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Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?
Q. My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...
A. 4 December 2013: You may feel that her admittance was the worst thing that happened in your life, but it could turn out to be a blessing in disguise, depending on how you look at it. She did not tell you the truth to torment you, she did it because she could not be ... (read in full...)
Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?
Q. My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...
A. 3 December 2013: I too, can't put prostituting in the "past is past" category. It takes a certain character to do it in spite of social stigma. Being a good wife and good mother did nothing to erase that form. No one just became a prostitute without knowing why, or ... (read in full...)
Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?
Q. My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...
A. 2 December 2013: I also thought the story was odd. Four to six weeks, four to sex men, then they made her use a diaphragm and there was only one owner or one pimp and she was the only one working. The agency only had one girl? She's cooking up some story and see how ... (read in full...)
Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?
Q. My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...
A. 30 November 2013: People tell the truth before marriage so you can decide whether to marry them. She told you 21 years later and if she's stupid enough to think that her honesty now would yield her your forgiveness I would have to guess she told you this now because ... (read in full...)
Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?
Q. My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...
A. 30 November 2013: Some young women become escorts because they want to afford a luxury lifestyle quick. When they are too old for that they get married. It's very rarely because they love sex enough to make money out of it. Right now the reason is probably "being ... (read in full...)
I feel like there's something unspoken going on between us
Q. I'm looking for some advice on what's going on between my boyfriend and I at the moment. We have been together for 4 years and a couple of weeks ago we almost split up. We both ended up crying though and decided to start making more effort to make ...
A. 30 November 2013: I am guessing his business has something to do with tutoring and lessons, or something to do with kids. When every one else is enjoying family quality time, he's working and when he's not working you wonder what he's doing. He doesn't work every ... (read in full...)
Our marriage seems to work OK on the phone but not in person
Q. I need an advise about my marriage sittuation. Since 3 years ago my mother got very sick and I had to visit her every year for a long period of time.My husband is from a wealthy family and he kind of told me to stop everything and stay with my mom.I ...
A. 30 November 2013: He's probably a person who grieves alone and thinks that everybody grieves the same way. You also assume that he knows what you want. He's showing love to you by giving you space and handling the household by himself. He really is confused here and ... (read in full...)
I want to break up but how? Or am I overreacting?
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years. Typical love story, we met while travelling to our home town at a friend's place, we met we hit it off instantly, we promised to keep in touch, we emailed, we sent text messages, spent ...
A. 25 November 2013: You are not overreacting and you should cut him loose. The relationship reached its climax once you talked about the future. There is no more sweetness to add to the top so it has to go downhill. The controlling is just to keep you in your place so ... (read in full...)
What do you do when the girl you love, loves someone else?
Q. I am single,the old adage is I have really fancied this girl at work for so long, over a year in fact.We always have such a laugh, talk for ages we have so much in common it just feels right talking to her. I never did anything because she had a ...
A. 25 November 2013: I would stay out of it. Here you have two people who had experienced the staleness of long term relationship and just want to focus on passion and not think about the future. It sounds like you are losing already. To say anything to her is to show ... (read in full...)
Is she telling me have a hope of saving our marriage or is she just not going to bother whatever I try?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 9 years (6 years married) with my wife. We have five children in which the eldest was from another relationship before ours. We used to live in a three bedroom house which got too small for us to live in, so managed ...
A. 24 November 2013: There are two sides of the story and I am sure you have more to tell but don't want to bore us. From your post I couldn't tell what you did wrong. It sounds like you tried your best but there was a communication breakdown. She saw the end before you ... (read in full...)
Ex doesn't want to take me to court, but still wants contact - after everything he's done!
Q. Hi guys. Posted about this on here before. Brief reminder: My ex had our son one day a week, left him in wet clothes, we had a row, then he turned round and said he didn't want to see our son anymore. Afew months ago his latest girlfriend ...
A. 24 November 2013: You always have to prepare an extra pair of outfit when you leave your son in someone's care. If the father didn't have the money to go outside and buy more clothing, or he's too preoccupied spending time with his girlfriend, it means he's not fit ... (read in full...)
Should I marry a girl I love and have had a five year on off relationship with but has cheated and lied to me in the past, but has now said she has changed, or should I stay with my new girlfriend of five months who I have a steady relationship with
Q. Hi guys, Anthony here, I am looking for some advice please as I ‘ve go myself into something of a dilemma! Should I marry a girl I love and have had a five year on off relationship with but has cheated and lied to me in the past, but has now said...
A. 24 November 2013: Okay you didn't ask out girl two while you engaged. It was a during time off. Anyway girl one wanted you back because you are now dating and she doesn't want you gone forever. Remember you said you would be jealous if someone else had her? She is ... (read in full...)
Should I marry a girl I love and have had a five year on off relationship with but has cheated and lied to me in the past, but has now said she has changed, or should I stay with my new girlfriend of five months who I have a steady relationship with
Q. Hi guys, Anthony here, I am looking for some advice please as I ‘ve go myself into something of a dilemma! Should I marry a girl I love and have had a five year on off relationship with but has cheated and lied to me in the past, but has now said...
A. 24 November 2013: This is an easy one. Don't get married to girl one and concentrate just on yourself. You are not being fair to girl two because you are doing what girl one had been doing 5 years ago. I don't know how you can get engaged to girl one while starting ... (read in full...)
So what's going on? Has she lost interest?
Q. I met this girl on a dating site. Well, a woman. She is 38. I am 39. We went out for drinks a week ago and ended up kissing. Before the date we'd been emailing every day, and after the date (Friday) I wasn't sure how long to wait, but I sent her a ...
A. 24 November 2013: Not many women can bring themselves to say, "No, I won't see you again," so they let you down gently by disappearing online. She could be dating a pool of guys then to decide who she wants. She might come back to you. When you don't sense enough ... (read in full...)
Gf and I broke up a year ago, been single ever since. Am I getting too desperate for attention?
Q. Hi guys basically split up with my girlfriend over a year ago after 4 years together I was devastated and still am not healed, I have slept with 4 girls since then and tried to turn them into relationships but the spark was never there so it turned ...
A. 24 November 2013: I meant people are in supposedly good relationships and they still flirt with others.... (read in full...)
Do you think he might be a player?
Q. Hi folks, I go to this club to sing and I have a lot of friends there and enjoy spending time with them. There are a few guys and women I talk to, all different ages and one girl there is my friend and she is much younger and has a new bo...
A. 24 November 2013: He thought when you stood in front of him you were trying to get a good glance of him because you fancied him. Musicians are very flattered that you pay attention to them, because most of the time people treat them as background music. Maybe he ... (read in full...)
I care about him, but not the way he wants. What are my options?
Q. Hi everyone, There is this guy I've been talking to and we have just been texting back and forth but we have never actually met. He has been coming on strong telling me that he is in love with me and that he wants me in his life. He wants to meet me ...
A. 24 November 2013: Many scams are done through money pak, just like western union. This guy is charming women online to achieve his aim, whatever that is. Who cares about love? He only wants your name, number and address. He could be socially awkward, abusive or ... (read in full...)
Gf and I broke up a year ago, been single ever since. Am I getting too desperate for attention?
Q. Hi guys basically split up with my girlfriend over a year ago after 4 years together I was devastated and still am not healed, I have slept with 4 girls since then and tried to turn them into relationships but the spark was never there so it turned ...
A. 24 November 2013: You are desperate for attention and that shouldn't be a reason you want a girlfriend. People are in supposedly good attention and they still flirt with others for attention. What you should do is prepare yourself for another relationship. What that ... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable for other girls to seek comfort from my boyfriend?
Q. Is it appropriate for other girls to come to my boyfriend for comfort and advice? My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Early on in the relationship, he told me he didn't have many female friends and didn't have much contact with girls ...
A. 24 November 2013: Tell your boyfriend to go on dearcupid then, just kidding. This site gives practical honest, unbiased advice, not flattering words to make people feel good. When people do things in the name of friendship lines are crossed, but really subtle ones ... (read in full...)
I just want a girlfriend but all I get are mixed messages
Q. This happens to me a lot and I'm getting sick of it. What can I do to stop this from happening? It doesn't seem to happen to any of my guy friends. My guy friends just give me s**t and tell me I'm never going to get laid. When I try to approach ...
A. 23 November 2013: The only thing I could think of is that you didn't bring a condom and the girls were not on birth control. If you had, then my answer would be different and I had to think about something else. Initially I thought about dick size. I would never ... (read in full...)
He pushed me away but now he's behaving like the scorned lover
Q. Hi So I posted a few weeks ago about breaking up with my boyfriend. He was acting distant, not making much effort then decided to ignore me when i tried to talk to him about it so i ended it. Unfortunately we have to work together and he is ...
A. 23 November 2013: He is acting like a scorned girl because he couldn't have the relationship his way, which is less intense than your version. I think any woman's version would be a dedicated daily relationship with no freedom to distance away, or making effort even ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is smothering me, while I support him! How can we get back the relationship we used to have?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my partner for little over a year. Prior to our relationship we were very close friends for 5 years. Due to us being friends for so long, we knew each other incredibly well. My partner had a big circle of friends and ...
A. 23 November 2013: You keep seeing your friends. Refuse to argue and say there is nothing to argue about because when you argue you make it a bigger deal when really it's nothing. It's not like you are a party person, wanting to flirt with every single guy. Sometimes ... (read in full...)
Is he not interested in me? How can I get him to step up his game?
Q. I'm interested in this guy but I don't think he is as interested in me. My gut instincts and his actions (to me) suggest that he doesn't reciprocate my enthusiasm. Back story: I'm in university and he used to go to my university two years ago bu...
A. 23 November 2013: I wonder what he else he is doing at your campus. Travelling once a week with a 4 hour commute each time is a big deal just to visit a friend he has no romantic interest with. Although some men would travel a great deal just to see women trying hard ... (read in full...)
Trying to save my marriage. Husband calls me names for having had sexual partners before we met. Help!
Q. I have been married to my husband for 7 years and we have been together for 14. We have 4 children together. Recently, he has told me that he wants to leave me because I had sex with multiple people (a total of 6, including 2 one night stands) ...
A. 22 November 2013: It's possible that he has shady things to hide. What I think is more probable is that he has had this issue all along and suppressing it.
Looking at the timeline, he's never had any single life. Let's say you are the oldest 35. You met him when... (read in full...)
How do I approach the topic of sex without hurting his feelings/pride?
Q. Am I putting too much pressure on us both? Dear Cupid, After a long distressing relationship and a painful break up with a dead-beat guy about half a year ago now, I finally met someone wonderful who I adore. He's kind, funny and so sweet. He ...
A. 22 November 2013: I don't think he likes sex and that's why he could channel this unused energy into being the almost perfect guy you want, such as being kind and thoughtful. I don't think it has anything to do with your attractiveness. No one is perfect and you have ... (read in full...)
Its great that he's a good dad, but I want to feel important too!!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has a 2 year old daughter. I have changed myself to accept this situation and moved past it. But now, when he invites me to hang out with them, i usually don't bc i don't like how it makes me feel around them. And i don't ...
A. 22 November 2013: I think you would feel better if you can be more involved with their activities. It also depends on whether your boyfriend wants another mother figure to his daughter. It is very important that you both agree on this. For me, I can't just be ... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 21 November 2013: You are entitled to your feelings and your opinion of women. I am just curious what happened a year or so ago that prompted the conversation, whether she had been in love with other men or just you? Had other men kept contact with her?
If I am in l... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 20 November 2013: She doesn't feel like digging up the past is connecting with you on a soulful level, but more like an interrogation. You need to find something else that you can both share and enjoy.
Don't try to analyze a woman. Sometimes they don't make sens... (read in full...)
Why is wife hiding her past from me, and has lied about it
Q. why is my wife hiding her past from me? she tells me its my problem, and not hers. she has lied to me over the years about it. we have been married for several years now 31 , while dating she said she was in love with her first, but a ye...
A. 19 November 2013: When you were dating then how could she be in love with another guy? You were a rebound or something? Did the real meaning of the story get lost in translation? Or did you suspect that she married you because you gave her stability, but she never ... (read in full...)
He deceived and cheated. I have regrets. Do you have any tips on how I can forgive myself?
Q. About 6 months ago, I discovered a man I was seeing was not all he said he was. He was cheating on me with multiple women and deceived me on a level I never imagined possible. He broke my spirit and my heart. I had never felt so low. With lots...
A. 18 November 2013: I have a feeling that you are someone who will ignore your own needs to satisfy others. You are generally likable by family and friends but you are vulnerable to be taken advantage of by selfish men. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your ... (read in full...)
I feel as though I am putting in way more time, love and energy into our relationship
Q. Dear Agony aunts, This is very complicated but here goes. For a little over a year I have been in a long distance relationship. I go to college in one state, and he lives and works in another. When I met him, he was in the process of separ...
A. 15 November 2013: He was trying to open up to you by saying he misses sex. The way he did it was not flattering to you. Instead of saying he misses you, he is referring to that woman making advances at him. It's like the other woman made him miss sex, and not you. I ... (read in full...)
He suggested I share the cost of having his vasectomy reversed
Q. Is it wrong of me to feel like he shouldn't expect me to chip in for the cost of his vasectomy reversal? Things have been getting serious with my boyfriend, we've talked about marriage/kids/etc. He had a vasectomy about 8 years ago. I've read t...
A. 13 November 2013: I won't bother. I would just adopt a child with him. I could think of too many advantages such as dodging the painful surgery, saving money, and keeping your figure and skin nice. Not to mention you never have to worry about birth control later. You ... (read in full...)
I'm a student nurse with not a lot of money and he has a good job so why is it up to me to pay for the hotel room?
Q. I am a student nurse so not on alot of money and my boyfriend works in IT up in the city, has a good job,we have been together a few months but we decided to spend some privacy time together in a hotel room,so he wants me to book it up,arrange the ...
A. 12 November 2013: Is there reason why you can't go to his place? Or does he have roommates? I would suggest that you split 50/50 and if he can't do that then just forget about the idea, either take it slow or rethink the relationship. ... (read in full...)
We are rarely intimate anymore but he keeps watching porn! I don't know what to do!
Q. My boyfriend has been watching an excessive amount of porn, at least 5 times a week.. i have personally caught him with his hands in his pants online early in the morning, normally i sleep in but its been becoming a bigger and bigger problem. we are ...
A. 12 November 2013: He is under a lot of stress and porn is a way to distress and he sees you as a source of stress because he has to work hard to please you while the computer does the work for him. When there is a problem with sex the woman automatically thinks she ... (read in full...)
After breaking up I realized I was overthinking
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend on friday because i thought i couldnt trust her and i was fed up of feeling confused etc. Throught the week about things between us. However after reflecting after a few days i spoke to her on saturday about i...
A. 11 November 2013: If you had good reasons to doubt her then maybe she realizes her part in your trust issues. Some examples would be good. Was she a party person or was she still in love wih her ex? If it's just because you are a paranoid person then making up is ... (read in full...)
There was obvious attraction -- is she letting me down gently?
Q. Quick question How long would you generally leave it before talking to a girl before asking to meet up kind of thing? I was out with a couple of buddies friday night, and one of these guys had his gf out. They don't really speak much on a nig...
A. 11 November 2013: I think the same as TasteofIndia but didn't bother to answer at first because clubs are not really the places to look for a girlfriend. You weren't sure if you are looking for a hook up or a girlfriend, so that's a problem right there. Girls can ... (read in full...)
Caught him looking at porn after he said he would never do it again!
Q. Caught my husband months ago lurking into porn videos. Said would never do again. Swore promised. Said was stupidness curiosity and wrong but did it. Doesn't mean anything just says computer wass there one click lead into many videos. I believed ...
A. 11 November 2013: When ultimatums don't work, I think the bottom line is that it is better to live with a providing loving husband with one pet peeve, rather than the dangerous unknown and a broken family.
From your post I see that you have a lot of power in the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is out of town... messages me...then does not read my reply or answer back!
Q. Hi all. I am a bit upset. Not sure if I should be or not. Hope you can give me your opinions. My boyfriend is in the U.S helping his dad get back on his feet following a surgery. He messaged me on Facebook the day after he arrived and he t...
A. 11 November 2013: If there were no trust issues before in the relationship, then this is not something I would lose sleep over. Is it possible that he was chatting with a family member to update on his dad's condition? And then it was too late so he just went to bed ... (read in full...)
Haven't been feeling the need to be in a relationship -- is it because of ageing?
Q. Dear Cupid, It's been a while since I fell in love or had that feeling of desire to be with someone. I think it's probably I am in a new enviorement as I moved to a new country. but I miss that feeling of love, attraction, chemistry, and a...
A. 11 November 2013: You get practical and you learn that love is so much more than hormones and impulses. Most people try to make mind adjustments but others demand that love happen to them even when they are not at the right place. I think being flexible is what makes ... (read in full...)
I can't manage to have sex for 2 hours, should I dump him?
Q. I do like having sex with my boyfriend bt i am facing the problem, he is sex rider n make me be on the mood with no doupts. My problem is he takes 2hours 2 make one round bt only if he use condom, when we sex without condom he takes 20-30 min then i ...
A. 11 November 2013: Uhm. . In your country many people would tell you to wear a condom no matter what, no excuse. Although I don't like condoms myself and had used birth control pills (I don't like it either). What an inconvenience sex can be. What I would suggest is ... (read in full...)
He has become so self-centered that I'm crying every night!
Q. My current situation is that I live with my boyfriend and my son from my previous relationship. He is great with my son and we get along really well the only thing that is bothering me is that he seems to think time with my son and me is our time ...
A. 11 November 2013: The title makes me very concerned but after reading this I don't think it's that troubled. I think you have a good relationship and your boyfriend is committed. While I understand you can't change your feelings maybe if you see that others have it ... (read in full...)
He forgot my birthday! Is this normal for a boyfriend to do this?
Q. Boyfriend of 4 years forgot to wish me happy birthday despite having texting the whole time. I was giving him the benefit of doubt and waited. When I confronted, he said he's busy rushing some work. I know what all of you would say but really, ...
A. 10 November 2013: He was rushing some work, as in a career or is it academic? If he is working I don't see how he can't spare money for just a card and a cake maybe? No money? For 4 years how did he eat? Did he plant in his garden and raise chickens? Where did his ... (read in full...)
Is 6 guys alot for a girl to sleep with?
Q. I need some advise, please be honest and tell me what you think and what you would do in this situation. I recently found out my fiancé of almost 6 years had been with 6 guys before me( she was my first- she's 3 years older than me I was 22 when we ...
A. 10 November 2013: She's 31 and lost her virginity at 18. 6 partners in the span of 13 years. That averages out to 1 partner per two years. That can hardly be described as using sex to numb herself. 1 in 4 women get sexually assaulted in her life time. You probably ... (read in full...)
Please help me figure it out because I don't understand his behavior!
Q. My husband flirts with EVERY pretty woman. Even on our honey moon he did invite woman to go out,and he would ask me to go with him too. He is a nice,charming,and smooth voice type.Was handsome but now his is getting fat belly,bald,but still smooth o...
A. 10 November 2013: You knew him from day one and you chose to continue in this marriage. I don't know of anyone who would take girls out on their honeymoon. I think when he said you are the best one of them, it's not really a compliment at all because he implied that ... (read in full...)
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