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*elladonna
writes:I asked a question about my boyfriend's sex drive, but now I have a question about my own.My boyfriend (We'll call him Matthew) tells me that my sex drive is too high for a girl of my age.I'm eighteen and I find myself in the mood upward of 4-6 times a day. Sometimes more.Is this unhealthy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): To hell with what your boyfriend says. He sounds rather sexist and hypocritical to say such a thing - would he say the same about a guy who wanted/got sex that much? I'm guessing not. Why should you be held to a different standard because you happen to have a vagina instead of a penis?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 July 2008):
 I think that you're feisty and that's great. You enjoy sex - and yes, you may be a little more enthusiastic than average, but not in a bad way and CERTAINLY not in an unhealthy way. I think your man is just having trouble keeping up with you and for that, I think you should cool down just a bit so that he can keep up. Maybe when you're dying for sex and he's still a little burnt out from round #3, you can get a vibrator and masturbate. In front of him, if he still wants to participate!!
Good luck, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Where's the problem? I wish girls near where I live would have that kind of problem ...
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 It's not too high at all. No such thing as too high!
However, it might be too much for your boyfriend to keep up with! In which case it's just a mismatch between sex drives. You could just as easily say your boyfriend's sex drive is too low.
My girlfriend has a similar sex drive. I don't mind while I'm on holiday, and despite my age I can generally keep up, but in a normal working life it's not possible to do it that often. Four to six times a day translates to a lot of hours. There are times when I feel like a rest! Is your desire for 4-6 times a day a short burst, or is it sustained over a long period of time, like months?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Does it become a problem with you leading a "normal" productive life?
It sounds like it might. There are only so many hours in a day and 4-6 times having sex sounds like it might get in the way of all the others things you have to do.
If you mean full on intercourse, then there are also limits to what a single male can provide. If you mean seperate sesssions, then... you don't have a job at the moment? Because geez gods that would have you on your back every free time you got.
But perhaps this is a simple problem, just because you are in the mood for sex doesn't mean you also have to indulge. Sure, you discovered sex it is new and exciting but there is such a thing as restraint.
If you just feel the need that often then no there is no problem, but if you think you need to have sex that often, then yes, there is going to be a problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Ermm I don't really know. It sounds quite high to be honest but at the same time teenagers' hormones are all over the place.
To put it bluntly, yes I think its slightly higher than what he 'should' be. I don't think its unhealthy though, just higher then expected.
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