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writes:I would like to know if any girls out there who are in a relationship ignored another guy that they know had a crush on them and not tell them that they were seeing someone? Why would you not just tell the guy who has the crush that you are seeing someone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): I agree with chigirl and code warrior. I have been the object of a couple crushes before but I just ignored it. I thought it was kinda cute and sad. She probably didn't want to make him feel embarrassed or weird. It might even make him think that she would want to date him if she didnt have a boyfriend. Would you rather this guy just think shes not interested or that she wants to see him but cant because of the situation. I think it's better if she just said I don't feel the same if he mentions it.
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reader, Katrin2324  +, writes (4 November 2012):
I always tell guys that I'm busy,but I have a girlfriend who is actually never tells guys the truth...just in case if she breaks up with one she wil have another one to date...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): i dont intentionally not tell other guys that i have a boyfriend i just know that he is the one for me and dont feel the need to say anything because i know nothing would happen, he is always on my mind and hes not the jealous type so i dont need i have a boyfriend tatooed to my forehead
if i had a crush i just would tell them im not interested
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 November 2012):
 Unless it comes up I rather just ignore the guy. If I get an opportunity to bring it up without it sounding weird, then I will casually bring it up and say it. But if it doesn't naturally pop up in a conversation I don't say it. It'll be too obvious that I know they like me, it'll make the guy embarrassed and it'll quickly become a very awkward situation. If we're in a working environment, or have to spend some time together, I'd rather just ignore that they like me.
Besides, some take offence, and this can create trouble if you work together etc. I mean, they might get defensive and say "what, you think I like you, you must be really full of yourself", for example.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (4 November 2012):
 No, I have never done that. If a guy makes an obvious hint to me he is interested I tell him my relationship status. A reason I would not do this? If I were also interested in the guy crushing on me and not serious about my boyfriend/ I wanted his attention and to possibly date him and telling him I have a boyfriend could make him leave. There's no other reason to keep from him I am in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): I don't think that really happens OP, I mean if you don't want someone crushing on you then the best excuse ever is you have a boyfriend. I mean probably the most common excuse women give to reject guys is the boyfriend one even if it's not true.
The girls just probably doesn't even like him nor care about this guy. Then again it could all be in the guys head and she's not doing any of those things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): I reckon most girls wouldn't say because they want to enjoy the limelight. no harm done. don't stress about it.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (4 November 2012):
 Maybe the crushee doesn't realise the crusher has a crush. Maybe she is totally oblivious, or maybe if both are in the same social circles the girl is mature enough to realize once the crush is acknowledged the dynamics of the social (or other) group will be altered.
And then of course, maybe the girl just doesn't care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): Excuse me, would you like if your boyfriend thought the same way regarding the latter ( just not tell them I have a gf) another girl??
Think it over and if and see how you would feel if he did that..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): i think some girls like the attention and probably know their crush will back off if they know that shes got a boyfriend
the other week i was in a bar and the bartender was flirting and at first i didnt mention my boyfriend because i thought it was harmless but when he started to go too far i told him to back off and that i had a boyfriend
and it depends on the relationship as to whether girls tell their boyfriends, if they are the jealous type it sometimes is best to avoid a stupid argument, i told my boyfriend and he said he trusts me so hes not worried
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