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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is the problem that I masturbate too much? Should I tell her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok so I've have had sex with about 4 girls in my life and I'm 26 year old mail. The problem is none of them have ever got me to come and I'm not exactly sure why I can't! I can get myself to come easily. I can't come for my current girlfriend and it bothers the both of us a ... (130 words)

He never acted like this before. Why is he acting like this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4120 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I broke up about a week ago. He still things of his at my house we dated for 5 months and 2 weeks. He moved in a month after we started dating. We had taken a break he moved out. A month ago I decided that I wanted to move on so I took his things to his work . ... (268 words)

How do I know if she wants to hang out every weekend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4120 days ago

8 September 2013 (M) age 26-29 - My girlfriend and I started dating at the beginning of the summer. At that point we were hanging out as often as we could because between our schedules we were only free every couple weeks. Now that school has started again I see her everyday. So far we have hung out every ... (170 words)

Is my paranoia from past hurt destroying my new relationship or is my new guy just a snake?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4122 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - In EVERY relationship I've ever been in I've been lied to, cheated on and had horrible mind games played on me. I've had boyfriends move in with other partners behind my back,get engaged,get other girls pregnant and move away to name but a few incidents. My... (682 words)

Virginity and losing it..how do you know when you are ready?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4102 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 19 and a 2nd year varsity student... I've been in a relationship with this guy for over 2 years now... He loves me and treats me like a queen. We are both virgins and we are considering having sex. I would just like some sort of guidance as 2 how do u know when you are ... (200 words)

My EX from 2 weeks ago is already ENGAGED to her PREVIOUS EX!!! Help!!!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - So I figured I would get an outsiders, unbiased perspective on this situation. My ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We broke it off very well; maturely, trying to stay friends, and kept it very civil. We were dating for about a year and were living together,... (760 words)

If he really loved me wouldn't he talk about making changes in our lives?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid, Looking for a man perspective. I've been in an exclusive relationship for 3 years, we are both middle-aged. We've broken up several times, because I'm frustrated in not seeing any progress and he is unwilling to talk about where relationship is headed. But he c... (138 words)

Boyfriend not making much effort in our relationship to talk and visit

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4085 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my now boyfriend have been friends for years, but we just started dating 3 months ago. I always liked him, just didn't know how to bring it up, and he seemed to really like me so we talked more and more, he told me he would love to be in a relationship, and I agreed. ... (372 words)

My ex and I have become FWB, he says he wants more but I'm not sure??

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I know this will sound incredibly stupid, and reckless but I have been having a purely sexual relationship with my ex and the father of my two children. I know people say it all the time, but it really did just happen. We had taken our children out for the day, and he came... (326 words)

I don't want to be single my whole life! Is there hope for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F) age 36-40 - I was with my ex for 4 years, the last 2 years was LD. He was my first. He cheated me twice the first two years and I caught him kissing someone else while he studied abroad. I forgave him and gave him chances even though he hurt me so much. We were on and off so many times ... (386 words)

My LDR friend said he loved me then blocked me! Why?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm feeling very confused and even more so after asking for the help of my friends as all of them have very conflicting opinions! So I was hoping you could offer some help and advice. I will try not to make this too long whilst not missing out anything vital. Basically I st... (961 words)

I don’t understand myself anymore

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4120 days ago

8 September 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear all, I will start with a small introduction; I am 28 and had only one single romantic relationship in life. After the breakup, I started a hellish dry spell that still lasts to this day (more or less 3 years now). After doing a lot to improve myself, I started attendin... (584 words)

2 yr update on being married and cheated on

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - original post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/revenge-cheatingwill-it-help-.html I would like to start by saying thanks to all those people who commented and gave positive advice to me when i had nobody to speak to about what i was feeling and going threw . I have fully for... (125 words)

Did I break his trust by talking to a man during our break?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4122 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - hi, i want to ask ...that i was in relationship with a guy since 3 years. i listen to whateva he says be it whatever as im soo in love with him. he is very restrictive regarding whom to talk , where to go , what to wear etc . i initially had problems in adjusting but now i ha... (443 words)

Can all this small talk lead to romance?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a University Student, and I'm taking English Literature as my Major. I meet with a beautiful classmate on my first day. (Let's call her Alice.) During our class, our Professor asks the class which writers have stood out from today's writers, and a fellow student answered... (584 words)

Does he really care for her if me and him have something that good?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I know what i did was wrong but if someone can try and answer my question without the lecture I would be so grateful! I started seeing a guy from work and totally fell for him. Despite being in two serious relationships for over 3 years each time, it was totally differen... (555 words)

Friendship turned sour after our forbidden secret got out.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 22-25 - I have a load of regrets. I do a lot of things that I think'll beay.So here we go, problem one: I had/have this friend (let's call him O) who I have gotten pretty close with, and he isn't really the most trustworthy person. But I trusted him. Now if you're reading this and ... (516 words)

Should I write a letter to my ex for closure?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, so, my ex boyfriend broke up with me two months ago. It was the beginning of the summer, and he probably wanted to spend his time alone/with his friends no strings attached. During these two months I truly tried to get over him, but it seems like it is really imp... (178 words)

An unexpected crush on my teacher.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4100 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I don't know how to start but this is my problem. I have a crush on my teacher and I know it's really creepy. (I don't want to but it just happened). Our age gap is seven years. And if you categorize me to stereotypes, I belong at Emo kids, (those who wear black? Dapressed... (371 words)

If a crush lasts for several years, does that mean it's actually love?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I have heard that a crush would slow down and finally disappear, but I wonder how long it lasts. If a crush lasts for 2.5 years and you see the person on a daily basis, is it still a crush? I have read that crush is infatuation or lust so it can't be long? If it is that long ... (63 words)

My boyfriend loves me but is constantly on Facebook and has messages from other women on his phone.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - So my Boyfriend of 6 months that loves me to death and worships the ground I walk on is constantly on FacebooK. I actually Deactivated my account because of him. I just got tired of constantly seeing him on there... So tonight when he was checking it like he always does I t... (137 words)

Can I trust a marriage counsellor to keep my confidentiality or will s/he tell my wife everything I say?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4119 days ago

8 September 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife and I have been going through a rough patch lately. I think we need to see a therapist, counselor, or psychologist. I am not sure if the rules regarding confidentiality are different for each, but I am wondering if what I say will ultimately get back to my wife. For ... (136 words)

He's 14 years younger than me, is it possible that he might like me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I need your advice! I am a 46 year old single woman and work with a 33 year old guy. He is nice and kind and helpful and flirtatious towards me. He is always ready to help. Although I am 46 but I look less ( I guess) specially my body looks very in shape. I am wondering if ... (187 words)

Does it sound like I have social anxiety?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4122 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I'm hoping you can help me work out whether you think I have social anxiety or not. I'm going to make an appointment with my GP on Monday, but I've just heard of this disorder and it would be good to hear opinions from people who know more about it if possible? The ... (627 words)

What is it about me that makes me unapproachable when I'm alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4122 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I had a comment from a stranger in a bar that I have an aura around me that it's hard for anyone to approach me. He said, despite the fact that you are very pretty, your face is the most unfriendly. That was an eye opening for me. I started to rememeber all the episodes tha... (437 words)

Are we just playing hard to get?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So me and this guy knew each other back in the day and I'm 99% sure we liked each other but never admitted it to each other (we're both stubborn and play hard to get). Anyways we are both in our early 20s now and it's funny sometimes when we are talking he will say "I don't ... (152 words)

Opposing work schedules! How do we make the best of it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4107 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I work as a teacher, Monday through Friday, and am up 6am and get home around 4pm. My husband works as a casino dealer and works weekend shifts and weekdays that he can pick up from 9pm-5am.....Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays guaranteed. Therefore, we have literally NO time ... (106 words)

I feel I'm losing my long-distance friend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - dear cupid i have been talking to a guy abroad for about 2 and half years now. he has a girlfriend and i only knew about it recently. however he said he really likes me and wants to continue talking to me as a friend. we do talk about sex and talk really closely. he's like my ... (259 words)

I'm not sure if this woman I work with is interested in me or if she's even gay. She seemed to be wearing my hairband on her wrist, could there be some hidden meaning?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I work with someone who I'm not sure if she knows I'm interested and if she's gay or not. I've come across a photo a colleague showed me of this woman at work what looked to be wearing my hair band on her wrist..bearing in mind the person I'm talking about has short hair so ... (84 words)

How do I tell new guy that I need to be single, and how do I get over my ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4122 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I just had my first boyfriend and I'm almost positive that I'm in love with him, but we broke up two weeks ago. I just got to college and I was thinking to get over him I needed a rebound, so I started hanging out with this guy and we've made out. But while making out with the ... (137 words)

Is the guy I like gay?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4121 days ago

8 September 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I think the guy I like is gay. But I don't think he even knows it yet. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing wrong with gay people, but I have this habit it finding/falling for gay guys and I would rather that not be the case with this guy. I have already asked multiple times and ... (152 words)

What do you guys think of my situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4116 days ago

8 September 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - [Mod note: this written by a male OP in the voice of his female girlfriend.] I love my mother dearly, but recently she has been getting on my nerves. I'm 33 and am starting to get free of my seizures, but she won't really loosen up and treat me like an adult. I know I've made a ... (416 words)

Does this girl see me as a potential date?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4120 days ago

8 September 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - there is this girl ,a very pretty girl in our Workplace whom i chat always with . in our discussion she laughs at my slightest joke. in our workplace girls appreciate very much my sense of humour. i do joke around with them very well. this pretty girl do compliment my ... (238 words)