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writes:Am I wierd, I dont like to wear underware sometimes and when I go camando in shorts my package sometimes is noticeable. My wife says people keep staring but I dont see them I think she is just worried my junk will spill out at the wrong time. I am not huge in anyway but love the feel of the breeze and comfort of being free. She says I am an exhibitionist and love the thought of someone getting a peek at my jewels and when she put it that way I freaked, like maybeI am and why do I do this. I am a bird watcher myself and love to see women in awkward situations. But am I over reacting or is this a fetish I cant control. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 October 2012):
 It could be that you get a few stares at your package because you show off a bit more than you should... As your wife thinks you do.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 October 2012):
 No offence, Op, but you remind me of a joke a relative of mine made when she retired. She said, good, now I can go work in a strip joint.. ...??... Yeah. I can plant myself in front of men and threaten them to take my clothes off. They'll give me money to make me keep them on.
Op, normally women do NOT go checking out packages , as you call it, there is no much to see anyway, unless you go around sporting a conspicuous boner, which would be bound to attract some attention. Plus, penis and testicles are not, unluckily , the most aesthetically pleasing body part, and msot women do not particularly enjoy staring at them, least of all if they belong to a non descript stranger.
I think it's all in your mind , and I think you have a mildly exhibitionistic streak, that perhaps your wife has picked on.
But, if it was true, and if you are convinced that women actually go around stealing views of your genitalia,...then it would be one more reason for keeping them well covered ,wouldn't it be ?....Normally people does not like to have their privacy invaded this way...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (25 October 2012):
 'And feel like women do like to check your package at times and i mean in adult gatherings and stuff'
I think this is in your head and fuelled by some sort of fantasy...
Sorry to burst your bubble but women do not go around checking out a guys package all the time. I think you just want someone here to say it to give you a thrill.
Like SoVeryConfused, I have seen men deliberately expose themselves in public to women and I just thought they were sad and attention seeking.
It's just plain weird and normal guys just would not do that.
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reader, shymexycpl +, writes (25 October 2012):
shymexycpl is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks all for your suggestions and comments and by NO means do I do this on purpose or try to expose it to kids (that's just sick)I just like the feel of my stuff hanging loose thats all. And I do watch how I sit around folks but since my wife told me this i have felt unsecure of my suroundings.And feel like women do like to check your package at times and i mean in adult gatherings and stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): When women "display " their boobs , Cerebrus, its far from showing your penis. Women historically ( if you look at centuries costumes) show top part of their breasts . In human society it is considered to be beatifull.
Nothing new going on now, women show top of their breasts.
It's unheard of men showing their penises to public. Who wants to look at men's penis? Who ever finds penis beatifull? I like men and sex part, but I would rather not look at penis, because I really don't find that part of male anatomy attractive.
As far as modern fashion goes, I do agree, that some women should be a little more careful of wearing low cut jeans, and very tight ones where crutch goes all the way in. I never understood how they can wear pants that tight, it's must be very uncomfortable.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 October 2012):
 if you like the breeze... then why not wear a utilikilt all the time... then you would feel the breeze just fine.. and NOT expose yourself.
to be honest, I have no problem with men going commando. TBH, my husband does it all the time but his shorts are not that baggy, and they come to his knees and he would not want to even take the risk of exposing himself...
the fact that you are willing to expose yourself at all and the potential that you are feeling excitement about it well yes that could be bothersome and it would be a sign of a skewed mental health picture.
If you are that concerned about it see a professional for an evaluation.
To be honest I'm a woman around your age and if I saw you sit down and spread them to expose yourself to me, I would find you sad and laughable. I recall seeing an older man when I was a mid-teen girl do just this... in my mind he was in his 60s or so when it happened but I could be wrong... and he did it clearly on purpose... even then it was just "ewwwwwwwww gross".....
so if your thrill is thinking that women find it attractive and go home and wanna bang their man while thinking of you... naww that's not what's happening... pity for your wife perhaps...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): I wouldn't worry about it OP as long as you're not actually exposing your naked junk. Just make sure when you sit down you're conscious of where things are and that they're not poking out.
Who cares if people think it's obscene to be able to see your junk through your pants, I wear tight jeans and that lump is clearly visible on the side of my leg under my jeans. In fact if you look around you'll see you're not the only who's junk lump is visible. Screw it, if women can have their boobs hanging out in a very low cut top, or their bra clearly visible in a see through, their ass hanging out of hotpants or even camel toe then it's not obscene for us guys to have our bits and bobs on display.
You're just making a stand for men's liberation, the liberation of our penis from underwear and the right to display our goods publicly like women do. Op this is your world too, do what you like in it as long as it's legal. You live in America not Saudi Arabia, screw others sense of decency do what feels good (within the law of course).
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reader, oldbag +, writes (21 October 2012):
 Hi
I wouldnt say it was a fetish,no underwear,but flashing your tackle in shorts is obscene.Wear longer,baggier ones.
Your wanting to see women in awkward situations IS weird, especially if its related to you wearing short shorts and no underwear.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (21 October 2012):
I wouldn't care if you exposed yourself, but I am a nurse and more likely to think you were suffering from some form of personality disorder. You could, however, expose yourself to children and end up getting arrested.
The whole thing about liking seeing women in difficult situations is definitely not normal, so maybe you do have some kind of mental illness.
Probably best to seek the help of a psychotherapist...before you get arrested.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (21 October 2012):
 There's nothing wrong with the fact that you like this, each to their own. But don't you feel most people will find it offensive if you've got everything on show? what about any kids that may happen to be around? I agree with aunty bim bim, you're gonna get a rep as a dirty old man if you carry on like this so maybe keep it for private places such as your own garden!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (21 October 2012):
 I don't understand what you mean by liking to see women in awkward situations, but let me tell you this, as a woman of more mature years, I would find your junk falling out of your shorts so unattractive they would fall off the scale of out there, yech and totally gross.
There is a guy in my community whose junk falls out sometimes, he is known as a 'dirty old man' and that is where you are heading.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (21 October 2012):
You just think it is comfortable and like to feel the breeze. If you had other motives then I am sure you, of all people, would be the first to know.
Maybe buy a pair of thicker shorts if your junk really is noticeable? This is up there with me not wearing a bra. My boobs are not so big I need a bra at all times, but when I go without my nipples show. Before, in my teenages, I didn't care. But now I feel like I need to be a bit more appropriate, so I bought these "stickers" that you place over the nipples so they wont show. Maybe you could do kinda the same, maybe sow an extra patch in the crotch of your shorts to hide the contours of your junk?
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reader, MikeEa1 +, writes (21 October 2012):
 we're all perverts mate. don't worry about it. lucky we've got women to keep us under control. try not to do anything that you wouldn't want to see other people doing.
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reader, Hennessy1989 +, writes (21 October 2012):
 A lot of men like a bit of freedom down there, but if it's clearly visible to people then maybe you should wear slightly longer shorts? Think, it's not just women that might notice, it's men and kids too. That's not cool, just wear slightly longer shorts and no underwear, problem solved
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): I dont think you have a fetish or suffer from exhibitionism, you just suffer from `wardrobe malfunctionitis`. Get some longer shorts or sit with your legs together, that should fix it and save your wife`s blushes. These things are not a pretty sight as anyone who has seen the old trailer home guy in the movie Sex Drive can testicle, sorry, testify. It is not pretty Sir, cover up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): You like to see women in awkward situations? What exactly do you mean?
I don't know if its your fetish, but aren't you embarrassed that people can see your penis, whatever you call it?
That's very inappropriate, however you call it. Wear underwear, man!!
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