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writes:should i just not say anything at allI went on a vacation with one of my husbands former co worker. Its not like she was my friend or anything like that. I just knew her and because we saw each other very seldom, she seemed ok for me to travel with. i m a poor driver, she doesnt know how get around, so it was a usefull combination for us.the minute we got in a car, i thought o, my god, i think it was a mistake. First, driving. she speeds up, presses the breaks, does it over and over. TRying in congested traffic go in front of a slow vehicle on a windy roads, gets mad at passers by, screams at them with high pitch voice.In 2 hours i thought i was going to puke my guts out and become completely deaf or paralized from this constant screaming.so, i told as nicely as i possibly could not to do it. This is exactly how i said it, please could you try not to break that hard as i m getting really notious, please no more screaming. She started laughing and said, but look everyone break, i need to break, and whats wrong with my voice. so, i explained to her, that its not that i want her to stop breaking at all, i just want her to stop accelarating and then press breaks abruptly, there is a huge difference. And also, i explained to her, that her voice is high pitched, and if she could at least try to control the sudden screaming part it would be really nice.When i say the lady was screaming, dont think that im exaggerating. I ws jumping on my sit from that sudden sound. I figured with 7 hours of driving i should say something as by the time we get toour destination i ll be deaf.That was only the begining. The lady is into politics, big time. She started several conversation with me about one particular political group. I know how dangerous it is to start exchanging opinions with someone as hyperactive as her. I said couple of the coments what i think about medical reform. There was no end to it. I told her several times that i dont want to continue the subject as we obviously dont agree on it, she keeps on going with every possibility to put it into conversation.also, she has a an annoying habit of disagreeing with everyhting i say, i mean, EVERYTHING. She uses most of the time as her reaction to my words phrases like ,i dont give a sh..t, who cares, o well. By the end of the trip getting fed up with her, after she started again about politics, i said, i m not going to have this conversation with you again, as you basically disregard anything i say.Now, she gets mad at me. She says, that she is done with me, that i constantly critisize her about her driving, her voice, her manner of speaking an she is done with me. So, of course she makes me angry, and i tell her to go take one of her quiet pills.now we dont talk. We have another few hours today and then travelling home for 2 hours plane ride. Help me god.i also forgot to mention the fact, that she takes some antianxiety drugs, not much but still. It makes her loosing her short term memory. During our trip she keeps on asking me the same questions over and over again. After 10 times answering the same question, i told her that i dont know if she realizes that she asks me the same question over and over again. And then she said that her pills make her do this.I undestand, but i cant even mention it to her.my question is, if you were in a same situation as me would you just keepyour mouth shot despite the fact that the annoyance from someones actions is incredible, just for the sake of peacefull vacation.Or would you do the same as me, trying to reach out to her in hope that she can somehow control it at least. Its not that i was trying to change her, i really dont care how she is, as i mentioned earlier she is not my friend and doesnt take much space in my life at all.Vacation was nice, we actually had lots of fun going on tours and all, but right now i wish i could just have a driver, and wnt without her. Its too high of a price to pay to be accompanied by someone like her.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (4 October 2012):
 You have the patience of a saint. I would have just dumped her and the car and got a variety of trains or whatever back to where I wanted to be. The screaming and jarring of my body would have been too much for me and I would be doing time by now. The icing on the cake, that the woman actually charged your card would have reduced me to being arrested for GBH. My god you are a saint! Never bother with the toxic bitch again.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (4 October 2012):
 You answered your own question. To wit: "Its too high of a price to pay to be accompanied by someone like her."
Next time, go with someone else, or alone....
Have fun....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2012): You are right, I need to re-evaluate my driving situation, but that was not the only reason I went with her. She seemed like a normal woman to me, and I didn't want to be alone on a trip. I travel a lot by myself, and sometimes it get lonely when you spend so much time by yourself. So, for vacation I wanted some company.What I think I shouldn't do is to not give much thought about her anti anxiety drugs. I did get irritated by her forgetfulness. It actually cost us extra money, as she forgot to check with her credit card about car insurance and we had to pay almost $200 extra. A person who forgets every single conversation we had before eventually will get on your nerves. And when you spend all the time together, it can turn into quite an annoyance.I did tell her irritably about her habit of asking over and over again.Well, next time I ll go with a friend that I know well, not with this lady who I won't see anymore in my life. To top it all after all she went to dinner yesterday, and when I was checking out I saw a charge on my card, as I gave them card before to put charges on a room. She didn't have to charge it to the room, she could just pay herself, but she charged it and even signed for me. When I was checking out, I asked them to take it out and make her pay for her own dinner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2012): I don't know your financial situation, but can you take defensive drivers classes? Only so that you can be a better driver and you don't need to go through this again. I know times are hard but maybe a friend or something could help you become a better driver so you could feel more comfortable driving yourself. I don't blame you for your reaction. I would have been insane too. I would advise becoming a better driver so that you won't have to engage in dealing with someone like this again. Best wishes to you.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 I can totally understand why you are frustrated and why this sort of behaviour would irritate you, but I think for the sake of another day or two you should just bite your tongue and put up with her for the sake of an argument. It is good to hear that you at least had some fun while you have been away. Just keep in mind that you will be home soon and you will not need to spend time with her again and have her in your life.
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