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writes:I'm just a young boy right now, but going through a rough time. (grandparents dying)I was dumped by my first girlfriend and was in a lot of agony that time. When I was finally over her, I fell in love with another girl who is in my class. She turned me down for someone else, although she was sitting on my lap sometimes and really gave me hope that my love would not be unanswered if I would ask her. But she turned me down, telling that she wanted to be friends.It took me again a long time to move on. And yesterday I met another girl who is sweet, gorgeous looking and very smart. We were at a party of some kind and that night we were sleeping in the same room, having lots of fun together. I was in my own bed and I was asked whether I loved someone, I lied (telling about someone I did not love anymore) to avoid an awkward situation, not knowing how to handle these kind of things. Then I asked her if she loved someone and she told me that the answer would be really awkward and that the guy she loved was a kind of taken, she really got my hopes up there and I was waiting for the right moment. Later on we were in her bed and she was tickling me and I was tickling her back and she also allowed me to hold her in my arms.I took my chances and told her I loved her, when I asked her if she loved me back she said she didn't know. She then went talking to her friend (a girl)and they were giggling together. I was kind of shocked, not sad but wordless and confused and went to sleep. the next day, she did not talk to me and when i went away she didn't say goodbye. Too shy and embarassed I went away without saying anything neither. I was so dissappointed and I feel really hurt and confused. I have a bad experience with trying to get over someone so that why I ask for tips. Also if you think I did something wrong, please tell me.Thanks for your time.Datguy27
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reader, datguy27 +, writes (24 October 2012):
datguy27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, now that I see more clear, I guess your rigt, thanks for your answers especially you aunt Honesty
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reader, human_male  +, writes (21 October 2012):
 I think you need to play it cool in future. Don't drop the L bomb so quickly. Just try to relax and have fun with girls and don't come on too strong. Also, when you're feeling bad about this sort of thing remind yourself that girls seem to like you, you don't seem to have any trouble meeting them. That's the main thing.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 October 2012):
 Well first off I am sorry to hear about your grand parents. It is a tough time for any young person when they are going to lose people that they love. So I wish you all the best at this.
Now on to your love life with these girls. I feel personally that you use the love word far to easily. It takes a long time to get to know someone properly and to fall in love with them. It usually happens once two people are in a relationship for quite a while and know each other really well that they fall in love with each other. If you go around telling girls you love them to quick then you will scare them off. You need to take your time and get to know a girl. Do not get your hopes up over little things and take things slow. Give yourself a chance to get to know a girl and build a friendship. If you tell someone you love them early on it can scare them so you need to try and slow down.
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