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*ittle.miss
writes:ok so on friday night, there was the birthday of my brother at the beach near his house. some of his friends were invited, we were around 10. The party lasted till early saturday morning. I know nearly all of his friends very well. Around 2 in the morning one of his friend came over to the party, I didn't know him personally but only heard my brother talked about him. So Wen he first came to the party I did not really cared about his presence, at one moment I went to back to my brother's house, to go to the bathroom, his house is 2 min from the beach, then I came back. When I came back, the guy asked me to sit near him, then he started talking to me.We talked about us, telling each other what we do in life, the guy was really flirty, sharing his drinks with me,jumping at each chance to brush past me and acting and joking like we were together on purpose to make everyone notice. He even dropped me his num and asked for mine in the middle of our conversations. In the morning he asked me to come along with him, as he was going to drop his cousin who accompanied at his place. I did not know what to say,, I asked him to ask my elder brother. My brother agreed saying you can flirt with my sister sure, you're both adults but don't harm her. So we went to drop his cousin,at the same time the latter's parents came out and asked the guy to drop them at some place which was on our way. While his aunty and uncle were in the car, he again acted or joked ( can't figure this out) like I was his girlfriend and I simply remained quiet not knowing what to say. After we dropped both of them, he asked so what do we do now, I said i don't know what did you plan on doing. He said wait...do you trust me? For once try trusting someone. I agreed. We drove till a hotel and he took a room and we had sex and he felt asleep immediately after. I slept too, then we both got up 2 hours later. We had sex again but this time he cuddled me to sleep. We slept for another 30 min, woke up and had sex again. After which I said I wanted to have a shower. After my shower, I dressed up, he got up and dressed up too saying ok let's go. then after dressing up he said lets lie in the bed for some more minutes and talk. We did so but it did not took us long to have sex again. Then after sex we did talk this time, ha talked about his ex, I did so too, he talked about his perception of mariage,cheating in relationships and other things pertaining to a relationship and he said,do text me (he repeated this at many occasion during the noght and early morning) . AFter which we had sex again, we then dressed back and got back to the car and he drove me back to my brother's place. We did not talked much on our way home, then as we arrived, I asked If he would come in, he said no and kissed me goodbye ( it was a friendly kiss on the cheek, I smiled and he said "we shall text" So on saturday afternoon he texted me a smiley ":)"... I replied asking how he's doing, he said good and you, I said good too, just got back home and he did not replied. I remained obssessed with the guy the whole night and morning, now on sunday night around midnight ( i could not hold myself anymore) I texted him said " heya,I know you must be sleeping, but thought about you ;)". he replied 1hr later with a single smiley face ";)". I did not know know what to say and said " :O not yet sleep." and not a reply since then. I decided not to text him back first again. Now i'm all lost and I don't know what exactly to think about this whole thing. Is he interested or he simply acted so because he was drunk ( he did not seemed so at all). What should i expect and do? It was my first casual sex ever, and I just broke up with my boyfriend one month ago. I'm feeling really bad about this and my self-esteem took quite a blow with my ex and now this. help plz.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 November 2012):
 yep it was a one shot deal
met a guy
liked a guy
slept with a guy
left a guy
ONE and DONE...
move on honey... he's not going to be contacting you and if he does... its just for sex... say no.
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reader, Little.miss +, writes (5 November 2012):
Little.miss is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much, I did not call him again and he didn't either. I'm just trying to get over with this,thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2012): You had casual sex, so it means you get treated the way casual sex partners treat each other. Sorry it hurts but the whole encounter probably meant little or nothing to him.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (5 November 2012):
 Hi
Basically you met a guy at a party,went to a Hotel, had sex several times then parted company.
What to expect from him is nothing, except maybe another night in a Hotel in the future.
I may be wrong,time will tell. Don't text or call him.Let him come to you - then if he does, see what he offers.If its more sex then ignore him or you will just be his Booty Call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2012): You need to pass this off as casual sex and move on. If he wanted more in a relationship - you would have heard from him, it was just sex and being drunk. You need to be more careful in future as guys will say and do anything for sex. Put this down to experience and move on. He asked you trust him and you did - oldest line in the books.
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