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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a rather huge problem. i'm in college, right. And a friend from high school, a female friend, that i've known for three years also goes to the same college as me. We hang out a lot and i do have a huge crush on her, but I never told her. The timing was always wrong. I've been pretty successful at hiding it, because she's the one I go to to really talk and the one that really listens, and I didn't want to lose that by telling her how I felt.I live off campus in a two-bedroom apartment. My previous roommate moved out a month ago and I need one to help with the rent. And she asked me if she could move in with me. She figured it wouldn't be a problem because we've never had romantic issues between the two of us, that's what she thinks. That we are just friends; she doesn't know I have feelings for her, no one does. Except those who read this post. Should I say yes to her moving in? If so, would it be wrong to try to...woo her while we're roommates?I really have strong feelings for her. But I also don't want to ruin the friendship.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 I think it would be a terrible idea for you to agree to let her move in with you. For a start you are already thinking about possible ways to try and get her to return your feelings while living together, if this all went wrong you would both be stuck living together then and unhappy.
I really think you should do the decent thing here and be honest with her, who knows she might actually feel the same way and still move in and then who knows what may happen. But you need to be honest with her before she makes this move. It is only fair to her and to you. If she does not return your feelings then at least you know where you stand and you can still keep your friendship. Just be honest with her.
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