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A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
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Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 11 October 2008: YES!! This follow up made my day. Congratulations!!! You must update us when you've been clean for ONE YEAR!!
How exciting for you. You must feel super strong at this point... your will power is unbelievable - especially with all the stress t... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be pissed at her and hurt?
Q. Am i right to be pissed off? So this girl who i am basically dating (we kiss, hug, cuddle, hang out all the time) but arent official because for some reason she needs time, i found today that she is possibly dating another guy. She has been go...
A. 4 April 2008: I don't think that you're overreacting. It seems like she does definitely have a relationship with this guy, even if it is just like the one she has with you - casual. I think you need to just tell her that you're not going to wait in the wings ... (read in full...)
My BF wants me to have sex to his friends to make them jealous, I'm tempted to cede... should I do so?
Q. My bf wants me to have sex with his friends. he says I am so good he wants to make then jealous. I'm half tempted to do it because a few of then are really cute and I want to keep him happy. Most of them have seen me topless and almost naked at ...
A. 3 April 2008: YES, Tisha!! Amen.
Good advice.... (read in full...)
Do you accompany oral by manual stimulation?...
Q. How do you give somebody oral? i know you use your mouth but do you use your hand too??...
A. 3 April 2008: How do you give oral? Lick up and down, use your tongue for little flicks of the tongue and also nice slow, passionate licks - sort of like really going after a popsicle when it's starting to melt. Use your mouth to kiss his "love stick" as well.
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My BF wants me to have sex to his friends to make them jealous, I'm tempted to cede... should I do so?
Q. My bf wants me to have sex with his friends. he says I am so good he wants to make then jealous. I'm half tempted to do it because a few of then are really cute and I want to keep him happy. Most of them have seen me topless and almost naked at ...
A. 3 April 2008: What is he, your pimp? And girl, where is your dignity? You're not an object, and don't just sleep around with guys to give them a taste of you. You're worth so much more than that, my sweet. Your boyfriend is a creep and shouldn't even have the ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over half a million visitors in March!
Q. I'm pleased to say that according to Google Analytics, March 08 was the busiest month ever for Dear Cupid! We had 519,747 unique visitors (i.e. people!) visit the site from 1st March 08 to 31st March 08 inclusive. Over HALF A MILLION people.... ...
A. 2 April 2008: Hooray!! Your popularity is overwhelming! You have started a craze... and a wonderful resource as well. Fabulous! So happy for you, Andrew.
Keep it cooking and let's HIT THAT MILLION!
xx India... (read in full...)
I want sex without putting in the work like listening, talking, etc.....what do you think?
Q. I'm 21 years old, single and I know a couple of girls I could be dating right now. The thing is, I'm only looking for sex at this point of my life :D I'm not interested in spending time listening to her, hanging out, etc. All I want to do with ...
A. 1 April 2008: For real, start looking for older women who want a young, virile man. Or, go to sex clubs, For a fee, you can be having sex with people and you KNOW it's consensual. Or, hire a hooker. That always works.
Just don't try to "trick" women into sle... (read in full...)
Can you be a virgin and have anal sex and get pregnant?
Q. ok here goes I'm a virgin and had anal sex for the first time, now I'm having pregnancy syptoms like stomach pain, back ache, dizzness and nauseousness and I wonder am I pregnant? help me...
A. 31 March 2008: YES YES, you very well may be pregnant. Not to say that your chances of pregnancy are through the roof, but it's certainly not impossible. Semen comes back out from whence it came, remember. Some of the semen is bound to leak out of your backside, ... (read in full...)
He masturbates in his sleep. Why does he do this?
Q. This is a random question! =P I love my boyfriend very much. We have an amazing sex life as well, and we've both said how it gets better and better everytime but he masturbates in his sleep! first of all i found it quite offensive, becau...
A. 30 March 2008: It's definitely not because you don't satisfy him. There's a handful of people who actually do this in their sleep - I know my boyfriend often can be caught masturbating when he's fast asleep - he rarely cums from it... I suspect his dreams take him ... (read in full...)
Survey: how old were you when you performed your first fellatio, did you choose a special person and did you like it from the very beginning?
Q. I have question for you women and girl on this site: How old were you when you gave your first blowjob? The reason I ask is that I went to high school in a small town in the 1970s, before oral sex was known. So I am curious as to when to when girls ...
A. 30 March 2008: I was twenty years old... I was with the fella that I'm still with today. It was a year into our relationship. I had also lost my virginity to him several months before. He was so sweet, NEVER forced me - didn't even bug me about it, really. He ... (read in full...)
Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 25 March 2008: Yay, fabulous! Wait until you hit that MONTH mark. You'll be feeling amazing. What a great accomplishment!! You are testing your strength and will power and YOU ARE WINNING! Keep going, my sweet!... (read in full...)
She always seems to be 'busy' but should I push harder for a date?
Q. I met this girl in College and fell head over heels. We've been trying to go for a date for almost 3 months now but she keeps saying I'm really busy but we will have to find a day. I didn't want to come off desperate so I haven't pushed it very ...
A. 25 March 2008: Hey sweetness,
Yes, I agree with the other Aunts that it's time to give this gal some room to breathe and maybe time to back off for a bit. She doesn't sound terribly interested in a relationship right now, and being more persistent won't really h... (read in full...)
He still wears his ex's gift!
Q. I've been in and out of a relationship with my daughter's dad. He's been wearing this silver necklace for quite sometime but never thought nothing of it. However, I finally asked him today, out of curiousity, where'd he got it from. He got it as ...
A. 24 March 2008: Hello,
My ex-boyfriend gave me a gorgeous ring. It didn't mean much, but it was still gorgeous. I wear it everyday, and not for any other reason than it is so pretty and looks great on my finger. I have asked my boyfriend a thousand times if it bu... (read in full...)
Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 21 March 2008: Hope that things are still going strong... if you have faltered, it's okay! GET BACK ON THAT HORSE!... (read in full...)
How safe is ORAL SEX from AIDS.. HIV...??
Q. How safe is ORAL SEX from AIDS.. HIV... Is it dangerous to have oral sex with women for aids ?...
A. 21 March 2008: Very, very, VERY risky, my friend.
You must really be willing to put your life on the line for this woman, because that's exactly what you'll be doing if you become sexually active with her.
Good luck, sweetness.
xx India... (read in full...)
I think I made myself look real bad here and need some advice...
Q. I think I made myself look real bad here and need some advice... A week ago my friend was at a party and made out with a girl, while he was dating someone else. Well my girlfriend is bestfriends with the girl he's dating, so she asked me if ...
A. 19 March 2008: Well, yes, you did mess up a little. Yes, your girlfriend is probably a little pissed.. however, this situation sounds like something that can easily heal with time.
You were stuck in a very awkward position. You probably felt like you ought to... (read in full...)
My thoughts are keeping me up all night and I can't get to sleep...
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. I've been really sad and feeling depressed lately. And I just let too much stuff get to me. Yes, I speak to my family about how I feel. I see a counseller once a week. But my thoughts are keeping me up at night. I'm having ...
A. 18 March 2008: "Worry Dolls"!!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Worry_doll
Oh my gosh, I haven't thought about them or seen then in forever. What a wonderful idea! My Mother got me a bag of worry dolls when I was eleven and just about to start middle school...... (read in full...)
My thoughts are keeping me up all night and I can't get to sleep...
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. I've been really sad and feeling depressed lately. And I just let too much stuff get to me. Yes, I speak to my family about how I feel. I see a counseller once a week. But my thoughts are keeping me up at night. I'm having ...
A. 18 March 2008: When I go to bed at night, sometimes I over think things too. Especially when I was younger. What I do to help me, is keep a diary. I have a lot of diaries actually, I have one that I keep for events and then my nighttime one is just for my thoughts ... (read in full...)
Do his fantasies hint that he is gay? Or, bisexual?
Q. I've been seeing this guy that I'm really into for almost 2 months now. Things are going great, we have a lot of fun together and we can literally talk the day away with each other. We have hooked up a few times, but have been taking things a ...
A. 18 March 2008: Well, he doesn't sound completely gay to me. Maybe a little bi-curious, but otherwise he just sounds kinky. Let's face it - some of us are into some pretty crazy things... I know that my man is kind of into "man hole" (nice terminology) play, but ... (read in full...)
Am I bi-curious??
Q. Im straight. But id say 99% because i like looking at other peoples breasts, and i like all sorts of porn, even lesbian. When I was younger I went through phases of thinking I liked girls but I was only about 12 then. Grown out of that I dont have ...
A. 17 March 2008: I agree with the other Aunts. I think that our sexualities are in the end, determined by our ACTIONS not our thoughts. Do you have interest in being with another woman? Because hey, girl, I watch a little lesbian porn here and there... and boobs ... (read in full...)
Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 16 March 2008: ONE WEEK!!!!
Killer, dude. So happy for you! Please continue to update us week by week, so we can continue to cheer you on. Also, write to us with any struggles that you find yourself having!!
Good luck and keep going!!!
xx India... (read in full...)
Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 15 March 2008: I feel great because YOU feel great. Congratulations, you are definitely having sweet victory. Sounds like you had a fun night! Keep it up, sweetness!... (read in full...)
I am very "turned on" by my wife with another man, is this crazy?
Q. This is a little embarrassing, but have been wanting to ask someone about this for some time, but have never had the guts to ask any of my friends. My wife and I have a good friend (David). We've been friends with him for about 4 years. The 3 of ...
A. 14 March 2008: You mixed up some names here... "David" went to being "Mark". I'm feeling confused... who the hell is Mark?!?!
Yeah, I don't know about this. ... (read in full...)
How much weight could I lose between now and Easter?
Q. Similar question was asked earlier, but... I'm around 5' 5" and weigh 116. I really would like to lose weight by Easter, because I'm fat. I'm restricting my food again because I lost a lot of weight when I did this last summer and fall. Unfortunat...
A. 14 March 2008: 5'5'' and 116lbs. I'm 5'6... there was a time when I was 116lbs and I looked SLAMMIN'. Now I'm 125 and I'm still feeling pretty foxy. Girl, I know that you're looking good and that tons of girls everywhere are dieting to try and look like YOU!
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What is "dirty sex" and what do you have to do?
Q. My boyfriend suggested on the phone this morning that we should have dirty sex as it's fun, I said why, trying to find answers about what it is, WHAT IS DIRTY SEX AND WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO DO?...
A. 14 March 2008: Uncle Phil, not a bad guess. Because, after all, butt sex is pretty dirty sex.
Your boyfriend could just want to make sex "dirtier" by talking dirty, maybe by you taking control and being dominate. Maybe adding in some toys, getting a little w... (read in full...)
Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 14 March 2008: Still routing you on!! I hate spiders too, oh God. Brave girl.
NO SMOKING HOORAY!!... (read in full...)
Dealing with a wounded ego after I bested my BF
Q. I think my BF is being really pissy over something I didn't think was a big deal. We were talking the other day about sports we no longer take part in but used to enjoy and I mentioned that I used to do judo in college and was pretty good, even ...
A. 13 March 2008: Don't let him win, that's silly. Accept his re-match and do your very best. If he lucks out and beats you, be big about it and be a lot more mature than he's being about it.
Kick his butt, sweetness!
xx India
P.S. Wanna make it real fun? Th... (read in full...)
How long do hand jobs and blow jobs take?
Q. 2 questions how long does a handjob take (on average)? and how long does a blow job take (on average)? (both until the guy comes) I know it differs from guy to guy obviously but Id just like to hear some averages and opinions thanks...
A. 13 March 2008: It depends if I want to make him last a long time or not. Sometimes I tease him for a long time, but sometimes I just go for it. On average, though, my man (25 years old) takes about 10-15 minutes.
I think guys will totally vary, dependin... (read in full...)
Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 13 March 2008: Three days!! Hoorah! If you last for the whole week, you will feel invincible!!... (read in full...)
I would like a man's opinion about whether or not you would dump someone because of braces? Do you think I should have backed down and said I wouldn't get them?
Q. I'm 20 years old and in university right now... I had been seeing this guy for 2.5 years and it was very serious, talking about the possibility of engagement at some point in the next 3-4 years... very serious. I loved him with all my heart and we ...
A. 11 March 2008: Sorry sweetness,
This post pissed me off. Your boyfriend is a CLASS "A" JERK. God, okay, maybe he's being honest with you, maybe braces aren't really his "thing", but that shouldn't even matter. In theory he loves you for YOU, right? Even if you d... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant if we used a condom?
Q. okay about two weeks ago me and my BF had sex with a condom but about 2 1/2 weeks later i started getting these real bad pains in my tummy, after we had sex i was supposed to get my period but i missed it that worried me but is that normal? my BF ...
A. 11 March 2008: You got wonderful advice. If you used a condom correctly, the odds of you being pregnant are super slim, but not impossible. Don't be scared to take a test - no one will see the results but you and your boyfriend. It is better to take a pregnancy ... (read in full...)
Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 11 March 2008: Woo hoo!!! Keep going, keep going!! Well DONE! Tell your partner so that he can be cheering you on as well!
xx India... (read in full...)
Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 11 March 2008: Woo hoo, 20 hours (probably even more by now!). The first few days are the hardest. Also, if you falter in your journey (which you SHOULDN'T, but if you do), don't beat yourself up about it. Just keep going, keep being strong, and KEEP RESISTING!!
... (read in full...)
Any tips to stop the craving to smoke?
Q. Hello Everyone. I know this is not relationship advice I'm seeking, but please be kind, and help me anyway. I've been a smoker for nearly 14 years. Never really smoked much (only about 5-7 cigarettes a day), until about April of 2007. I st...
A. 10 March 2008: Congratulations! Quitting smoking is SO difficult... every time you feel yourself start to slip, just go and hug your daughter and hang out with her. I assume you don't smoke around her, so she may be a great incentive for you to stay on track. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else here agree with me that it was inappropriate for her to slap her brother on the butt?
Q. Like a lot of women, my girlfriend really likes a tight butt on a guy. Whenever I'm naked around her, she always either pats me on my butt or softly slaps my butt. This usually happens when she's behind me. Well, recently she told me that when she...
A. 10 March 2008: Doesn't sound too inappropriate to me. I mean, his wife was right there, it's not like she's seducing her brother and feelin' up on his booty behind closed doors... I think that she's just behaving like a sister with her brother.
I don't think yo... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and PREGANANT!!!
Q. it all happened 1 week ago i was round my bfs freinds house and there were no adults so everyone started having sex and so me and my bf did to but he forgot to use a condom and now im pregnant should i get an abortion or not???...
A. 10 March 2008: Whoa,
Hello, my darling. I am sorry that you find yourself in this position... now you know the consequences of being young and having sex - I'm sorry that you had to find out the most difficult way.
First, go take a pregnancy test. You may ju... (read in full...)
Why did he go to the toilet and why did he stop if he's getting excited?
Q. Hi, I'm 17 an me an my boyfriend of a year haven't slept together yet cos we both don't want me to get pregnant so we are going to wait. I don't know much about boys and erections and stuff so please can you explain: we were kissing on the bed the ...
A. 9 March 2008: He was probably just embarrassed about his erection, and maybe worried that he would ejaculate soon or something. That can be very embarrassing for a guy - so naturally he probably went off to the bathroom to make himself calm down (or finish ... (read in full...)
I noticed an itchy, sore and burning sensation around my vaginal area, should I be concerned?
Q. I was recently married, and after a few weeks of being sexually active for the first time, I've started noticing an itchy/sore/burning sensation around my vaginal area. Is this normal, or should I be concerned?...
A. 8 March 2008: Hey sweetness,
Not normal for your body, unfortunately. Well, it is "normal" - lots of women get this feeling in their vaginal area and go off to the doctors. So you're not alone in your discomfort... but, get yourself to the doctor and see what... (read in full...)
Is discharge normal?
Q. I feel abit pathetic because a sex education lesson in school brought this to my attention. A teacher was talking about symptoms of STIs and one was discharge, Now i haven't had sex so i dont think i have a serious disease but i do have discharge I ...
A. 8 March 2008: Hey sweetness,
Discharge is COMPLETELY normal. That's just your body doing its thang. However, I know this sounds TOTALLY TOTALLY TOTALLY gross, but here it goes... you should get to know your discharge. I'm not saying you need to really examine ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if he cheated. Can a guy feel himself have sex if he is drunk?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been going together for over 3 years, and i recently just found out that he went to a party and got extremely drunk and says he doesn't remember or know if he had sex or not. I was wondering if a guy could feel himself ...
A. 8 March 2008: As DoubleM says, this is totally up to you. If I were you, I definitely wouldn't stay with the bastard until he at least admitted to what he had done... if you say he is truly "sorry", he must be "sorry" for something, so make him fess up!!
Any, ... (read in full...)
How much porn do men watch? Should I be worried?
Q. This question is directed at men, but I'd like anybody's input I can get: I don't think there's anything wrong with porn, I watch a bit of it myself on occasion... but I recently moved in with my boyfriend and I'm realizing that he may be addicted ...
A. 8 March 2008: I would be DEFINITELY worried if my boyfriend was watching hours a day. I don't mind if my boyfriend busts out the porn sometimes - he probably checks out porn for a TOTAL of 2-3 hours a week. That's granting him about 45 minutes for each session of ... (read in full...)
Quiz - who want's sex more often?
Q. This is more like a quiz for you guys ... I spoke to my BF and we kinda disagree on: "WHO WANT'S SEX MORE OFTEN IN A RELATIONSHIP .. GIRLS OR GUYS?" So guys and girls ... hit me w some fun answers :) Lierin ...
A. 7 March 2008: Well, for my particular relationship - my boyfriend is all over me. I think he must have like, a gallon of extra testosterone or something. I, on the other hand, was not blessed with such a libido, so I'm less inclined to jump in the sack at moments ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if he cheated. Can a guy feel himself have sex if he is drunk?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been going together for over 3 years, and i recently just found out that he went to a party and got extremely drunk and says he doesn't remember or know if he had sex or not. I was wondering if a guy could feel himself ...
A. 6 March 2008: Regardless, this excuse sounds lame. If your man just up and said, "well, I was really trashed. I could've had sex, I don't remember." - that is a bunch of bogus crap. If he didn't have sex, he would've said he didn't have sex, not give you some ... (read in full...)
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