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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My grown son wants to be independant. My ex is the one digging his heels in. Can anyone give me some good advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age - My only child is a grown man, but with a mental illness. He was on his own and became severely ill and unable to care for himself. His healing team told me this was a unique situation and he needed to come home. I was engaged and living with my then-fiance at the time, wh... (538 words)

Has anyone been in therapy and tell me how long it took before they saw any positive results?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Has anyone been in therapy and tell me how long it took before they saw any positive results? I suffer from severe depression. This particular episode (which has lasted nearly 4 years) has been really hard to shift. I have been seeing a therapist for about 6 months now (havi... (135 words)

She enjoys sex, so why not more often?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi all This is going to be a long post, props to those who take the time to read it. :) Me and my gf have been together for 18 months now. We had our ups and downs, as most couples, for the most part we solved our issies, but there is one problem that exists since the be... (757 words)

Why am I so obsessed with the chase?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello. I really struggle when knowing if I like a guy or not, and I was hoping you could give me some advice. I never know if I like the guy himself, or the idea of him. For example, if I tell myself I like a guy, I like him- but as soon as we start texting im not inter... (122 words)

My girlfriend acts like she's black

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - Before me, my girlfriend had only dated black guys. I'm the first white guy she has ever dated. Around me she acts like her normal self but in public (usually only around black people) she acts like she is black. It gets really annoying. Don't get me wrong I have nothing ... (167 words)

I don't know how to handle my 9 year old daughter's extreme jealousy

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been divorced for 3 yrs. I have a 9 yr old daughter. I am trying to bring a good man into my home life as well as we have now been together 6 months and it is definitely a ltr. I have kept any dating and men away from my children until it became serious. My proble... (249 words)

Does my travelling put guys off?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - i feel like i am never going to settle down and find mr.right :( i am a 25 year old girl from the uk who has travelled a lot and i still love to travel, but i feel like it really puts guys off. They like to have flings with me but then for some reason they just stop messagig ... (123 words)

Why does he say I'm the only girl for him and then ignore my suggestions of meeting up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I find this man so confusing please please help!!!I have known him for about 7 years. We have both been away and travelled etc...but always been 'casual sex buddies'. We ahve a lot in common but I think have both enjoyed being single. He lives about 3 hours away at the moment, ... (177 words)

Married four years and the sex is dismal

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Im in my forties my husband is 39 we have been married for 4 years i love him more than anything but we never seem to have sex it feels like he doesn't want to do anything with me and i feel lonely and unloved and im thinking he doesn't fancy me or love me anymore i try talking ... (130 words)

Crossroads in my love life

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been with my partner for a very long time, 14 years to be precise, and I'm only 32 years old, hes 34. For the 1st 5-8 years the relationship was perfect, the sex was good and we were, and still are, great friends, really close companions. However, life started to ... (1507 words)

I know very little about post menopause!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4002 days ago

4 September 2013 (M)

age - I'm in my late forties, and recently I have been seeing a very nice woman in her mid fifties. We haven't slept together, but the relationship looks like it's heading towards that level of intimacy (I hope!). I assume that given her age she is probably post-menopausal, and this... (79 words)

I have alopecia, and wear a wig!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am recently single after a rocky four year relationship and I wanted some advice about getting back into dating again. The break-up hit me quite hard, although I know it was for the best as things had just gone downhill and neither of us could feel the "spark" that we ... (308 words)

I don't want to get too serious, too soon.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 30 and in a relationship of around 4 months. We both have busy work schedules so have been seeing each other at weekends and in the week if we can. As we were getting to know each other, this was fine, but now I am starting to feel a bit lonely and wondering whether this ... (469 words)

He finds me boring but wont do anything!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for 2years and we live together. We will be completely happy and then he will out of the blue comment that he finds my company boring and that its an issue, but if I suggest doing things he doesn't want to. What do I do?... (52 words)

My ex partner expects everything from me ....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I can't take this, me and my ex have a baby together. He won't move out of my house I met someone new and we were hanging out one thing lead to another. Now my ex is telling me he has rights and he will make my life extremely difficult if I do not quit my job is where my new ... (167 words)

I like my best friend but she has a boyfriend. What should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

4 September 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - So I like my best friend, more than a friend should. But she currently has a boyfriend (over a year now). She knows I like her because I asked her to come with me to an event, then she wanted him to come cause she wanted us to make friends. I didn't want to be a third wheel... (392 words)

Boyfriend wants to go on holiday with his mate and 2 female friends... without me. Am I wrong to feel this is inappropriate?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, just a quick question as I am really in need of others' opinions. My boyfriend recently asked me how I would feel about him going on a holiday for a week with one of his male friends and two female friends. Is this inappropriate for someone in a relationship to do? We have ... (83 words)

I finished a relationship with a divorcee because he is too tied to his family and I was a secret to his children. Why does he keep in contact with me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I had a mind blowing intense, although only 4 months in length relationship with a divorced man. I am also divorced. We both have kids from our previous marriages. There was a lot of chemistry and tenderness between us and we were both happy to have found each other. Prob... (575 words)

Dating a man who treats me right but who I dont' find attractive enough. Help!

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I know this is shallow but I can only get myself to put in an effort with a guy if I find him good looking.. I'm in a relationship with this guy for 4 months,I don't find him all that attractive, he's a pretty decent looking guy but when women compliment him and he tells me... (134 words)

Happy to be on my own -- is it because my standards have risen?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4092 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm quite confused at the moment. 5 months ago my long term relationship ended. It was an abusive relationship (not extremely abusive, but definitely, some verbal abuse, emotional, and a bit of physical abuse). After the relationship i did turn to a rebound, which only lasted a ... (183 words)

Frustrated by our differing sex drives -- am I being unreasonable?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My bf and I have been together for 2 years. We're both in our early 30s. We only see each other on weekends when he comes over to my house to spend the weekend as he lives an hour away. He's never been very sexual, even at the beginning. He tells me that he used to have lot... (186 words)

How should I handle this current girl situation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is an extremely social person who loves making new friends (boys and girls alike). The problem is that he always seems to have a different girl that he texts all the time. He recently transferred to a new college and has told me that he has made new friends but ... (170 words)

Why is he being cruel? Is his ego just bruised?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4095 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I was getting along well with this man, and even agreed to go on a date with him. He made it pretty clear he liked me as more than a friend, although nothing had ever happened between us that went beyond talking. The night before our date, a mutual friend told me he has a... (154 words)

I'm feeling excluded from meeting his child and wondering if there's more to his relationship with the child's mother

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 9 months has a 2-year-old child with another woman. This woman won't allow him to take the child out of her sight. She also won't allow him to bring me around, so he has to drive up there (1.5 hours away) every Saturday to see her and the child without me. ... (345 words)

Why is my height so unattractive?

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4094 days ago

4 September 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been rejected by hundreds of girls offline and thousands of girls online and have lost heart and all sense of my 'physical' self-esteem. It is very difficult to remain confident after that. My track record keeps me from trying now as I have no reason to believe I will ... (374 words)