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writes:Hello I'm our average not so good-looking guy. Whenever I hang out with my girlfriend and her friends are around she ignores me. We have been going out for about a year and two months. I am crazy about her and I just don't know what to do. What do I do? How do I go about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, human_male  +, writes (4 November 2012):
 It's probably not on purpose. People tend to ignore me when there's anyone else around to talk to as well. Not always but I notice it quite a lot. Although it can be hurtful I've learned not to read too much into it.
I think you've got some good advice from the others but I'd go the other way and not hang around and her friends. She wants to spend time with her friends, which is fine. So give them space.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): Try talking to her about it. But like Blonde30s said, if you're shy and not doing much talking yourself, that could be it. Do you dislike her friends? If not, try to get along with them. I know girls and boys don't have a LOT to talk about cause they have different interests, but there must be something. Go to the movies. Afterwards, try being a part of the conversation about it. If you're just hanging out at the house, try to use what you've overheard so far as a way to talk to them about things they care about. You can even try playing games with them if they're into that (Mario Kart games are a good start). Just try to be open if you've been shy.
If all that fails, talk to your girlfriend about it. It's probably not on purpose. Just tell her you feel left out of the loop when you're with her friends and to try to include you more. If that doesn't help, maybe you should just avoid the group outings. If it's still an issue, or of she doesn't try at all, then maybe she's not the one for you at this time. Never make someone a priority if you're only an option. Good luck. I think you'll be fine.
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