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writes:Sup everyone. So I lost my virginity a few days ago with this girl I'm in a LTR with. We ended up having sex twice that night, and once more yesterday. The thing is I'm having issues/weird feelings while having sex. This might get graphic but this is really bothering me so I need to clarify. The thing is at first I thought she may be too tight or that I may be too big (that's what she thinks). I doubt either of those are the case because she was in a LTR before me and they never had any probs and also I'm not extremely big or whatever. The thing is when I go to put it in it feels really weird to me and not really enjoyable. It feels like I'm like "pushing" it in with lots of friction rather than gliding in smoothly. I can only put it in about 3/4 in before its near impossible to put it in further and if I try I feel like I'm bending my unit which feels god awful. Also I've only been able to have sex in a weird missionary position where I'm upright with my legs bent and under hers so I'm pushing straight in almost like doggy style (haven't tried doggy yet but I figure that will work as well). If I try missionary or her on top it literally feels like my unit is bending upwards and is uncomfortable as hell. I've gone soft twice inside just because of how uncomfortable it is. This is bullshit because sex is supposed to feel amazing but with the condom and these issues I can barely focus on the good aspects, just how uncomfortable it is. I haven't tried lube yet which I really really hope solves these issues but I've never heard of this before. Unfortunately I have nothing to compare to since this is the first girl I've been with but this is getting to me. Maybe with more experience this prob will go away and luckily I make her buckwild and shiver with oral/fingering techniques but I really want to be able to enjoy normal intercourse as well. If anyone else has experienced or heard of this and has any advice it would be a godsend. Thx in advance
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (30 September 2013):
 There are some brilliant answers here so I have only one more thought to add.
I think that maybe a few nerves might be softening your erection just a little making penetration harder and can cause the bending sensation you describe.
Applying the condom may also being allowing time for the penis to soften a bit. Once applied, continue foreplay and stimulation until the old chap is well up for it and then try again.
Experiment with positions and also plenty of lube. It will improve.
You know what they say, practice makes perfect and most of all, learn to laugh about it. Laughter makes this less stressful and the more stressed you get the more likely this is to happen.
Oh yeah and check your condom brand too, that it's not too tight or too thick (reducing sensation).
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, person12345 +, writes (30 September 2013):
 If you're certain she's REALLY turned on, like about to orgasm or already orgasmed, try lube. And I agree with Sageoldguy, don't get the cheap stuff, it is sticky. However, 99% of the time this issue is that she's not turned on enough. Make sure you're giving her a good 20 minutes to get turned on before you jump into penetration.
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reader, ModelCitizen +, writes (30 September 2013):
First of all, it sounds as though the angle you are trying to insert it at has a lot to do with it. My boyfriend sometimes tries to push in and he's totally misjudged the angle so he ends up bending himself slightly and not getting fully in. Get her to hold you and 'guide you in' as she will know what way is right.
Secondly, I think lube will make a massive difference. If it is the angle, then lube will correct a lot of that for you as it will make things a lot more 'slippery' (best word I could think of!) It could be that she's not lubricated enough and her vagina is actually resisting. Please also know that wetness isn't always related to how turned on a girl is either so please don't fret about that.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (30 September 2013):
 Take it from this stud, who routinely gets his girls to "....make her buckwild and shiver with oral/fingering techniques (and other things!)..." The lube is going to turn MAGIC in your lovemaking!!!!
Good luck....
P.S. Don't be cheap... get the good stuff!!!!!
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