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writes:my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months. We are both grown adults. We have discussed love and we both feel that we love eachother, but neither of us ever say "i love you" to eachother (because we are both afraid of heartbreak) last night we were having sex (not the first time, we've been having sex for months.) while we were having sex last night, he looked into my eyes and told me i'm beautiful. He has never said this to me, i think he is one of those guys who cant/doesnt know how to give a girl compliments. Also, right after he said im beautiful, we were still having sex and he asked me if i love him. I didnt say anything but then he asked me again and i said yes (which is true) then he wanted me to say it so i said "i love you" and he replied with "i love you too" then he wanted me to tell him that i am all his and nobody else's. Like i stated already, we have been having sex for months and he has never said these things to me before. What does this mean? Mature advice only please! Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, mandybaby21 +, writes (26 April 2011):
thanks everybody! You all made me smile! I appreciate you taking the time to answer my question! God bless! :)
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reader, Smileypants +, writes (26 April 2011):
 I think it sounds like he was busting down a wall between you two, with this whole "don't say I love you" thing. Sounds pretty clear to me that he loves you!! And it was during sex because that's an intense emotional bonding type moment. He didn't have to say it to get in your pants- no offense, but he's been in those pants for months right?? Sounds like you two are getting more serious. You should both tell each other you love the other as often as you feel like it- you said yourself you love him back...it feels good to hear, and you guys may be in for a long haul :o)
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reader, N91  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 I think it sounds real to me, during sex it can be a very passionate experience between two people who are special to each other, IMO it's a good time to say something that you couldn't just bring up in normal conversation if you don't have the confidence i.e telling your gf how beautiful she is, how special she is to you or that you love her.
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reader, Odds +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Sounds real to me.
Some guys have a hard time with compliments due to bad experiences with girls when they're younger. They mistakenly assume that you can compliment a girl to make her like you, and are roughly disabused of that notion as teenagers. Some guys react by having a tough time complimenting girls in any situation afterwards. I'll bet that happened to him.
Still, sex can be very good at bringing down emotional boundaries. It probably just felt right at that moment.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 He's nuts about you celebrate.If any of your have trouble saying "I love you"Say it in another language.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): "im all yours" wasnt exactly what was said. I cleaned it up a little bit to be appropriate. But hes been cheated on alot by his ex(s) and im pretty sure that when he wanted me to say that, he wanted to hear that i would never cheat on him. Thanks for your answers!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 April 2011):
 He didn't say these things just because you were having sex. The timing was just right in his mind. He was already feeling vulnerable, and if he looked into your eyes and said you were beautiful while having sex, he DOES Know how to give a compliment! Dirtball is right. He is wanting to take things to the next level relationship-wise. If he was already having sex with you when he asked these things, it was real. Guys who aren't real usually say stuff like this TO have sex with you.If it were me, I'd chat about it with him when your clothes are on and ask him if he's wanting to be more exclusive with you. As for you, life is about risks! Don't be afraid of heartache! The more you love, the more you can love!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): it wasnt exactly "im all yours". I cleaned it up a bit to be appropriate. I know that he's been cheated on by past girlfriends and im pretty sure he wanted me to say it like "dont cheat on me" but "im all yours" were not exact words.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): the "im all yours" thing, it wasnt exactly said like that, but i was "cleaning it up" to be appropriate. thanks for your answer though!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (25 April 2011):
 The timing is a little odd for the "I'm all yours" thing, but that other stuff is more about making love than having sex. I think he's ready to make things more official, or finally let those things he's been feeling come to the surface. He just wanted to know you were on the same page.
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reader, Drew21 +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Eh, i've done that stuff to my girlfriend/wife, too. She has always complained that i'm not affectionate enough.. That i don't tell her "i love you' enough.. For some reason, when it comes to intercourse, i guess that's when it all comes out.It strikes me as a "heat of the moment" kind of thing. On one hand, i would say it's really nice to hear, on the other hand... I'd always play it safe and wait for the other shoe to drop.
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