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writes: Need any advice quick because my family don't want to know about my situation. Went with a guy for couple of years and he was my first love so obviously it was really special but he didn't treat me the best because he was drinking alot and out with mates at uni. After the final breakup it took me about 7 months to move on after which i met the nicest guy with most of the qualities that my ex didnt' have but he was from a lower social class if you understand me and some of his family had been involved in stealing and drinking so my family didn't want me dating him as they didn't want involved with the family should our relationship grow into anything.I fell for the new guy very quick cos he was everything my ex wasn't. Then my mum would go into a state of depression if i even mentioned him cos she wants the best for me. My ex has now come back begging, crying he changed that now hes finished uni there are no obstacles to get in his way. His mum has even rang telling me he changed. So question is - do i give him a chance knowing i can't be with the person i'm truly suited to and i could trust would treat me right or go back to the one i'm sceptical about and give him a final chance despite not feeling same - would it grow back. I can't tell my mum that the reason i don't want him back is because my heart belongs to someone else. Its the worst thing having to hide how you feel and not being able to talk about it. Any advice greatly appreciated cos i'm having to deal with this alone. xo
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reader, Yos  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 It sounds to me like you've already made up your mind that you want to stay with your current boyfriend, and are just asking here hoping that people will agree with your decision?
It's a very natural response from parents to have a problem with a 'lower than your class' boyfriend. All parents of daughters secretly dream that they'll 'marry up' in some way. It's just human nature. It's also meaningless.
Only you really know the right thing to do. Don't worry about your family... if your current boyfriend really loves you then they'll come to see that over time.
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reader, Mushgirl  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 There's an obvious answer to that. Go with the new guy! Move on! Your ex had his chance, and he screwed it up. Just because this new man's family have a bad reputation doesn't mean he's bad himself, he sounds a lot better for you than your ex.As for YOUR family, they should leave you to your own decisions. They should stop trying to inflict your ex on you again. You could talk to them about this.Maybe you could take this new guy to meet your family, then they could see for themselves how much better for you he is.Good luck!
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