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30-35,
*lassyKirsty
writes:Hi allI am going to try and cut to the chase here, I am confused about where I stand with this guy I met. Initially, the guy who I shall name L, approached me 1st in a bar when me and my friend were sat alone in the corner. My friend who is as intuitive as me sensed that he really was into me and he confessed that he as. When I told him I was going to leave early, he texted me asking me why I left so early, and then he said to text him in the morning. I left him to text me in the morning and he did. He was inquisitive about where I lived, was it far to get there etc small talk. We maintained a texting marathon for roughly a month, until I told him that I would come to Swansea with him for a night out, then I bailed out on him by saying I was going to go a different day with my friends, he sounded disappointed and reassured himself that I would come back.A week later I texted him but I received some immature texts which turned out was from his friends, and he intervened and stopped them. I sent him a few texts after but no reply. I waited 2 weeks and asked him how he was, and he sent the same amount of kisses as he usually did, then I said are we just friends? and he said he would rather that due to him working alot busy schedule, then I asked do you want to be casual instead then he jumped at the word and asked to be more specific. What do you think is the best course of action to take? Thanks :)
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reader, Ladyhopeful  +, writes (30 September 2013):
If you are wanting a serious relationship, then this guy isn't for you.
He isn't looking for commitment of any kind.
You are worth more than what this guy has to offer you, walk away, and find someone who is looking for what you want and need.
Good Luck!
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (30 September 2013):
 If you're looking for a relationship, you're wasting your time with this guy.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 September 2013):
 I think he thinks the word "casual" is code for FWB. Do you want that? If yes, then carry on. If not, then the best course of action is to sail past him.
I don't see why you are confused. If a man wants to date a woman, he'll make it happen. If he's not all that interested, a few texts now and again will keep some potential bedmates in the queue for when he has a few moments.
The entire relationship seems to have been built on texting. I wouldn't give too much weight to texts, if a guy really wants to get to know you, he'll go out of his way to see you. This guy didn't. Next time, let the guy prove himself. Texting doesn't count.
Good luck.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 September 2013):
 The course that you prefer.
Obviously the guy wants to know if you'd be OK having casual , " fun " sexual encounters with no strings and not much planning- when it happens it happens.
If this is what you are looking for too, he's game .
If you instead want something more relationship-y, then no, he's already told you the work and the schedule and blah blah so that you don't get any ideas.
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