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writes:Is Karma with merit? I ask this because what I did to another person seems to be happening to me now. I'm bisexual and I was trying to use a nice woman for sex but it never panned out. She found out what I was really about as far as only wanting to use her for sex and it hurt her. Now I have fallen in love with a guy and I think he only used me for sex because after only 4 months he started pulling away by using excuses not to come around as frequent or call like he didn't want to get too close to my kids or his blood pressure was high etc. A lot of other things about him did not add up to show me he wanted me beyond the sex. He no longer visits nor answers my calls or texts and I don't even know where he lives. I'm feeling crushed and hurt. I feel like a creep for how I hurt that nice woman. This pain sucks. Please help me get over this unbearable pain. I'm in love with a grimey low life creep who used me for sex then threw me to the gutter. What kind of person could do something like this to another person? It's cruel! Please help!
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (30 September 2013):
 I find you to be abit too quick to point your finger at this guy as you were prepared to do the exact same thing to someone else.
You really shouldn't feel you have the right to label anyone a (and i quote you on this) "grimey low life creep" when you are none the better for playing that same part in someone else's life.
I agree with the other aunts when they say what goes around comes around. What you do to others will be done to you eventually. It caught up to you and the only thing i think you can do is forget about this guy and move on.
Goodluck
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (30 September 2013):
 In the south they have a saying,"What goes around, comes around" Could be you need to rethink your orientation somewhat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2013): What goes around, comes around.
Learn your lesson here and treat people the way you want to be treated.
As far as this guy? You were with him for four months and you didn't even know where he lived? It doesn't sound like this guy was anything more than a regular booty call. Please be a bit more responsible when it comes to your children.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (30 September 2013):
 What kind of person? You already know that because you behaved the same way as him with someone else. I'm not calling you names, you obviously feel remorse. People hurt/ use and others get hurt/ used, unfortunately. There are some not-so-nice people out there.
How to get over the unbearable pain: stop contacting him. Vow that it's over and try to move on. Promise yourself you won't use anyone for sex again, and forgive yourself for having done that. It's in the past. This is your opportunity to learn lessons and be a better person.
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