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writes:I found out that my sister might be having a party. Now I don't now all the details (where, how many are going etc.) but me and my parents are out that weekend and there are guys older than me, who might be going. My parents say she can't have a party (she'll be 16 in April) and I've told my parents she might have on behind their backs but they say she isn't (some of her friends were talking about it today after my parents said no). I'm I just paranoid, and would I be seen as a concerned older brother, or a nosey weasel of a brother? Reply to this Question
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (25 February 2007):
 Hi,Your sister is only just going to turn sixteen and at that age as we all know we know everything we don't think of any danger...she is probably well excited that older guys are coming to the party but hey that spells DANGER!!!! Not saying thats wrong but your a lad so you should be able to work that one out.....Your parents are trusting her and she is obviosly disrespecting their trust, if she wants to be an adult then she has to act as one.....Your really sweet to be such are caring brother and what a situation to be in, but how would you fell if something went wrong while you went away with your parents for the weekend..You have tried telling your parents but they have put their trust in her they believe she is grown up enough to be trusted. I am an older sister if it were me I would let my sister know that I know her plans and see what she has to say for herself, she isn't going to be happy so be prepaired for a tounge lash.....Is there anyone you can get to watch out for her while you are away?If not then perhps you could do a bit of detective work find out where this party is taking palce, (probably in your parents house )and who is going?. Once you know all the facts then you have to weigh everything up, if its in the house then remember your parents have worked hard over the years to build a home this could be distroyed but the most important thing is your sisters welfare can you live with yourself ?Good luck and I know one day she will thank you for being a great caring brother Good luck babes xxxxxxxxThinking of you, please let me know how it all turns out babes
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (25 February 2007):
 Hey there,
I'm stuck between telling your parents and not telling them... I don't know your sister. Is she a real wild girl? If you're scared about these older guys being there, why don't you attend as well? If you're there, you'll feel a lot better about the whole thing... if your sister doesn't want you there, well, just tell her:
"either I'm coming or I'm telling Mom."
If you think your sister will be in danger at this party, go ahead and tell your parents. Your sister will be PISSED off at you, and might seek revenge, but she'll thank you when she's older.
xxIndia
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (25 February 2007):
 Being an older sibling myself, I think that you should have talked to your sister before you ratted her out to your parents, but there's nothing you can do about that now.
But perhaps you can still have a chat with her, if she's still talking to you (girls that age can be a bit hot-headed). You could tell her that you hope that she will be fine while you're away and that if something goes wrong, for whatever reason, she can call you.
If she's hellbent on having a party while her family's away, there's probably not much you can do about it, but at least if something would happen, she knows that she can call her older brother and that you'll do whatever you can to help her.
And as to whether you would be seen as concerned brother or a nosy weasel, that's in the eye of the beholder =)
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (25 February 2007):
 I think it's sweet you care about your sister and want to look out for her. I know it's not the cool thing to do, to tell your parents about a party, but if you think she could be in danger, i.e. from older guys, or the house may be in danger, I think you should tell your parents. It will be hard and you will totally get stick for it but is has to be done. She has to learn that no means no and you are only trying to keep her safe. Your mum will really appreciate it too.
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