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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone, Lately I've been thinking if my ex a lot. Not in an emotional way however sometimes I get upset at how things could have been different, wondering what he is up to now, and wondering if he thinks of me. We broke up around the middle of July 2012. He was acting strange up until the break up like becoming distant and ignoring me. When i called him a few days later during this ignoring stage to ask for help because i got into a car accident, he turns around and tells me he has a gf and to leave him alone. I was crushed and depressed. we were dating for 5 years. How can someone do that. Anyways almost a year later after our "break up" without absolutely no contact, a few days after my birthday in July this summer(2013) his number shows up on my phone. I let it ring because I did not want to pick up. I didn't have his contact saved in my phone but I indeed new it was him. I have his number memorized. It just hurts me and bugs me because until I find another guy I think of him occasionally. It hurts me how there really wasn't any closure and I deserved so much. Anyways I'm not waiting but I hope in the near future I see him again n show him how much I've changed not only physically but mentally. He wasn't part of my life.. I made him my life. Help! And why would he call me after 1 year no contact a few days after my birthday.
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reader, llifton +, writes (30 September 2013):
 perhaps it was an accidental "butt dial?" i actually legitimately did that to an ex one time.
it could also be that he was wanting to wish you a happy birthday (belated). maybe he'd been thinking of you, too. after all, with the way he ended things with no closure, it's possible it all finally caught up to him and he realized he was a huge douche to you, and misses you.
either way, even if he was thinking of you and that's why he called, i still believe it's best to not respond or call back. you've made it this far. stick to your guns. you're better off. if after five years, he could just walk away and end the relationship in the way he did, he isn't someone you should trust with your heart again. he did you incredibly wrong. i'm sorry you had to go through that.
anyway, as i said, just keep moving forward. it's normal to wish that your ex can see you looking all hot and see all the changes you've made. it's human nature to want to make them realize what they missed out one. but try not to focus on that. continue to focus on you. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2013): People who haven't really gotten over an ex, "give up" after a lengthy period of no-contact. It doesn't mean they got over their ex. They finally conclude attempting contact is futile and being ignored is too painful.
They forever cling to the hope that they will someday find their ex again. That means you aren't really over him. It's not healthy to reopen such wounds. It never turns out like in your fantasy or in the movies. Why should you care what his opinion is? It only mattered when you were together.
He had a nostalgic moment, and he "almost" recalled your birthday. Don't get your hopes up.
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