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writes:Guys, would it bother you a lot if this happened to you? My wife and I were watching tv last night where a woman was asked a question, if George Clooney asked her to have sex with her and there was no way she could get caught would she cheat on her husband? The woman answered yes and my wife told me that she would cheat on me with George Clooney and she was serious. No matter how slight the possiblity this bothers me because I thought we had something special and sex is the most intimate thing two people can do together. How can I trust her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): I'm not asking this to be rhetorical, I'm serious: Would you be willing to cheat with the right ideal female celeb under similar circumstances?
If you would cheat also, then it's time to smile & get over it. She's human just like you. (And she's that honest about it with you, which you should be pleased about even if the topic bothers you.)
If you can honestly say that you never would cheat with a female celeb under similar circumstances, then I think you have every reason to be bothered by her answer. This has revealed two different degrees of faithfulness. None of this is worthy of calling lawyers over, but hurt feelings might be very justified.
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reader, hayhay123 +, writes (14 July 2008):
You're taking this way to seriously. She was testing your boundaries. Next time you're sitting in front of the television together and the new Jessica Alba movie is on, make sure to tell her how if you had the chance you would totally cheat on her with Ms. Alba. See how it makes her feel. It sounds immature but in my experience this has worked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Can you trust her? Should you not be trusted because you, say, fantasize over porn? And you do fantasize over porn, I'm sure, as you are male. Well, get your head out your arse - it's no different.
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reader, jess18maine +, writes (14 July 2008):
 GREAT anwser TasteofIndia, Celebs are just that, for looking at and fantsing over.
I think that this husband is being alittle over dramatic and that he as well must have a celeb that he would consider sleeping with, but it's just that something to consider.
If George came up to me and asked for a quickie, I'd consider it but then remember that my loyalties lie at home with my hunnie!
Also its a fansty come on like Good Ole George is coming about me or this mans wife!
Come on buddy just let this one slide, your being to hard on your wife. You can't not trust her because of this harmless comment she made. Your being slightly controlling, over bearing, and are you jealous?
Let it go.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Mmmm, George Clooney.
Yeah, Johnny Depp, John Stamos, Antonio Banderas, Danny Masterson, Orlando Bloom... um, yes, my boyfriend is totally aware of the fact that when they finally come to their senses, knock on my door and ask me to sleep with them, I will be jumping into the sack with them.
And, of course, when J.Lo, Eva Mendes, Jessica Alba, Lucy Lu, or Brooke Burke come along, I encourage my man to do it with them ALL. Because then I can tell everyone, "yes, my boyfriend did it with J.Lo and yet he is still with ME!"...
We all have our fantasies, my sweet. And anyway, what the hell are the chances that George Clooney is going to be chasing after your wife?
LIGHTEN UP. Celebs are for looking at. I'm sure there are a handful of hotties that you wouldn't mind sticking it too either.
xx India
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 What is the deal with George Clooney girls???? Not my cup of tea at all!
Dear Poster your missus has as much chance of sleeping with George Clooney as I have sleeping with Johnny Depp. In other words ZILCH CHANCE!!! (Oh well a girl can dream I suppose) ;D.
Me and my fella have a list of famous people we would like to sleep with. Him.... Jennifer Aniston, Jada Pinkett Smith, Alicia Keys and Shakira. Me.... Johnny Depp, Colin Farrell, Matthew Perry and Joseph Fiennes (Ralph's little bruv) YUM YUM!!!!
So please stop worrying it is just pure fantasy my dear xx.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 By the way, the girl who had a thing with Jean-Claude van Damme had real things with other guys. She was indeed testing the waters.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (14 July 2008):
Diovan, you're going off-topic again, by making me the target of this post. All right, I can take it.
I will remember this post the next time someone comes up with the question of why her husband/fiancé/whatever looks at porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Not mocking dear caller, it's just your question started us all on fantasy. This is all it is fantasy, and she made a mistake when she was honest and got you so upset. Please forgive her and all us crazy women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Sorry Daniel, but this woman has been very truethfull, so we women must be too. I would like to sleep with George Clooney as well, has anybody got his address. Wanting to run away with George Clooney is a universal problem that most women face. The problem is he's rich and famous and he hides away from all us mad girls. He needed police protection when he visited London last year.
Sorry dear caller, you need to trust her, because there is no other woman that would turn him away. Your woman is truthfull and she loves you, if you leave her you'll just have the same problem again.
PS: Jean Claude Van Damme, Johhny Depp, Laurance Fishburn, Paul Newman (true love forever), Rutger Hauer, Jude Law,... mmm.. Good thing I'm single so my man won't get upset... mmmmm
PPS: Cupidguy George Clooney is not gay, he's just a little bit fussy and picky and he has so much choice.
PPPS: How could you forget Paul Newman, AskOlderSis, I know he's old, bald, nearly dead and happily married, but I think I still have a chance if he ever looks my way.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Daniel, thanks for bringing me back to my senses. You of course are correct that we have gotten off the topic of the question. Poster, honestly, I was not mocking you, I was off in a little daydream.
Ask older sister, Uncle Phil, Eyeswideopen's husband, and Daniel, let us take our fantasies off this question.
Poster, you're right that sex is something special and intimate between two people. And that should not be mocked, I really apologize for going off topic.
I also think that there are fantasies that exist in everyone's mind, and they don't deserve or need policing by anyone; the fantasies are what they are, and I don't think that they diminish the marital bond in any way.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (14 July 2008):
You know girls, you're not helping the man. Just mocking him.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 July 2008):
Oldersister, thanks for reminding me of Tom Beringer, Gabriel Byrne, and Ralph Fiennes! Justin, Barry, not so much for me, but I can see their appeal. Also Patrick Stewart (Captain Jean-Luc Picard)... oh and Pierce Brosnan and Harrison Ford. Not to mention Sean Connery.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 July 2008):
Orlando Bloom, Jude Law, Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt (up until he left Jen), early Robert Redford, Paul Newman at any age, Viggo Mortenson, Heath Ledger :'(, John Travolta, the star of 'The Man from Snowy River' as he looked in the film (Tom Burlinson), Sting....
Sadly, none of them live in my neighborhood.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 July 2008):
 My husband used to think Angelina was very hot but he's decided to cut her out of his life because of how she treated Jen and also because she gets pregant too easily ;
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (14 July 2008):
Good point, Tisha-1. Why worry about the unattainable?
That said, good ol' Macchiavelli needs to give some help here. What if this is a testing of waters?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Has it happened to me? Oh yes. Starting with Cliff Richard, followed by Barry Manilow (why??), George Clooney and Michael Buble, but Jamie Cullum isn't tall enough by all accounts.
Don't worry about it, it's only fantasy. Personally, if I had the chance I'd only be unfaithful twice - with Girls Aloud and Atomic Kitten.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 July 2008):
Eva Longoria and my husband in the same situation, without me ever knowing about it? Well, he might say yes too. But honestly, I really doubt that will happen, and I'm not going to lose one second of good sleep worrying about something that will not be an issue.
Now if I were looking for something to be angry about with him, maybe I would make it an issue. But really, what's the point? I trust him, and he trusts me. Why worry about George Clooney or Eva Longoria when there are local people who are also very attractive and actually available? Now THOSE are the people to worry about. And I don't. Do you? If so, why?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (14 July 2008):
A girlfriend I had once used to say she had "a thing" with Jean-Claude van Damme. She used to praise his "manly virtues" in a very, er, descriptive way.
Now, I'm not match for Jean-Claude in the physical department. Working out would do no good. I don't have his looks, I don't speak French like he does (I speak better English :-) ), and perhaps he's even smarter than many of us, because we don't get paid for working out and doing unbelievable things in camera, such as cutting a rattlesnake's rattle with his teeth (in one bite, mind you). Yeah, REAL rattlesnakes would give him the chance.
So, I had the big "Loser" painted in my face.
I think she would have actually slept with Jean Claude if she had had the chance. So what I did was take it easily, gave her a poster of the man, and said I would also sleep with someone (Nicole Kidman was not that famous at the time) if I had the chance, too.
I guess this is what you have to do. Get yourself some "Baywatch", or any movie with the bigger-boobed blond you can find (Erika Eleniak would do) and say you would also sleep with that girl if you had the chance. She might take it easily and play with you, but she will get the message that any of us can sleep around, and staying faithful despite that fact is one of the ways we can contribute to prevent people from cheating on us.
I think she wanted to play a joke on you, make you jealous, whatever, so I wouldn't take it that seriously. But, send her the message that, if she wants to play hardball, there are nicer players around.
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reader, weary-zone  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 well it would really bother me that ouch but you do it back to her so she feels what she did because every two peeps together they must care about their partner feelings so you do the same tell her if i got the chance to have sex with beyonce for example without getting caught i would do it shes hot . but you must have this serious tone ok do that when you two are watching T.V and she is listening .. you play it right and she will realize what she said =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Hey!
Seriously dont worry about this, everyone has fantasy crushes, like on movie stars...!! Its just harmless fun, and anyways, if your wife ACTUALLY was offered sex on a plate with George Clooney, she might not even take it cuz then it would be real not a silly girlie crush!!
Honestly mate, dont worry about this at all!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 July 2008):
Come on guy, what's not to trust? True, if she knew you'd take it so seriously, she should have kept her trap shut but really...don't you think you are over reacting just a tad?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Seriously brother, you need to get out more.
George Clooney!!, what girl wouldnt?
good grief.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): every single woman in the world would cheat on their partner with george clooney. its a given, the man is a god, and he is a complete fantasy. relax and stop being so uptight! everyone has their list of celebs they'd like to sleep with.
and if you try to tell me that you wouldnt sleep with a celeb that you find beautiful then come one!!
anyway, its not like george clooney is going to come a knockin for your wife? its fantasy relax.
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