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reader, ulick  +, writes (25 October 2012):
ulick is verified as being by the original poster of the question OK AuntyEm so got tested and I negative to any STD including the one you quoted. So we can rule out this reason of why she pulled away!
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (22 October 2012):
 Yes I think it's very possible that a girl would stop talking to you or withdraw sex suddenly if she either picked up and STI or passed one on. The fact you were having unprotected sex also increases the chances.
For some people it's a devastating thing and most would wanna get things cleared up and move on. She may have had it before she had sex with you and might be feeling worried she'd passed it on. Another reason for withdrawal.
Maybe you should get yourself checked out.
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reader, ulick +, writes (22 October 2012):
ulick is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAuntyEm your left field scares me! But hey you have a fine tuned lizerd brain. We actually very unwisely only had unprotected sex. In fact after we hit it off the first time I got real worried and had all my blood tests done for STD not because I was scared to get them from her but that I might have it and attached it to her as once a few months before during intercourse a condom broke.I tested for all negative.But I don't think I tested for chlamydia and I have no symptoms of anything, but now you brought it up makes me worried so I will not get tested for that too!Do you feel a girl will withhold sex suddenly because she developed a STD and not tell me? Why she will not tell me about it? Maybe because she is not sure if is from me and she is embarassed?
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (22 October 2012):
This is kinda out of left field but have you had yourself checked for STi's?
The reason I am asking is because if you have chlamydia (which has no symptoms)and passed it to her, it could explian why she has suddenly withdrawn sex from you and is shy about talking to you.
Just a thought but possibly a reason for all the mystery.
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reader, ulick +, writes (22 October 2012):
ulick is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your precious answers.
Human_male she started witholding sex a month ago but we still saw each other regularly but with increasing resistance from her side. I became very insistent about wanting to have sex which made things worst.
I am sure she was not playing games about the sex, but at the same times she did not verbalize any problems. But as you say something probably went on inside her that made her feel not comfortable with me and it drove me nuts and instead of trying to figure it out I felt bitter and angry and in turn shut my self up and grew distant.
I think we are past been able to have a gentle conversation. We have not talked since I walked out of her and we started writing emails but I attacked her saying she played games and she got upset about it and she still has not replied to me properly.
Somehow I think writing to each other might have helped clarify certain things but she is postponing fully answering me saying she needs time process things before she can write me properly and so on....if she really wanted to write to me she could do it immediately and this goes back to her waiting games where she always puts me on hold.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (21 October 2012):
 I feel like we're not really getting the whole story. Are you sure she's withholding sex to play games? Maybe she just feels something is wrong in the relationship and simply doesn't want to have sex with you because she doesn't feel right.
I think you need to have a good heart to heart with her. Try not to be confrontational and have an attitude. Be gentle and try to make her feel comfortable and she might tell you what's wrong.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (21 October 2012):
People don't change and she is messing about because she isn't really feeling it for you.
Don't accept the scraps that someone dishes out, 3 months and you are in trouble...let it go.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (21 October 2012):
... yes....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 October 2012):
 three months is not a long time together...
if you are having problems and trust issues at 3 months it is not a good sign...
you walked out on her... you are both playing games.
if you want a drama filled life then stay with her but if you want a life where you are not wondering what's going and and not playing games then you need to end it now.
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