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30-35,
anonymous
writes:This is going to sound really messed up but ever since I started uni I have had a huge crush on a girl that works at the uni who has a really gay vibe about her.She dresses quite butch, but I have a feeling she's straight because I've seen her around guys but she always stares at me which confuses me. I also have a girlfriend back home who I love very much but I can't stop thinking about this girl and its driving me insane.I'm in my second year. I also work at the uni but in different departments so I haven't spoke to the girl but I'm worried in case we get to know each other and I have a bigger crush on her. I feel so guilty for thinking about this girl when I have a girlfriend who I adore. I don't really know what to do and is it wrong for me to think about other girls? I don't want to but I can't help it and I have been crushing on this girl before I got with my girlfriend so maybe that's why.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (21 October 2012):
 You shouldn't feel as guilty as you, as much as we would like to we can not control our feelings.
The one thing i would say is if you like this girl so much how sure are you of your feeling for your girlfriend?
Don't get me wrong long distance can be really hard i know that and there can be times when everybody looks around but it sounds like you have it really bad for this girl.
You need to decide if you want to make it work with your gf and you will need to try and forget about this girl.
Or you need to go for it with this girl and you will know what could be one way or the other, but that would mean letting your gf go.
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