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writes:i think i might be pregnant and im only 15! i am with the person whos it will be and have been 4 9 months now. tests r 2 expensive and they dont do them 4 free any where now. what am i suspose to do? and do u think my life will be over if i have a baby?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): Hey, im 15 too and im going through the same thing right now...but i really dont think that a baby can ruin your life.When i have my baby im just going to try my best to raise it and give it a really good life...i know it might seem hard to go to school and worry about doctors appts. and what your friends will say but you will get through it and if your friends and family care about you they will take it easy on you because you dont need stress if you are pregnant...but just hang in there and relax.
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reader, troubledinlove  +, writes (24 July 2008):
dont worry sweetie everything should be alright i see where ur comming from im an 18 yearold with no job no car living with parents and my social security got cut off a month ago
my boyfreind is so far in debt there is no hope of him ever getting out before the baby is born and all i have for the baby is 616 dollers and 61 cents that i may have to use for a car but sweetie wut this huge bite of reality has taught me is that stuff happens and if u r pregnant ur maternal instincts will kick in soon enough and u will find a way i am if u have been with ur boyfreind as long as u say u have he truly does love you and he will be there for you
and if all else fails its very wrong but there is always adoption or even abortion but i personally wouldnt go that way
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): Thanks Grant for frightening this young girl with your ignorance and bullshit. But luckily for her, she lives in the UK and will be treated kindly by our doctors and nurses who have more education, intelligence and medical knowledge than you'll ever possess. You gave some scary advice, but she dosen't need it, go and find somebody else to frighten and scare out of their mind.
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reader, the ex wife +, writes (24 July 2008):
 Hello there. I agree with the last post. I also know that if you ask your local planned parenthood clinic, a lot of them offer free pregnancy tests and if not, they can suggest one that does. While you are there, you can get a pap for birth control and they put you on a payment plan. When I was in High School my pills were $6 a month. They also give out free condoms. Good luck darlin'. Give them a call and as previous reply, it's confidential and mom & dad don't need to know.
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reader, hislilgoobear +, writes (24 July 2008):
 you can go to planned parenthood which is a free organization..they can tell you if you are pregnant and they are legally unable to notify your parents without your consent.. I go to planned parenthood for birth control and every time they ask if they can call to remind me of my appointments..they ask me if they can say that it is planned parenthood. However, I am not saying that if you are pregnant that you shouldn't tell your parents I'm just telling you a way to find out without the added nerves.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 it never fails to shock me how many girls your age come on this site with this problem - when will you learn to be more careful and not be so silly? your already too young to be having sex and this just proves it!!
you can go to your local NHS clinic or family planning clinic and get a test or morning after pill for free.
but please god let this be a lesson to you and to the others out there not to be so silly and use protection!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): hey.
god theres so many people in this situation nowadays!
you may be pregnant and yes a baby at such a young age will ruin your life, you wont be able to enjoy the things which your friends can and you wont be able to spend money on your self, or spend any time on your own, which you should be doing at your age. i had a baby at the age of 14, due to other circumstances, i was raped and ive been abused since he was born because im a young mum, its not nice been judged like that. but there are some good people who care for you.
all you need to do is pop to your nearest family plannin clinic and they will give you a free pregnancy test, either that or go to your doctors, they will do it free of charge for you! failing thar, get ya arse to the pound shop haha they all sell them :P but pregnancy tests arent that much hunny dont worry.
also while your at the clinic gettin your pregnancy test, maybe think about contreception? this could be a lucy escape and you may not be pregnant (fingers crossed) but you should deffinatley take more responsibility next time.
good luck with everything, ive been in this situation through no fault of my own, its not easy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): What do you mean they don't do them free. The NHS has spent a lot of money and time providing free contraception and advice for teenagers. Who the hell have you been talking to. Make an appointment with the clinic as soon as you can, I'm talking like yesterday. They provide confidential advice and will help you out.
The NHS in the UK run a 24/7 telephone advice service. http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/index.aspx. You can contact them on 0845 4647 if you need emergency advice on contraception and pregnancy. Don't be afraid, call them, they are there to help. They have special services for teenagers in the UK and are able to provide advice and support.
Make sure you use a condom next time, they are the only things that will keep you safe from pregnancy and disease if you choose to have underage sex.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (24 July 2008):
 Hi sweet,
First off, tests are not too expensive. You can usually find them for 10-20 dollars at the drug store. Also, there are many women's health centers and pregnancy planning centers that WILL give you tests for free. You will have to look up in the phone book where they are. Please take the test first and put your mind at ease - you may or may not be pregnant,
Secondly, your life will not be over. It may be difficult, and you are faced with a major obstacle right now, but life has a way of sorting itself out, and I assure you that you'll be fine. You need to talk to your parents, or any adult that you feel good talking to. Also, tell your boyfriend - hopefully he can be supportive and help you buy the pregnancy tests and be moral support for you when you tell your parents.
Lastly, you need to start getting smarter about the sex that you're having. I'm not saying that you're stupid, I'm just saying that you really need to protect yourself properly and not leave any room for these mistakes to happen! If you are responsible enough to have sex, you MUST be responsible enough to own up to the mistakes that you make. So, before you start having sex again, you need to find birth control and condoms and be safe about it!
Buy the test, tell your parents, get hooked up with the tools for safe sex in the future.
xx India
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 July 2008):
They do free tests at the family planning clinic and your GP can test you as well.
Your life will not be over but you will be pretty screwed for the next 20 years. Being a mum is a full time responsibility.
Go and talk to the family planning people.
Put family planning and your town into google and go down. Most of the time you don't even need an appointment.
Good Luck!! xx
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