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writes:Will a married man cheat if he is truly happy at home. As cheating I mean carrying on a emotional and physical relationship for over acyears?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): I'm with Male Anon on this one. People cheat because they are unhappy in their marriages and/or something is missing. When someone is happy and an opportunity to be unfaithful presents itself, they will turn it down.Perfectly happy people do not and never will entertain the notion of cheating.I think a big factor is the sex life losing the passion and excitement it once had. It becomes boring after many years together. You can work on it until the cows come home but you will never recapture the intensity and magic of your early years together when you could not get enough of each other. So when a man sees a woman he likes and has things in common with and the sexual attraction between them is incredible, of course he is going to go for it. Especially if his wife does not satisfy him in bed or nags him all the time or neglects him because of the kids, or has let herself get fat. The list is endless. Yes, it is sad and a wake up call that the marriage is going downhill but the fact is most people would rather cheat and get that excitement elsewhere than fix their marriages. It is so much easier. And most men will not want to leave an unhappy marriage because they might still be comfortable in it, they might have kids or they do not want to be taken to the cleaners by their wives. Most men cannot handle being alone, either. They need a woman to look after them.When I was happy and in love with my husband I never even once looked at another man let alone even considered the possibility of cheating. It was not even on my radar. Now 10 years into the marriage when things have become boring and we are having problems, I have become more open to the possibility of cheating. This goes for both married men and women. If they are UNHAPPY and the right circumstances are present, there is a good possibility they will cheat.If a guy was happy with his wife, he would not be taking up with another woman, period, whether it is an emotional connection or physical affair. If a woman was happy with hubby, she would not be looking outside her marriage at what another man can offer her. It's that simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): LoveGirl is wrong as usual. Both in my personal experience and from what several marriage counselors tell me, one of whom is a personal friend, most couples cheat to satisfy some longing for adventure, excitement or something else missing in the marital relationship. Truly happy people don't search and usually dont cheat unless they are coerced or drugs are involved...most of the time. If they give in because they "can get away with it", they probably were having problems to begin with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): When a person/married man cheats it is not about whether he/she is happy: it is whether an opportunity has presented itself. People are more prone to cheat if they know they will not get caught.
I know many 'happily married people' who are cheating!
People cheat because they can!
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): Usually no. Most people who cheat are unhappy...
....WITH THEMSELVES.
They think they are missing something, and may be, ore are unhappy with their spouse, and they may be unhappy with their spouses. But, more often than not, they have self issues that outweigh everything else in the equation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): I think a married man is less likely to cheat if he is happy at home. Obviously everyone is different, but we all have the same basic needs. Emotional and physical intimacy are critical in a relationship and of those two, emotional is more important. If the needs are not getting met in the marriage they will be met elsewhere, it is that simple. Believe me I know because I just discovered my wife is cheating on me.Would a guy cheat outright if given the opportunity? Probably. But I think it depends on the character of the man. I was given the opportunity on a silver platter once and turned it down because I did not want to cause pain on my wife.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (25 April 2011):
when speaking about human beings there are always exceptions and there are people who just dont follow any categorybut in GENERAL when a man loves a woman and he is fullfilled with herSEXUALLY and emotionly he wouldn't cheatsometimes a man who is very happy in his marriage cheat because a woman arround him is chasing him and flirting and showing skin in a very extensive and special way and those women who usually follow a good married man are usually one of the wive's best friendsGood Luck
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Ask Halle Barry or Sandra Bullock. Their husbands had drop dead gorgeous trophy wives, and they still cheated. A married man could have a beautiful saint for a wife and still stray.
It's true that if a wife is ignoring him, he could be at a higher risk, but simple boredom or a lack of variety or a fragile ego and a bit of a selfish streak could cause him to hurt even the most loyal amazing wife.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 The honest truth is that even if he is happy, even if he has the best wife in the world, there is still a chance he would cheat, either out of a need to try being with someone else or simply because he has found someone else he connects with. Neither of these reasons mean he doesn't love his wife, on the contrary, he could still feel incredibly passionate about her but his heart may want for more. In essence it depends on the man, is he loyal and devoted or is he selfish and apathetic toward his wife?
I hope that helps.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Happy man cheating? Maybe the better question is why are you asking? Are you suspicious of his behavior? Do you have some evidence that he may be cheating? If so that might be a subject to bring out into the open either to quell your fears or find out something that you should know. Bottom line though, communication with our partner should always be honest and open and available.
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