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writes:So here is the deal: I met this really hot girl, she happened to like me back. She told me straight up she has no interest in relationship and so we started meeting to have some amazing (and I mean it) sex. Now, I should be happy with this arrangement, I know - but I am becoming increasingly paranoid she might actually want more than sex (must be all those movies lol). I don't want her to get hurt. As of now, she is usually the one who texts first - to arrange the next hook-up or when she wants to talk (which is often). She is also really sweet to me after sex, though it goes away in an hour or so and she tells me to GTFO. I don't know - it's just my friend told me every woman falls for a guy she sleeps with even if it starts out NSA, so I am kind of confused. How can I tell if she starts falling for me?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (4 October 2012):
 It doesn't sound to me as though your FWB is falling for you. The cuddling afterward is just post coital bliss and when that fades, she wants her space, until the next time. Nope, doesn't sound like a crush to me.
And to address your friend's remark...as much as some men want to think that they are so fantastic women can't help but fall in love with them, the truth is many women are quite happy being single. Women love their freedom, arguably, even more than men do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2012): Hi there! In my own opinion, she's not yet falling for you.The only time you can tell she falls for you, is when she starts avoiding to be with you, because seeing you hurts her that's the biggest sign she's falling for you.Doesn't mean she text you first, she loves you, seems like this girl knows how to play well too, remember you mentioned "She told me straight up she has no interest in relationship and so we started meeting to have some amazing (and I mean it) sex".It could be because she's horny at that time and she wants sex and your available so she text you. I agree most women falls for a guy she slept with but not all the time. Women today are so diff'rent. There are times that we also think and act like you guys do. But one thing for sure, there is a big possibility that one of you could fall in love with each other, and the fact that you care and wonder, might be you are falling for her. ('Coz u said i don't want her to get hurt) So you starts to care for her.Relax, take it easy and its never too late to discover or realize or analyze things first. Good luck..
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 Your friend is wrong, because not every woman is wired the same way. Some people are happy to have no strings attached sex while others aren't, and yes some end up falling for the man the are hooking up with, while others don't.
If you want my honest opinion I feel that sex buddies are never a good idea, because yes usually one out of the two people get hurt, sometimes its the woman sometimes it is the man, but it does usually end with someone feeling hurt or missing the other person or even getting jealous.
I think you should think about what you yourself really want from this, and then talk to her and see how you both feel about things.
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