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writes:okay i have a question (obviously). my boyfriend and i love each other very much and i trust him deeply. lately we have been going further than we used to (physically speaking) and while in the moment i'm okay with things i am not sure if i should be. I'm pretty young (15) and so is my boyfriend. also he keeps trying to get to third and part of me wants it, but i am afraid i might regret doing something later. should i let him? or should i keep denying it? im really confused, i love him and i want to please him, but i dont know if i want to lose my "virginity" to third base yet since i have never done it.i'd love any help i can getthank you
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reader, SoNzZz +, writes (25 August 2006):
 You love him dont you...and if he loves you...he will wait till YOU feel comfortable to do it. The most important hing in a relationship is TRUST and LOVE. And if you dont have that then there is no way you can do it with him. My personal advice would be to wait till your older because trust me... you will regret it.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (23 August 2006):
 I am English so don't know exactly what third base means but I'm guessing it's something just down from sex! Anyway, even if we're talking kissing or full having sex, the only time you should do anything at all is if you're truly and completely ready. If your boyfriend cares about you, he will wait for you and not pressure you.
Also, don't pressure yourself. You have a lot more to offer a guy than just sex. You are under no obligation or time constraint as to when you must do certain things. Just wait until it feels right and then, you shouldn't regret it later.
You're asking this question so, to me, that shows me that maybe you're not really ready yet. We all get nervous the first time we do something new, especially something this big but you are unsure and that is your instincts telling you to be careful.
Just take your time. If you two are meant to be, you will last a long time and that gives you plently of time in the future to do all that stuff. Just enjoy each others company and have a good time, whatever happens, happens.
Good luck
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (23 August 2006):
 Hi there hunny, you should never feel pressurised into losing your virginity. It is special and you can only lose it once, so you have to think about it carefully. does this guy really mean that much to you? can you still see yourself being with him in a few years time? you have to ask yourself these questions first. I regret losing my virginity as it was not pleasent, I was drunk and lost it in a park with an older boy from school I had no feelings for. So I often look back and wish I would of waited for someone special. I think that if you really feel comfortable around this bloke maybe you should do it. Make it special. Maybe add some candles and some nice mellow music and enjoy it. If at any point you decide you feel uncomfortable tell him to stop. This is a special time for both of you and a moment that should be cherished, and remember to use a condom. good luck
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reader, Yos  +, writes (23 August 2006):
 Don't do it if you're not comfortable. This is really important. You'll really regret it afterwards if you let your boyfriend push you into something you don't want to do. That regret can stay around a long time... my girlfriend tells me she still regrets how she lost her virginity, and that was 18 years ago! So make sure you are sure you want to before doing it.
As much as your bf loves you, young boys have a really really high sex drive that has the ability to blank the rest of their mind! If you are not clear with him what you want (or don't want) he'll keep pushing the boundaries every time. If it's not clear than you'll feel like you are being constantly pressured to go further. If you have your doubts he'll pick up on them and keep on trying. Remember that it is your body, and you don't owe anything of it to anyone. It is yours to give if and when and to whom you choose. It's not anyone elses choice but your own.
I suggest you tell him that you don't want to go any further than you have already because you don't feel ready for it yet. Tell him not to push you on this, and that if / when you feel like going further you'll let him know. You may find that if he does listen to you and doesn't try to go further, that over time you'll trust him even more and then start to feel like losing your virginity with him.
It's also illegal for you to have sex at your age, so be careful, you could get in trouble.
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