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writes: Im having a bit of a sexual problem with my girlfriend at the mo. During sex, she cannot feel me inside her. We both have put this down to my penis being too small or her being to wide and deep. I normally have to stimulate her with my fingers or mouth to get her senses going or use my fingers while having sex. Ive heard of these penis enlargement exercises to increase the size of your penis a bit in length and width, but do these work? Is there anyone out there that have come across this problem in their experience and if so, what can be done about it? We love each other very much and both have great patience with this matter, but would love to be able to have great sex together and have an orgasm at the same time without me having to stimulate her to get her to orgasm with me. Any help would be much appreciated please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): If someone made me come before sex I'd go to sleep. I agree with YOS, and I am one of the 95% too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): Yos+ is right, you should always use foreplay first.I'll let you into a lil secret of mine, the reason why i'm so good in bed (as the girls say) is i wont start sexual intercourse UNTIL i have made her have an orgasm (or more) either by fingering her and/or licking her out.Now, the other problem you face is your confidence, which is a key factor in sex, i dont have that problem because i feel comfortable as i have already made them orgasm, so im not bothered about my dick being small or me not being able to make her reach an orgasm (as i already have) or any of that stuff.Ironically, i have tried sex without doing this foreplay stuff and i was quite terrible as i was a box of nerves! Ok this was when i first started out, but the technique works!You need to look outside of the box mate!There is no reason why you cant:* FUCK her ANAL instead of Vaginal!! (use a condom if that seems off putting)* use a dick extension (you still get to fuck her and give her great orgasms - the next best thing to the proper thing - in fact i recommend you to do this)* If she is that wide use a vibrator as well as your dick* get her to use her fingers!Remember dont lose your confidence over this... and if you cant get her to orgasm with your tounge or your fingers during foreplay then a dildo or vibrating dildo will help
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reader, Yos  +, writes (16 August 2006):
 What you are experiencing is normal. Most women won't climax from intercourse alone, you need to use your fingers or find some other way of stimulating the outside of her (mainly her clitoris). It is nothing to do with your penis size or her being too wide or deep. Nothing to do with it at all, that is nonsense. Almost those women in porn screaming with huge climaxes whilst being (only) fucked are just acting, fyi.
There is a way for some women to orgasm during intercourse. It involves stimulating her gspot with the tip of your penis, which takes you going in at a specific angle and depth (which is different for everyone, you'll need to experiment). However, this doesn't work for everyone and doesn't even work for the same person every time. I see this as a lucky bonus when it happens.
"We would love to be able to have great sex together and have an orgasm at the same time without me having to stimulate her to get her to orgasm with me".
... so that's just not how things work for 95% of us. Your fingers and tongue are going to have to stay busy I'm afraid. Do also consider that your girlfriend can use her fingers on herself when you have intercourse, they don't necessarily have to be yours.
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