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writes:My girlfriend doesn't seem to be into sex anymore and says we have been dating long enough that we don't need to do it very often anymore. How can I get her to be into it and want to do without having to ask and sound super needy about it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2012): If she didn't want regular sex then she should not have led you to believe that she did just long enough to get you into a relationship. She is pulling a bait-and-switch on you.
Just talk to her honestly without being too pushy. But if I was you, I would not have a ton of patience if she doesn't at least try to meet you in the middle. She is the one trying to change the rules on you.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (4 November 2012):
 I don't think you should be focusing on trying to get your gf to put out more. I think you should be concerned that she's ok and if her sex drive seems to have dropped off suddenly that there isn't something wrong. If she simply has a lower sex drive than you and just doesn't want it as much, then again you shouldn't be trying to get more from her. Surely sex should be something you both want and not something one partner does grudgingly just to make the other happy.
If it is a case of mismatched sex drives then I think the best thing is to move on and find someone you're more compatible with.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 November 2012):
 You can't "get her in to it..." since she has now put out for you often enough that she believes that she has hooked you... and you are sufficiently dedicated to her that she can discontinue the s*x... which, incidentally, was one of YOUR important features of your early dating.....
Soooo, ask her if her "new attitude" is how she believes she will bahave as your "relationship" goes forward in time. IF she says, "But, of course. You got me to put out... and I got you to be my steady B/F... so now, I can back off...." THEN you know that the "relationship" is over... and you can dump her and move on to find a woman with whom you share greater s*xual compatibility....
Good luck.... (I've been there.....)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 November 2012):
 ya know if my husband did to me what the poster below suggested he'd get smacked
have you TALKED to her about it?
how often are you having sex?
are you living together?
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reader, Bud Has A PERFECT GF in IOWA +, writes (4 November 2012):
tell her much you miss here body. lay in bed next to her and masterbate moaning her name.. just through some crazy hints out there. when you have a private moment turn a backrub into neck kissing "FORPLAY" ...You know hve fun with it ...Honey i could do a better job on your back if i can unhook your bra..TEEHEE.. and take off those pants get comfortable.... :-)or hey when shes sleeping lightly well start molesting her playfully till she wakes up...now these are just things that worked for me.."Please dont take the word molesting in a bad way"
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