's doing it. The crazy thing is..he's also the same thing that can take away my smile just as easily as he gave me it..I don't know what to do. To me, he's not just my friend, he means so much more than that to me but he'll never know cause he's chasing after another girl he seems to like a lot. I guess i am tired of waiting around for him but i also love how our friendship is now.I am so confused and i have no clue of what to do.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2013): Does he have any inclination you feel this way about him? Him going after another girl isn't the be all and end all- he may think you're out of his league or that you could never like him like that... I agree with the last poster that you should drop as many hints as you can- flirt more to test the waters. Make lots of eye contact, smile and laugh at his bad jokes, and physical contact- hugs, touching his arm etc. wear good fitted clothes, emphasise your female assets (within reason haha) see if he notices! Google "non verbal signs of attraction" a d look at his body language. I advise organising some sort of group night. Where you, him mutual friends try a new restaurant, attraction, bowling or something. Don't get drunk but maybe have a drink or two, loosen you up. you could make him something...I think MAKING someone a personal gift says it all really.... Maybe a personalised wallet or some thing...There's only one way you can get out of this rut by letting him know... He will either feel the same, not feel the same OR use you for some fun... Bear in mind if he's hung up on this other girl and he strings you along he's NOT a nice guy. Theres no excuses for treating you like an object. You'd be amazed at how people that seem like nice, decent people really show their true colours... It's very hard to see through people so,e times. But look at the signs, observe how he treats her and listen to your gut. We've all known people for years thinking they're a catch when they just turn out to be w**kers. Be on the alert.Good luck, i hope it works out for the best! Xx :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2013): My advice : Perhaps you could drop a few hints without directly telling him. See how he responds to those hints. And yes, it's very likely that he doesn't have feelings for you since he's interested in some other girl, but it's worth the try right? You'll never know if you never try. But like I said, drop hints don't just blurt it out like, "Hey, I like you a whole lot." That will probably freak him out. And if he doesn't feel the same, his ass. Just saying. Many of us have been in your situation.
Goodluck OP
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