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writes: hi im 13 and i am just learning about boys and how basically all they think and care about is sex and women. i am now really upset cos thts all boys want :( so they have no respect for girls tht means :( i hate it! i hate tht that is all they care about!why is tht all they care about? :( will they always be like this? and is there any guy out there who just wants one person, just one girl, and doesnt ONLY care about sex and fit girls and stuff? is there anyone like that for me? :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2006): unfortunatly for u, u've met all the wrong guys... i dont thing directly of sex and women, i think of friendship, trust and respect. cuz if u dont have those thers no relationship there
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): you are very young so quit worrying! Not all lads are like this! i promise there are a few pricks but some are sweet! you just have to look for them! LAds your age are rather immature but don't worry they will grow up and when they do, make sure your there to snap them up! take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): No matter if you have a penis or vagina, we all want one thing....to be validated.
We want someone to hear us. We want someone we can go to. We want a good and trusted friend.
This is what matters most. With this friendship will come all else.
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reader, Nay920 +, writes (23 August 2006):
Not all boys want that most of them are but you have to find the right one before you jump into the conclusion that all guys want is sex alot of females are like that two so dont think its just boys.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (23 August 2006):
 It is sad but true. I think boys generally grow out of this around the age of 30, although I know plenty of 50 year old men who still behave like that unfortunately :(
Broadly speaking, men will behave as badly as the women around them let them get away with. From my experiences it seems that men tend to go around acting like idiots until they meet a woman who finally puts her foot down and forces them to grow up.
What unfortunately messes this up (in my opinion, not everyones) is girls who let boys walk all over them... or girls that let boys have casual sex with them and insist on nothing in return. This teaches those boys that they can get what they want (sex) without having to give anything back (such as respect, love and attention). People are naturally lazy and looking for the easy way out after all :( Why would your average boy bother taking a girl out on a date if another girl he knows will happily have him show up drunk at 2am?
So the best thing you can do is to make sure you are treated with respect by boys, insist on it and hold them to task... which in turn will teach them how to be respectful to you and other girls. If you want them to treat you well, then insist that they do and don't take any shit if they don't.
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reader, lucyloo135 +, writes (23 August 2006):
 hey huni dont worry not all males your age think that way and even if they do (hopefully) they will grow out of it. at your age this is nothing you want to be worrying about you have plenty of time to get yourself into a decent relationship with a nice boy who will treat you right not as some sort of sex slave. when your ready and in a decent relationship you too will want to have sex. for now just enjoy yourself you dont need to tye yourself down just yet have a good flirt but dont take it too far until your ready i hope this advice will help you in the near future xxx
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reader, guardian87  +, writes (23 August 2006):
 Okay, huuuuugge stereotype. But its not your fault for thinking that that is all they want. To me, there are three types of guys in life: 1) those who are pretty much horny all the time and will always have their mind in the gutter/ 2)Those who just don't really care for girls and relationships yet/ and 3) those who don't think about sex. i guess the nicest way to put those guys in words are "lady's men", like i am. FInding a guy that cares more about the partner herself and not what they are doing with their partner is hard, i know, but keep looking. He will come along. remember that guys will always be curious at this age, though, and may think about sex and all of that stuff. Every guy will think that at one point or another, but how they handle it and react to their hormones will tell you which guys are for you.
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reader, uonlyliveonce  +, writes (23 August 2006):
 not every boy is the same its just that the good ones are really hard to find and some lads are really good at lyin so you dont know wether there genuine or not. they do grow out of it and settle down eventully.there will always be lads who are out for one thing but they'll always be the good ones 2. just be careful and dont give in to them and then the will have respect for you. x x
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (23 August 2006):
 Oh hunny, at the age of 13 boys are just starting to notice girls and to be honest most are after one thing. Just remember not to feel pressurised into doing anything with anyone until you are ready. Don't think that if you do something with someone it will make them like you, because it wont. The good thing is most blokes grow out of this stage and once there bored and have seen enough different girls they will look for that special girl. Not all blokes are the same its just that most are and it gives all the good guys out there a bad reputation. Be careful and picky and don't be forced into anything. Good luck hunny
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reader, talk 2 me +, writes (23 August 2006):
listen i just wanted to say not every one is like that every one is different if you want to start seeeing some one you wouldnt ask anyone out you would want to get to know them first then its up to you.
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