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51-59,
*aprice
writes:Hello, I have broken up with my boyfriend for just over 2 months now. He was 47 and lived with his mother and the relationship was on and off for about 8 months. All together we got back together 4 times, but on this occassion he does not want to talk to me. Firstly the silent treatment began on a night out to our local pub. Previously 2 weeks prior to this night a female aquaintance of mine kept asking me why I would be with my boyfriend as he was not a nice person and I could do better. I decided to say nothing to him about this until 2 weeks later, when she said it again and I decided to ask him about it. On this he went mad and made compliments about another woman in the bar and upset me. He then walked out and said he needed his own space. The next day my emotions took over me and I called him various names as I was feeling hurt. This happened on a saturday night. Shortly after sending these messages by text i said sorry and even visited his home on the monday and wednesday to apologise, but he just slammed the door in my face and would not speak and became violent and accused me of upsetting his mother. Anyway, since then I made numerous calls and text to try to get him to understand, but in the end I had enough and said a few more nasty things to him as he made me feel like I was the enemy in all of this and mentioned things that this girl and also his own mother had said about him. He no longer wants anything to do with me, so for the last 3 weeks I have broken contact with him, but, I still have feelings for him, find it hard to sleep and feel very upset why he would treat me like this when all I did was ask in a kind matter why this girl would say this. Because of his ignorance towards me I feel that I became frustrated towards him and said things i didnt mean. He lives in the same town as me, which makes things difficult. Does he hate me, i know I said things I didnt mean, but he hasnt treated me right. Please help me try to understand why this would all happen. I was very much in love with him and although we had problems, the main reasons for our arguments was work, his mother and people interfering in our relationship.Thank you
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 You were together for 8 months and broke up and got back together 4 times? That’s not a very stable relationship.
Why would you ask him why you are with a guy who is not a nice person that your friends don’t like? That’s childish passive aggressive behavior at it’s best. My friends do not like my fiancé. I know this. I’ve told them “don’t make me choose, he wins even though he’s no prize he’s MY prize” and yes I could do much better… I choose not to.
It just sounds to me like it was not a good relationship from the get go.
Why he does things does not matter.
It does not matter if he likes you loves you or hates you, you two are not compatible enough to be a couple….
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 October 2012):
 I was surprised when I went to the top of your submittal and saw that the person who entered it was "age 41-50". I thought it was by someone who was "age 14-16"......
Good luck.....
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 October 2012):
 Look, I know you love him but this is not working, any relationship that is only 8 months old yet you have broken up 4 times clearly is not working and never will.
He is obviously hurt by the things you have said, and no amount of apologising is going to make this better. I doubt he hates you, but he definitely doesnt want to see you again after all of this.
He is probably realising that you are not compatible, you cannot stop breaking up with each other so it is clear this isnt right, and he has probably realised that there i no future in this.
You need to let this go now, I know that will be hard but he is not the right man for you and you are not right for him. The first year or so of a relationship should be the honeymoon phase, if you cant even be happy in your first 8 months together this is doomed from the start. Move on, this isnt going to ever work.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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