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... Send *asteofIndia a private message | | | *asteofIndia's profile:TasteofIndia here. I'm 33 years old, with my BA in Theater & Psychology. I suppose you could say that I have studied people and how to get into their heads. I've been here on Dear Cupid for well over a decade. I love Dear Abby, Ann Landers, all those advice giving goddesses... when I found this website how could I resist?? (Couldn't.) I love Dear Cupid, love being a moderator and love giving advice when I can!!
A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
I adore: positivity, theater, llamas, fromage, sweatpants, earrings, and sitcoms. That just about sums it up... |
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Are we safe using pull-out for birth control? Is it normal to have several orgasms in a row?
Q. I have a couple of questions. First and foremost, my fiance and I have only been having sex for a couple of weeks now. We were originally waiting to be married but it randomly kind of happened one night. That aside, he finds it less romantic an...
A. 29 July 2008: A great Aunt named "Tisha" posted this a couple days ago. The girl had a question similar to yours. THIS VIDEO IS SO GREAT!! It's funny, informative and will answer your questions about pulling out and even other sex questions.
http:... (read in full...)
My penis bends a little to the left. Do girls care about this?
Q. Well, this is a bit embarrassing and I hate to ask it but it's always been something in the back of my mind. I am fairly happy with my penis, it's nothing special but it's at a comfortable size and what not. The only problem is is that it curves ...
A. 29 July 2008: My man's penis leans to the left. Doesn't bug me. Just like Sandman says, it gives a fella some character - not to mention, a bend really CAN hit amazing spots inside the vagina!
Seriously, do not even worry about it. Every penis looks a little d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I disagree over my use of social network sites. Does he love me?
Q. Hey people.am seeking your advice on what i should do.i have a boyfriend but he is not that supportive with me when it comes to me joining any social network in the internet. While him hes there in all the social network.i support him and in all ...
A. 29 July 2008: If he is so controlling about your social networking sites, it makes me wonder - is he this possessive over you all the time? He should be able to trust you, especially if you have been a trustworthy girlfriend. As someone who lives far away from ... (read in full...)
Are girls turned off if guys have hairy asses?
Q. I've been complemented on having a nice and big ass, but the thing girls don't realize that i have a hairy ass. So here's my question, is it a turn-off, or do girls mind if guys have hairy asses??...
A. 28 July 2008: If you have a carpet on your butt, check out a salon and get a wax!! However, some hair on your butt is natural and okay. I certainly wouldn't mind... but if I can't tell in the dark if I'm grabbing you or my dog, then there will probably be some ... (read in full...)
Phone calls to another girl in secret, deleted inbox. Can I trust him?
Q. I don't know what to do about my boyfriend as he acts really suspiciously. He gets lots of texts from some girl he knows who apparantly 'lives in london'. He tells me that they're nothing but friends, but I find this really hard to believe as I have ...
A. 28 July 2008: Yeah, sounds to me like this is NOT an innocent relationship between your boyfriend and this girl. I vote ditch him. ... (read in full...)
He is determined to move back to his parents with me now we have money problems. I don't want to, but I don't want to upset him.
Q. Hi I'm an 18 year old girl and I've been seeing my boyfriend for over 2 years. I love him very much and last year we decided to move in together. To pay the rent I had to quit college and go working and since I lost my job a few months ago we are s...
A. 28 July 2008: Yeah, it sounds like your boyfriend loves the easy life. It doesn't take much effort to sell a chunk of land, after all. Apply to college and tell him that living at his parents is inconvenient. He's got a few options:
- He can stay at his pare... (read in full...)
I really need help on how to tell her how I feel.
Q. How Do I tell this girl I really like that I like her? I wanna see if she feels the same way, but I'm afraid to ask her. every time I try to talk to her, I freeze up and mumble like an idiot. I really need help on how to tell her how I feel. ...
A. 28 July 2008: Well, if you truly can't find the words, try a new medium. Write her a letter, maybe?... (read in full...)
What's going on with this? My penis wouldn't stay hard..
Q. My wife and I had about 3 years married and today day when I'm about to enter on her my penis star comming down, whats going on with that?...
A. 28 July 2008: Totally normal. Unless this happens to you consistently, you have just been introduced to something that happens to all guys once in awhile. You still feeling frisky? You still are attracted to your wife? Let your "little buddy" warm up again and ... (read in full...)
Even at this age I know the agony of heartbreak.
Q. I know I'm still relatively young, but even at this age I know the agony of heartbreak. Many times I've fallen in, just to be broken again. I always think I've given up on love, but then I fall again. Every new beginning, every sign that says this ...
A. 28 July 2008: I wish I could give you a simple solution, but unfortunately the age old adage is true. Time heals all wounds, my sweet. Breakups are so difficult to go through... you sit around in this horrible, dark fog for a few weeks and then it starts to ease ... (read in full...)
He thinks we should only see each other every other night. Is he trying to break up with me?
Q. Ok i know this sounds perfetic but i was ment to see my bf 2nite weve been out 7 months and only spent 3 nites apart,anyway weve been shouting a lot recently and now 2nite he said we need to spend a few nites apart to see if we moan at each other ...
A. 28 July 2008: Hey sweet,
I think a couple of days to cool down will be best for the both of you. It sounds like you may be getting a little crazy being around each other so much... maybe not being around each other all the time will be better for you. After al... (read in full...)
Why do my testicles ache?
Q. This is bit embarassing but what might cause my balls to ache? They have ached in the past when I've been seriously turned on but not had sex however they seem to ache at times every day for past few days. I have been masturbating but even so am ...
A. 26 July 2008: If a man ever experiences pain in his testicles, he should go see a doctor. It can be signs of something serious, or it could be fine. Absolutely go to the doctor!... (read in full...)
Could I have some birthday present ideas for my girl. Thanks
Q. good birthday present ideas? girl likes music theatre drama anime japanese pop culture alternative fashion chocolate thanks everybody...
A. 26 July 2008: Hi sweet,
I'm a theater junkie and the absolute BEST gift I've ever received was season tickets to my favorite theater (if she doesn't have a favorite, just pick one with a season that you think she'll like). Many theaters have student discount... (read in full...)
My wife says I am in love with my friend. Is she right?
Q. I am married. I love my wife and daughter. Lately I find myself thinking about a friend (who is female) alot. We talk to each other 3-4 times a day. My wife says my face lights up when I talk to this friend. She says that I am in love with this ...
A. 26 July 2008: Yes. Yes you should.
Whether or not you have gotten to a place of love with your friend, you are well on your way and by now should know that your relationship is inappropriate. get off the phone with this woman and get active with your own wife... (read in full...)
Women, is it looks or height?
Q. Do women in general prefer looks(face,muscles etc...) or height?...
A. 26 July 2008: I think she means "brains over brawn"...
but a very, very, very cute mistake!! yay!!... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a baby if you are an overweight smoker?
Q. im a bigger girl and i smoke i know its bad and i just want 2 know if there is any other bigger girls that smoke that ever had a baby bcuz i know if ur overweight and smoke its harder 2 concive and i wanna have 1 so i just want to know if it is ...
A. 26 July 2008: Thanks for reminding us to be sensitive. Sometimes, due to the anonymity of the web, we aunts forget how personal this advice really is. My condolences to you for the loss of your friend.
If there's a possibility you're pregnant, go out and get ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a baby if you are an overweight smoker?
Q. im a bigger girl and i smoke i know its bad and i just want 2 know if there is any other bigger girls that smoke that ever had a baby bcuz i know if ur overweight and smoke its harder 2 concive and i wanna have 1 so i just want to know if it is ...
A. 26 July 2008: Of course it's possible for you to still have a baby. However, the sooner you quit and start getting healthy, the BETTER your chances are conceiving are. ... (read in full...)
Guys go for my friend and not for me. Why?????????
Q. Ok so basically this is really getting me down and fed up. My best friend and i go out a lot together and meet people together, we are practically never apart socially. She is blonde and probably described as 'FIT' but not small featured or pr...
A. 25 July 2008: It seems like maybe your friend is easier to approach. Don't get bogged down by the idea that your friend is prettier or has more to offer. It's not her blonde locks that are attracting fellas, it is probably her attitude. She may come off as more ... (read in full...)
He went soft for a brief period during unprotected sex.. then he said it felt like he hadn't come.
Q. Hey guys, Ok, so here it is. My partner and I had unpretected sex last night and usualy we use the "pull out method' which i know is risky blah blah blah not looking for a lecture on that. But last night, he said during sex for a very brief peri...
A. 25 July 2008: Tisha, that video was the bomb. Planned Parenthood is amazing, and this video is a perfect example of why. Even I learned a little something new!! ... (read in full...)
Women, is it looks or height?
Q. Do women in general prefer looks(face,muscles etc...) or height?...
A. 25 July 2008: Neither of those matter to me. I guess if I were to choose between the two, I would pick looks - because looks translate to any height. However, when it comes down to it, I don't care if the fella is ugly as a bat and not tall enough to ride a ... (read in full...)
If I watch other guys getting "pegged", am I gay?
Q. Pegging describes a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man's anus with a strap-on dildo. http://en.wikipedia.org /wiki/Pegging_(sexual_practice) Does enjoying pegging porn make me gay?I know practicing it doesn't really mean I'm ...
A. 25 July 2008: Nah, it just makes you curious is all. Unless you're seriously interested in having sex with a man yourself, I don't think you can consider yourself gay. Don't stress about it!... (read in full...)
Can you sense real love after being with your partner just a few months?
Q. I Feel real strongly with my partner and I trust her 100%, she is so amazing and keeps me happy. I love everything about her! Can you sense real love tho being with your partner few months?...
A. 24 July 2008: Hi there, sweet.
I like the word you used, "sense". I feel like one can "sense" real love coming... not to say that I think one can truly be IN LOVE in a few months, but I do feel like people can begin to sense it coming on.
With your fai... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant and I'm only 15!
Q. i think i might be pregnant and im only 15! i am with the person whos it will be and have been 4 9 months now. tests r 2 expensive and they dont do them 4 free any where now. what am i suspose to do? and do u think my life will be over if i have a ...
A. 24 July 2008: Hi sweet,
First off, tests are not too expensive. You can usually find them for 10-20 dollars at the drug store. Also, there are many women's health centers and pregnancy planning centers that WILL give you tests for free. You will have to look ... (read in full...)
My gran and granddad have organized a meal for my granddad's birthday, but they won't let my girlfriend come. What would you do?
Q. I am 27 years old. My gran and granddad have organized a meal out for my granddad’s birthday that is happening this weekend. They have invited the family plus a couple of their friends. My mum, dad and myself noticed that my girlfriend has not been ...
A. 23 July 2008: Hey sweet,
It is your Grandfather's birthday, so just respect his wishes and keep it family only. Don't get too offended by the fact that he'd like just the family, it is his birthday after all! He can do whatever he'd like on his special day.
... (read in full...)
I don't want sex, but I can't say no and I can't stop him
Q. i think my boyfriends bribing me and i really dont know what to do about it. ive been with him for nearly 6 months and we have been sexually active for just over two, but its weird. i didnt feel like i was ready for a sexual relationship at the time ...
A. 19 July 2008: Oooh, Johnny B. Bad, great idea. Tell you Dad, your Uncles and your Brothers... and if they're all skinny and wimpy and the women in your family are the tough ones, tell them. Your family would be appalled to learn how your man is treating you! Tell ... (read in full...)
He tld me to be quiet because he had issues to sort out - but now he's going to say something and I'm not sure what it's about or what to do.
Q. it's hard to how to explain what i need to, theres this guy and basically i don't know if he likes me. he told me something only him and his parents know not even his best friends know so why me? and he cancelled seeing his brother in amsterdam to ...
A. 19 July 2008: I'm sure he likes you and when he chooses to tell you he will. As to what you say back? Well, that's pretty easy... do you like him or no? Don't toy around with him, be straight with him. If you like him, give a relationship a try. If you don't like ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex, but I can't say no and I can't stop him
Q. i think my boyfriends bribing me and i really dont know what to do about it. ive been with him for nearly 6 months and we have been sexually active for just over two, but its weird. i didnt feel like i was ready for a sexual relationship at the time ...
A. 19 July 2008: You know damn well what to do. This guy is a complete creep, abusive, manipulative, the works. Get out of this relationship. Tell him to screw himself and put all his little gifts where the sun doesn't shine and stay away from him! Clearly he ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get aroused by pantyhose?
Q. Is it normal to get sexually aroused by the feeling of womans panty hoes. I'm very much addicted to them and like masturbating with them. Is that normal to be sexually addicted to them. what do you think?...
A. 19 July 2008: Ahhh, the world of fetishes. You are totally normal along with the hundreds of thousands (only a guess, but I'll bet it's close) of others who get off on the same thing! Don't worry, my dear.... (read in full...)
Am I rushing things or should I keep trying to have children?
Q. I am a 21 year old female. I don't work (in between jobs) and I don't go to school. I live on my own with my boyfriend. I have been in long term relationships and was once in love. I have known my current boyfriend for three years and we have been ...
A. 19 July 2008: Personally, I do think you're rushing things. Not like I don't think you could handle it or that you aren't mature enough, I just think that before you add the pressures of a child, you should secure the rest of your life.
Your boyfriend is inter... (read in full...)
I don't feel the butterflies in my stomach, does it mean we're not meant for each other?
Q. I have a very important question. When me and my bf kiss I don't feel butterflys or weak in the knees or things like they say in books and such. Does that mean were not meant for each other? He feels it but I don't. My bf thinks I don't feel it ...
A. 18 July 2008: Hey sweet,
It comes down to simple attraction. Do you like kissing him? Are you focused on him when you are? Are you having a good time? Because if you're answering "no" to any of those questions, then you have a problem. But if you like him and ... (read in full...)
She sent her new "gay" friend photos and a message. How should I respond?
Q. I have been very suspicious of my girlfriends new "gay" friend recently and did something I know I shouldnt do: I accessed her email and found that she had sent a bunch of photos with the message "Hello, as promised the photos. Big kisses, I love ...
A. 16 July 2008: Hey sweet,
As said, it really depends on the pictures. If she's nekkid, be upset. If they're just pictures, let this go. Spend some time around the guy. You can feel out the situation... seriously, if you make the effort to get to know the fell... (read in full...)
What are the principle characteristics, that women like in their choice of a dating partner, please be as honest as possible?
Q. I´m 23 years old. I`ve had my share of bad luck in love. I´m afraid I´ve been labled a boring 2nd choice when it comes to dating. I want the female readers to be very honest when they answer. What are the principal characteristics that would make a ...
A. 16 July 2008: Okay, you've heard all the answers. Everyone is completely right. These things aren't what is truly important and any girl who dates you exclusively because of your hair, bod and clothes is NOT a girl who you want to be in a relationship with.
... (read in full...)
I caught my cousins smoking! What should I do?
Q. well i went on a trip on a family reunion then i went to ya know hang with my cousins but the bad part is i caught one of them smoking im shocked oh yea 2 of my cousins were smoking thats horrible and disgusting now every time i see them i see big ...
A. 16 July 2008: Hello my sweet,
He may not like you for telling an adult right NOW, but when he is older he will appreciate your heart. What he is doing is a very addictive and harmful thing and it would be best to tell an adult. You will be doing the right th... (read in full...)
I'm clueless! I asked a girl out and couldn't believe she said yes! Now what do I do?
Q. Hi there, I recently asked a girl out and I couldn't beleive it when she said yes. However, I don't know where to take her or what to do (I'm clueless!) So women, what would you want to do and where would you want a guy to take you on a firs...
A. 15 July 2008: You got great suggestions. If this girl is kind of funky and dances to her own beat a little (like me), take her to the zoo. That was my favorite first date ever!!
Or...
- any museum (art, natural history, even something boring like the "museum... (read in full...)
I want to blow his mind - among other things! Tips, please.
Q. Does anyone have any sure fire tips to giving the perfect blowjob? I want to blow my bf's mind! Cheers x...
A. 15 July 2008: A helpful hint - start out nice and slow and teasing. Tease him for awhile - like 5-7 minutes (doesn't look like very long on paper, but it feels like forever!).
Switch between your hand and your mouth. Switch up your speed. Play with his "boy... (read in full...)
What sex positions are most popular, and also unpopular, with women?
Q. what posistions do women love and hate?...
A. 15 July 2008: Wow, worrying about this too much. 2-3 inches is the consensus. Quit stressing about it ONLINE and start driving all this attention into the bedroom with your woman. Sex takes two to make it good. TRY EVERY POSITION IN THE BOOK (and by "book", I ... (read in full...)
One of the secretaries has placed an unopened tampon under my personal belongings, any idea why?
Q. Hi I have returned to work in a healthcare organization and share an office with 12 colleagues. A few other secretaries also have access to the room. I don't know any of them too well as I have been away for 2 years. One of the women has placed...
A. 14 July 2008: Sounds like a mistake (or a really, really lame prank) to me. I don't think there is any sexual motives... ignore it and go about your business. I really think we can chalk this up to unintentional.
xx India... (read in full...)
Seriously - Would you cheat with a celebrity if it was safe?
Q. i need serious answers. Married or single women - if you could sleep with any hot celebrity you wanted to and there was no way in the world you could get caught would you cheat on your husband or boyfriend? Serious answers only please....
A. 14 July 2008: Even if I wouldn't get caught, I would tell my man nonetheless. Hell YEAH I would have a fun night with Johnny Depp. Would I date Johnny Depp? No, I adore my boyfriend. He's my soulmate. Johnny Depp is just this foxy celebrity.
I wouldn't... (read in full...)
What sex positions are most popular, and also unpopular, with women?
Q. what posistions do women love and hate?...
A. 14 July 2008: I'm not saying that someone can be too small to perform the act of doggy style. Per the discussion happening with my girlfriends right now, one can be too small to FEEL during doggy style, or too small to keep it inside and the thrusts end up ... (read in full...)
Is my sex drive too high for a girl my age, as my boyfriend says?
Q. I asked a question about my boyfriend's sex drive, but now I have a question about my own. My boyfriend (We'll call him Matthew) tells me that my sex drive is too high for a girl of my age. I'm eighteen and I find myself in the mood upward o...
A. 14 July 2008: I think that you're feisty and that's great. You enjoy sex - and yes, you may be a little more enthusiastic than average, but not in a bad way and CERTAINLY not in an unhealthy way. I think your man is just having trouble keeping up with you and for ... (read in full...)
My wife told me she would cheat on me with George Clooney if she had the chance!!!
Q. Guys, would it bother you a lot if this happened to you? My wife and I were watching tv last night where a woman was asked a question, if George Clooney asked her to have sex with her and there was no way she could get caught would she cheat on her ...
A. 14 July 2008: Mmmm, George Clooney.
Yeah, Johnny Depp, John Stamos, Antonio Banderas, Danny Masterson, Orlando Bloom... um, yes, my boyfriend is totally aware of the fact that when they finally come to their senses, knock on my door and ask me to sleep wi... (read in full...)
New to christianity..so is it wrong to masturbate to porn?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a simple question to ask. I'm new to Christianity and was wondering if it is wrong to masturbate or to watch porn? I want to know because I do both of these regularly and it has been eating me up inside and I don't have ...
A. 14 July 2008: Hey sweet,
Now you have to understand that most churches feel very differently, particularly in the Christian circuit. Some churches are more liberal and encourage masturbation as a healthy way to express yourself sexually without the potentia... (read in full...)
What sex positions are most popular, and also unpopular, with women?
Q. what posistions do women love and hate?...
A. 14 July 2008: Doggy style is a fun one, I don't know if it's intended to be a "favorite". Like everyone said, everyone is different. I, for one, love doggy style, but I've got a lot of girlfriends who HATE doggy style, because it's uncomfortable for them and ... (read in full...)
What sex positions are most popular, and also unpopular, with women?
Q. what posistions do women love and hate?...
A. 14 July 2008: Depends on the woman!
Like me, personally - I love side by side sex, and I love being on top (thought I wear out easily on top). I like doggy style, but hate it when he has one leg propped up because it makes him go even deeper and my man is a lit... (read in full...)
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