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writes:I'm 31 and my girlfriend is 18. We've been together for five months, talk every day. I want to propose but don't know if it's too soon. I want her to come live with me in Canada, we've had long distance and I feel that makes us even closer. I'd like for her to study here and be wife but again, aren't sure if it's too soon... Is it too soon for her? I know she loves me and doesn't just say it and has cried herself to sleep in my arms several times because she doesn't want to go back to America and wants to stay with me. I'm just not confident enough. How should I do it? She's coming this weekend. Should I send her only a one way ticket with the engagement ring or does that seem tacky? Should I not do it at all? Is it too fast? Would she think it's too fast? She loves playing sims and has told me all about the family she has made making believe it's us.. Should I look into that? I saw it as just a game but now I think of it as a clue that she wants a family with me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 I would wait. she's very young.
yes LDR is hard
how often do you guys get together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): I agree with the other posters. I would wait it out. At least for her to figure out properly where she wants to go in life. I'm the same age as her, and I sure as hell would get freaked out if my bf proposed now... I love the idea of a family and all that... but not for a while yet.
There is quite a big age gap between you... Remember you've had those amazing years when you were younger, don't take those from you gf. If you really care for her remember what is best for her in the long run. Good luck.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Five months is very soon, especially if it's long distance. How many times in 5 months do you meet up?
She's also 18. She's very young. Good things are worth waiting for, and especially if it's long distance, you should go even slower.
Patience is a very good virtue. Let her study first. But if you propose, do it in person. no mailing engagement rings or some such nonsense.
Remember, if it's meant to be, you have your whole lives together. Don't rush now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): Toooo soon! She's to young! Let her finish school! I don't think it's a good choice especially because your questioning it! If u were ready there would b no doubt!!!!! Take ur time! shes still young
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): Dude, she is studying right? let her study first, because if you marry her right away there is so many things in her mind and its like to explode, and if you marry her there is a possibility that she will stop studying. So you must wait until she graduates and thats the time you will marry her
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reader, FJB  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Dude, she is studying right? let her study fist because if you marry her right away there is so many things in her mind and its like to explode, and if you marry her there is a possibility that she will stop studying. So you must wait until she graduates and thats the time you will marry her. GOD BLESS
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