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writes:So, honestly I feel like this is a pretty common "problem" (not exactly a problem, but a serious self-esteem killer) between ALL women and I would like some advice. Long story short, I met a guy who was my totally type at a bar three weekends ago Friday night. (I usually NEVER pick guys up/give them my number at a bar.) He seemed like a great guy however and he texted me that Sunday asking me how my weekend was blah blah blah...and we continued to text for about a week and a half, then he asked to out to dinner this past Wednesday. So Wednesday comes along and we had our date, and I personally thought it was probably one the best first dates I've ever had!! We stayed for almost three hours talking and having a good time. The only reason why we had to leave was because I had to do work (and he knew I didn't want to leave). I wanted to stay, but I couldn't. It ended with a hug and a "I'll talk to you later." Since Wednesday I haven't heard from him. At all. Nothing. So I broke down today and texted him saying something along the lines of "hey hope you're having a nice weekend" and our conversation (what little we had) just seemed...dead and uninterested. Ladies and gentlemen, from past experience, help me out! Did I break some sort of rule by texting him; is there an unwritten law with guys after a first date that I'm not aware of (not interested and just move on)? Signs? Clues? Do I talk to much? Like I said, I thought it went well, but who am I to say...I'm at a loss and I'm so sick of feeling like I did something wrong!!! I'm not trying to sound desperate, but I would just like some, unbiased, anonymous opinions and past advice. :) Thanks so much!
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (4 November 2012):
 You did nothing wrong at all. The text was fine.
It feels pretty bad to like someone more than they like you, but it really does happen to us all at some point. I've had first dates that I thought went really well but haven't led to a second date.
It's a shame and disappointing but at least he didn't lead you on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2012): Greatest thing I ever learned from Sex and the city.
If a guy is interested in you, He will contact you. He will.
If he doesn't, he's just not that into you.
Simple as that.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (4 November 2012):
 Hi
All you did was try to establish where you stood, you enjoyed the date and wanted a 2nd,so you sent a text.No big deal in the scheme of things so stop worrying.
He doesn't appear to be interested though or he would have been in touch for a 2nd date. It happens to us all, we think its a great date, they don't!
Let it go now,if he gets in touch in future you will probably not be bothered or interested by then.
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