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writes:i have been going out with my boyfriend for five months now and i feel as if my bofriend does not tell me most simple things like where he is going or with who? i knw this makes me sound like a paranoid person but i feel it isn't such a hard thing to answer. is this a trust issue? or am i just being to paranoid? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (24 February 2007):
 Hey there,
Since you've been going out for five months, your boyfriend probably just assumes that he doesn't need to tell you these little things, because you know all of his friends, you know what he usually does, etc. I think he thinks you trust him and that he just doesn't need to check in with you anymore.
If you are feeling a little weird, like maybe he's cheating on you, simply ask him where's he's going or where's he's been. If he tells you straightup and doesn't seem weird about it, then there's nothing weird going on. However, if he get's defensive - i.e. "why do you need to know?", "what, I have to tell you everything?"... then maybe it's time to worry.
If it's just bugging you and you don't think he's actually cheating or anything, just let him know that you worry about him when he's out and ask him if he can just tell you where he's going in case anything should happen to him (or you).
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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