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*azelbanana113
writes:Ive always been the type of girl who hasnt been really insecure. I knew i turned heads when i walked in the room until my current bf of 5 months and then it was like i became so insecure about my body.I guess i should start by saying I am his first gf.So it started a couple weeks into our relationship and it was midnight and my bf and i just finished having sex not even 10 mimutes prior and we saw some of his friends where he vulgarly told them he was going to a festival to go look at other girls tits. I tried not to let it get to me but it ate me inside that he could talk about other girls that way. After that i started being hyper aware of my tits and i started to notice more and more that he checked out women a lot, even when i was right next to him.Eventually i couldnt take it and talked to him. Hes been doing better at that.But on top of that one morning after we had sex i was still naked and my breasts were exposed and it looked like he was staring and so i teased him and he told me he was used to seeing me naked so he wasnt looking and my body, it didnt excite him anymore. That cut so deep. Then a couple weeks ago we were in a store and there was a poster of girl in a bikini and he said "sorry, but she is perfectly proportionate" i knew he knew he would hurt me by saying that and it just made me feel like bad because i dont have a pedfectly toned body. Then on top of that whenever he sees me naked he never compliments my body. He never says i have nice tits or anything.Am i wrong to feel insecure?What do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Wow, what a slap in the face! How old is this guy? He seems very immature and completely negligent of your feelings. You already tried talking to him, and he seriously couldn't respect you enough to keep his eyes on you while you were present? I can understand a glance, but this guy sounds like he burns holes into their cantaloupes. If he finds you boring after five months, imagine how he'll feel in five years. I agree with Sage... he's turned an attractive, confident women into something less. You deserve so much better!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 October 2012):
 Great "boyfriend" you've got there. He was able to convert you from a confident, self-assured woman in to one who would write this submittal......
What you have described is known as "abusive"..... and he is a controller, and should NOT be trusted....
YOU will do well to get away from him and re-start your life from the day BEFORE you met this creep....
Good luck...
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 October 2012):
 I would just end it. He sees you as nothing more than a barbie doll with no feelings. Does he look like a Ken? You are at different stages in your life. You want a loving boyfriend who feels lucky to be with you while he wants to window shop for perfect bodies. Time to tell him it's not working anymore because you are so different. I think you are wrong for feeling insecure because there is no such thing as a perfect body that would keep him interested. I suspect he is the one insecure himself so he wants to lower you down to his level so you feel you are never good enough for him, or for anybody else so you have no choice but to pity yourself and stick by him. Attractiveness is important in a relationship, but so is respect, maturity and knowing how to relate to each other. For him, women are objects to admire from a distance or to toss away once the novelty wears off. Who needs a boyfriend like that. Again, you can't help what you feel, but I am telling you feeling insecure is not proactive. When a boyfriend does not make you feel good it's the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): what do you do? you break up with him, why would you keep wasting your time, hurting yourself because of this douche who doesn't appreciate you? He says such insensible things in front of you, that's just rude IMO in the end that relationship is doing more harm than good to you
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